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• Method 1 of 3: Dealing with mugs
• Method 2 of 3: Finding long-term solutions
• Method 3 of 3: Analyze your partner's mug behavior

If your partner sulks a lot, it may be time to evaluate your relationship. Whether the urge to sulk comes from immaturity or a urge for control, sulking is a form of manipulation. If you give in to it, the problem will continue or even get worse. To deal with the problem, you need to assess your partner's behavior, make sure you don't give in to the behavior, and continue with your daily routine. Encourage your partner to communicate freely, consider if his or her behavior is your fault, and consider going to relationship counseling or breaking up if you don't see changes.

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Method 1 of 3: Dealing with mugs

1. Don't give in to sulking. This can be difficult, but do your best to get on with your day as usual. Don't spend all your time trying to get your partner to talk, or trying to make your partner happy when he or she starts sulking. Show your partner that the behavior is not eliciting the extra attention he or she wants, and then he or she will hopefully stop sulking, or do less in the future.
   • Just smile at them, be polite, and stick to your normal routine instead of giving in.
   • Don't support your partner's behavior. Making your partner sulk will only hurt you both in the relationship.
2. If the problem continues, address the situation. If your partner continues to sulk, raise the issue and be direct with him or her without giving the desired response. Asking him or her repeatedly what is going on will only reinforce his or her behavior. Make sure you acknowledge the sulking, but then you don't give in to it.
   • Instead of asking what's wrong, say something like, "I know you're upset. I'm not sure why, but I'm willing to talk about it when you're ready. "
3. Take some space. If your partner is hanging out in complete silence, waiting for you to ask what's wrong or pay attention to him or her, remove yourself from the situation. Go to another room and read or take a walk and get some fresh air.
4. Don't let your partner's behavior affect you too much. Your own mood can also be made worse when you are around someone who sulks. Do your best to keep your mood up and not let his or her behavior influence you too much. If the negativity is really starting to affect you, try to disconnect emotionally from the situation so that you are simply observing.
   • As you observe and disconnect yourself emotionally from yourself, "It is unfortunate that my partner is so unhappy. I hope we can work on this in the future when he / she is ready. "
   • Remind yourself that sulking is your partner's problem, not yours.
   • Tell yourself that you don't have to stick around this behavior, whether that means going away for a while or breaking it up for good. You don't have to stay with your partner forever.
   • Don't be afraid to impose your boundaries in the relationship. Don't let the other person's behavior manipulate or pressure you to admit.

Method 2 of 3: Finding long-term solutions

1. Remember that your partner needs to learn how to comfort themselves. That is his or her job, not yours. Being in a relationship with someone who sulks can also damage your self-confidence and well-being over time, which may leave you wondering if it's your fault. It's not your fault - your partner is responsible for resolving his or her own behavior, not you.
   • Your partner must, in essence, learn how to comfort and "educate" herself before he or she can be part of a healthy relationship.
2. In the future, encourage your partner to express why he or she is upset. It can be difficult not to sulk or react with anger on your own, but work to stay open to communication. Tell your partner that it's perfectly fine if he or she comes right up to talk about it - and that there's a much higher chance that you will respond in a loving way if he or she talks about it instead of sulking.
   • If your partner does eventually manage to sit down to talk about the problem, encourage him or her to tell you why he or she reacted this way and how he or she felt.
   • For example, your partner may say, `` You were half an hour late for dinner, which made me feel like you didn't care about me, '' or, `` I saw you laughing and talking to another man, which made me feel like you thought you liked him more than me. I was jealous. "
   • This may feel unnatural at first as it is a very fragile and direct way of communication. However, when your partner starts talking to you in this way, you will be able to deal with the problem much more easily.
3. Think about relationship counseling. If your partner is still struggling with this or is becoming increasingly dominant, consider seeking professional help, such as relationship counseling. Going through the therapy process can help your partner realize that sulking hurts both themselves and others around him or her.
   • Relationship therapists can also give you some advanced techniques for dealing with this behavior.
   • A relationship counselor may even speak to you both separately to help determine the root of the problem for both partners. The therapist can then help you work through your individual problems.
   • If your partner cannot break through this behavioral pattern, or if your relationship has become unhealthy, a relationship counselor can also help you determine whether or not you should stay in the relationship.
   • To find a good relationship therapist, ask your doctor for a recommendation or search online for trusted relationship therapists in your area.
4. End the relationship if you don't see any changes. If you've made it clear that this behavior is unacceptable, but still aren't seeing changes in your partner's behavior, then it's probably time to break up. It is not your responsibility to continuously validate your partner's immaturity, jealousy, and insecurity. That's not fair to you, and unhealthy for both parties.
   • The process of breaking up can potentially be extra difficult and emotional because your partner is already prone to bad behavior like sulking. For a safe and healthy breakup, be respectful but clear. Tell your partner why you want to break up and set clear boundaries.
   • For example, you can say, "I cannot stay in this relationship if you cannot communicate with me when you are upset. It looks like you have some emotional issues to work through, and I just wish the best for you, but we need to part ways. "

