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• Part 1 of 4: Having confidence in yourself
• Part 2 of 4: Adjusting your environment
• Part 3 of 4: Having good interpersonal skills
• Part 4 of 4: Being clean and organized
• Warnings

What is normal changes with time and where you are. There are no set principles to make you normal. There are ways to ensure that you fit in with your environment if you have problems with that. Start working on good self-confidence and the rest will follow.

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Part 1 of 4: Having confidence in yourself

1. Have a healthy appreciation for the opinions of others. If you can stop worrying about what other people think about you, you'll be happier and less stressed. You will also appear more normal because you have more confidence in yourself. The less you worry about being normal, the more confident you will appear.
2. Use your body language to express confidence. Body language can make you appear confident and confident, even when you feel shy and out of place. New evidence shows that the adoption of a strong attitude In fact, it can change the chemistry of your brain, releasing testosterone, which makes you feel powerful, and decreasing cortisol, a hormone related to feeling stressed.
   • Confident body language means that you are yourself opens up. Don't keep your arms and legs crossed, pull your shoulders back - don't get into that hunched or locked position that increases your stress hormones.
   • Before you enter a situation that makes you feel nervous (a new social environment, a classroom, an interaction with people who have made fun of you), go somewhere where you are alone, and take a vigorous drink there for at least two minutes. attitude.
   • Try the attitude of Wonder Woman: Throw your shoulders back and put your hands on your hips, put your feet shoulder-width apart and keep your head high.
   • Even introducing yourself in a confident, bold attitude can make a difference. Picture yourself sitting with your legs on the table, leaning back in your chair, with your hands behind your back.
   • Always try to stand with your shoulders back and one hand on your hip.
3. Rationalize your choices. For example, if you are wondering if your cell phone holder is abnormal, take a step back and rate it. If it's a necessary evil to your job or your way of life, then it seems like a logical accessory to wear. If you can just as easily keep your cellphone in your pocket, then it might not be worth keeping it in sight where other people are judging it. These realizations will make you more aware of your habits and actions, and therefore more confident.
4. Feel comfortable with your way of communicating. You need to be aware of the way you interact with others, but know that others are less aware of your idiosyncratic habits. As you work on this, try to ask questions and get others to talk. Tend to topics of conversation that you feel comfortable with, so that you feel less in the spotlight.
5. Take care of your body. True, you don't have to be thin and tall to fit in. But with diet and exercise, you can go a long way in improving the way your body feels and functions. The confidence you gain from feeling better will help you accept yourself and appear confident to those around you.
   • Eat healthy foods. Try to eat a healthy mix of protein, carbohydrates, fruits, vegetables and fats every day. You don't have to be a health freak to be healthy - it's okay to have an ice cream or a bag of chips every now and then. Just try not to indulge in it too much. Your occasional treat will take on more meaning to you if you rarely eat it.
   • Get plenty of exercise. If you spend a lot of time watching TV, get off that couch and get some fresh air! Go for a bike ride, swim or go for a walk. Physical activity will keep you healthy and in shape.
6. Try something new regularly. Many people resist change. But trying new things is important for expanding your horizons. Whether you like it or not in the end, you will learn something about yourself and about the activity. Try out a new hobby with a friend to make you feel more comfortable.

Part 2 of 4: Adjusting your environment

1. Find like-minded people. Especially if you come from a different culture, you may have difficulty building a support network if you are new somewhere. Look for people from a similar background. As you acclimate to your new environment, you will enjoy being around people who know where you are from. This can help you feel normal, supported and understood.
   • Look for online groups, community center groups nearby, collegiate cultural groups, or ask at your prayer center.
2. Follow the clothing choices of those around you. Trying not to stand out in a negative sense seems to have a lot to do with clothing. In addition to wearing the usual clothes of the culture you live in, try not to look more or less casual than those around you. This is especially important in your workplace, but also advisable in social circles.
   • Mimicry can help you build confidence - seeing yourself in the dress or behavior of someone you like and admire can improve your confidence and lessen your insecurities.
   • Until you feel confident and comfortable enough to take more risks with your wardrobe, the affirmation you get from mimicking can make you feel less vulnerable and more connected to your peers.
3. Analyze your environment for context. Adapting to your environment does not only work with new cultures, but also with everyday situations. When you walk into a room, observe the others in the room.If everyone seems to be experiencing a strong emotion, don't do something typically associated with the opposite emotion. You can further upset and alienate a room full of crying people by telling an obscene joke.
   • Pay attention to the body language and expressions of those in the room. Are they open and smiling? Or are they closed and frowning? Do they seem relaxed and at ease, or stiff and tense?
   • Are people talking in a whisper, at normal volume or shouting and laughing out loud?
4. Behave in the same way and with the same activities as those around you. In part, by acting the same way you can make people feel like you one of them are. However, be careful with this. Just because everyone has a certain activity does not mean that everyone is not wrong. Stay away from unsafe or unhealthy behaviors, such as binge drinking or taking illegal drugs, even if that means you don't quite belong.
   • If everyone in your group is obsessed with football, try to take an interest in it too. Go to a few games and learn some of the basic rules. If you are really bored, then you don't have to stick with it, but make the effort to do it.

Part 3 of 4: Having good interpersonal skills

1. Participate in social activities. Very contradictory, but you can stand out by avoiding social activities. Try not to lose friends or alienate colleagues by declining their invitations over and over again. Social occasions can be intimidating, especially when there are a lot of people you don't know well. It is not always your idea of ​​a perfect evening that you are invited to. However, the ability to participate in a wide variety of social activities will make you appear more normal and approachable.
2. Cultivate an active social life. The easiest way to achieve this is to be open to new friendships wherever you are. Try not to worry too much about a click or whether someone is your type. If you can deal with them, your friendship will be very natural and normal. Having friends will make you appear more approachable.
3. Be polite and show good manners. The community values ​​people who are pleasant to deal with. It's natural to be rude with your best friends who you feel comfortable with. However, try to be polite when you want to make a good impression.
4. Don't share too much too quickly. Getting to know a new person is exciting, but there is a natural period of discussion involved break the ice before you are comfortable with each other. Do not bring up intimate, personal topics (such as health problems, sexual preferences, traumatic experiences, etc.) in your conversations before you actually know someone. Pay attention to your language so as not to alienate a new girlfriend while you are still feeling her.
5. Control your emotions. Strong emotions are normal, even desirable. But large, oversized displays of emotion (especially anger and sadness) can make people feel uncomfortable. Strive to limit your emotional responses to minor issues and express your feelings constructively. Don't yell, throw things, curse, or get violent. Where possible, show your displeasure calmly, calmly, and courteously.
   • If you get angry easily or suspect that you are depressed, don't be afraid to contact a therapist or counselor. You are not crazy because you are talking to a professional therapist. They can just be a helpful voice as you go through a difficult time, or they can play a much more important role.
6. Moderate your opinions. It's normal to have intense opinions on certain things - politics, for example. In fact, it's okay to engage in a well-founded, reasonable debate with others on these topics. But if you regularly ridicule or attack people because their opinions differ from yours, you quickly become a social pariah. Instead, try to listen to the opinions of others and be open to them.

Part 4 of 4: Being clean and organized

1. Keep your house or apartment clean and tidy. Houses with junk or candy wrappers everywhere will make a bad impression on your guests. Most people take pride in showing the world a reasonably clean, polished home. Show your guests that you are capable of basic housework.
2. Aim for general tidiness. If you are a slouch, that will also be visible outdoors. Still, this is a shaky balance because it's easy to come across as tense. Try to find a compromise between obsessing over cleanliness and ignoring it completely.
3. Make time for your personal care and hygiene. It is no mystery why people developed hygienic daily routines. Regular grooming and cleaning is important for your appearance, but also for your mental and physical health. Hygienic routines are an effortless way to keep looking clean - and those around you will appreciate your work.
   • Brush and floss your teeth. Incorporating flossing into your daily dental care routine will make a big difference in keeping your teeth in tip-top shape.
   • Use deodorant before you leave the house. A bad body odor is a quick way to make a bad impression on those around you. If you have extreme body odor, see a doctor for a prescription deodorant.
   • Get your hair cut regularly, even if you have long hair. It doesn't have to happen often, but well-maintained hair will impress those around you.

Warnings

• Don't let anyone change who you are! Don't make changes in your lifestyle unless you decide you want to.
• Participating in social activities does not mean giving in to group coercion. Avoid social groups or outings that force you to adapt or engage in unsafe behavior. True friends won't force you to do things that make you uncomfortable.
• See a therapist or trusted friend to talk about your normalcy. They will be able to advise you on what to do in certain situations.