Method 3 of 3: Analyze your partner's mug behavior

1. Distinguish between a partner who sulks and a partner who takes the time to process things. It is important to determine whether your partner sometimes has to withdraw emotionally to process something, or whether he or she has a regular tendency to sulk. Everyone needs space every now and then. If your partner comes back from his or her alone time with a more grounded perspective, new ideas, or a willingness to solve the problem, then your partner probably wasn't sulking.
   • If your partner continues to withdraw and treat you coldly, he or she is clearly not using this time to process the problem or to understand you better. Instead, he or she is probably sulking trying to get attention and control.
2. Identify your partner's triggers. Look for a pattern in your partner's behavior. If you can identify the event that triggered the sulking, then you can approach your partner about it or avoid that trigger (s).
   • For example, your partner may be triggered when you make a sarcastic comment or show up late for dinner.
3. Watch for signs of manipulation. Recognizing certain types of behavior can help you confirm that your partner is acting manipulatively. These practices are red flags that can indicate an unhealthy, controlling relationship.
   • For example, your partner may put objects between themselves and you, such as a newspaper or book, so that he or she can continue to ignore you. This sometimes even happens in public.
   • Recognize if his or her attitude changes completely when someone else comes close, but immediately becomes chilly and insensitive when the other is away. If your partner can switch his or her charms on and off in this way, he or she has probably practiced this manipulation.
4. Recognize the physical signs of your partner's sulking. If your partner sends you messages saying he or she is upset but refuses to really address the problem, he or she is sulking. There are several specific verbal and physical signs that your partner is sulking:
   • Your partner storms away, hides, or retreats to a room.
   • Your partner uses immature body language when he or she is upset, such as pouting, sighing, folding his or her arms, or even stamping his or her feet.
   • Your partner rejects comfort and refuses to show mutual affection.
   • Your partner gives you the silent treatment or ends conversations with "fine" or "never mind."
   • Your partner may sometimes try to make you feel guilty by saying something like, "You don't even care about me," or "Nobody cares about me."
5. Understand that most people who sulk have a hard time expressing their emotions. Whether your partner sulks for immaturity or uses sulking as a tool to maintain control over you, it likely means that he or she has low emotional intelligence. Your partner may not even be able to express their emotions to themselves. In the future, your partner will need to develop healthy self-talk and / or self-love to deal with this problem.
   • Morons often need to learn healthy self-talk, such as, "I recognize that I have emotional problems and am willing to work on them," or, "What I did was wrong and I take full responsibility for that. I will act better in the future. "
   • Your partner should be able to comfort himself and tell himself, "I am my own person, I have value, and I am responsible for my own behavior. I can deal with this irritation in a healthy way and not take it out on others. "