Content

• To step
• Part 1 of 2: Creating a romantic atmosphere
• Part 2 of 2: Giving the massage
• Tips
• Necessities

A romantic massage is more intimate and sensual than a regular massage, and can set the tone for a relaxing evening focused only on the two of you. Ambience is important when preparing for a romantic massage, as well as knowing how and where to massage your partner. Don't forget to take your time, focus on your partner, and enjoy strengthening the bond with your partner in a new and exciting way.

To step

Part 1 of 2: Creating a romantic atmosphere

1. Place clean, soft sheets and blankets on the bed or sofa. If you give a massage at home, chances are you don't have a massage table. That is okay, however. Choose a clean, uncluttered place and put out a set of clean sheets for your partner to lay on. Don't forget to grab one or two pillows that you can put under his or her head, back, or knees if needed.
   • If the room is not tidy, take ten minutes to clean up and dispose of clutter. You and your partner will feel more relaxed if the space is clean and tidy.
   • Use two sheets - one for your partner to lie on and a second sheet that your partner can cover at the start of the massage if he or she is cold.
2. Set the temperature in the room to a comfortable setting. This depends on your partner. If he or she is always cold, turn the thermostat up a bit so the room is warmer than usual. If your partner is usually warm, turn the thermostat down so that it is cool and comfortable for him or her.
   • An electric heater can make a big difference if you don't have much time and want to heat up the room quickly.
3. Dim the lights and light some candles to create a romantic atmosphere. Bright ceiling lights don't help create the right mood, so turn them off and use candles to light up the room instead. If you need more light, turn on a lamp. You can even cover a lamp with a see-through scarf to dim the light even more.
   • For a special touch, light your partner's favorite scented candle.

   Warning: never leave burning candles unattended. If you are covering a lamp with a scarf, make sure that the fabric does not cover the warm lamp itself and remove the scarf immediately when you are done so that it does not catch fire.

   
   
4. Turn off your phones and all electronics so that you are not disturbed. If you don't want to turn off your phone, turn on the do not disturb feature or airplane mode so you don't get any messages during your massage. Put your phone away or in a drawer so you aren't tempted to look at it. Ask your partner to do the same.
   • Take advantage of this moment to break free from work, school, and other commitments so you can focus on strengthening the bond with your partner.
5. Play mood music in the background to create a relaxed and calm atmosphere. Do not play music with a fast or heavy beat. Instead, opt for instrumental music or mood music with a soothing effect.
   • See what music the streaming service you use has. Many streaming services have ready-made playlists and stations with relaxing music. Search for "relaxing music" or "mood music" to see what music is available.
   • "Zen", "yoga" and "meditation" are other keywords that can help you find the right music for the occasion.
6. Before you start, take the time to connect with your partner. You can have a glass of wine together, take a bubble bath, or just hold hands for a few minutes and talk.
   • If your partner doesn't know yet, let him or her know that you want to give him or her a romantic massage. Your partner may want to take a shower or change clothes before you start.

   Tip: make sure to shower and brush your teeth before giving your partner a romantic massage. You will get very close and of course you want to smell the best you can.

   
   

Part 2 of 2: Giving the massage

1. Rub a natural oil or cream between your hands before starting. Sweet almond oil, coconut oil, and jojoba oil are all good options that shouldn't irritate your partner's skin. Start with about half a tablespoon (10 ml) and pour more on your hands when they start to get dry. Before starting, rub the oil between your hands to warm it up.
   • Add a few drops of essential oils to the carrier oil or cream to give it a pleasant scent. Lavender, peppermint, bergamot, and sandalwood oils are good options.

   Warning: never use pure, undiluted essential oils to give a massage. First, mix 3-4 drops of the oil with 1 to 2 tablespoons (15 to 30 ml) of carrier oil. Undiluted essential oils can irritate the skin.

   
   
2. Make long strokes and apply light pressure. Start massaging the neck and shoulders. Have your partner lie on their stomach so that you can massage their shoulders and back first. Remember, your goal is not to give your partner a connective tissue massage or treat his or her sore muscles. The goal is to wake up his or her body and gently touch your partner all over.
   • Ask your partner if the pressure you are applying is right. He or she may want a deeper massage or a lighter massage.
   • Run your hands over your partner's skin. For each part of the body you are massaging for yourself, slowly count to 20. You do this at the neck, the left shoulder, the right shoulder, the middle of the back, etc.
3. Take the time to massage your partner's lower back. Stand or sit so that you and your partner are facing the same direction. Place your hands flat on his or her lower back near the hips and push forward toward the center of the back. Count to 20 while massaging this portion, but feel free to continue for longer if your partner likes it.
   • You can also gently massage your partner's buttocks if he or she is comfortable doing so. Use your elbow to apply light pressure to your partner's buttocks. Start at the top and work your way down. Repeat the process on the other side.
   EXPERT TIP

   Massage the arms and legs of your partner so that his or her entire body is relaxed. A romantic massage is partly intended to relax your partner and make his or her body aware. Gently rub your hands up and down by your partner's arms with long, firm strokes. Have your partner lie on his or her stomach first while massaging his or her legs, then ask your partner to turn on their back so that you can massage his or her arms and the front of the legs.

   • Don't forget to count to 20 seconds on each part of the body. Make sure you massage the top part of the left arm, the top part of the right arm, the bottom part of the left arm, and the bottom part of the right arm long enough.
4. Don't forget to massage the feet. Put some more cream or oil on your hands and gently rub large circles over the soles of your partner's feet. Make small circles around the ankles and gently massage the areas between the toes.
   • Depending on how ticklish your partner is, you may have to skip this part. However, if your partner likes this, it is worth taking the time.
5. Treat the inner thighs with firm, but gentle pressure. The inside of the thighs is very sensitive and is a sensual place for both men and women. Focus on the area between the knee and the crotch. Make gentle but firm strokes and count to 20 on each side.
   • How far up the legs you massage is something between you and your partner. If your partner gives you non-verbal signals, such as putting the legs together and sliding away from you, then you have let your hands slide up too far at the legs.
6. Take your time before massaging the more sensitive and sensual areas. A romantic massage can be just a romantic massage or a great foreplay to something more sexual. First gently massage the entire body before starting on the more sensitive areas such as the breasts, groin and buttocks.

   Warning: always pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues. Remember that your focus during the massage should be on your partner and not necessarily what will or will not come after the massage. Always ask your partner for permission before turning it into an explicit sexual massage.

7. After the massage, let your partner relax and take time to get up. Chances are that your partner is completely relaxed and doesn't want to turn on the lights right away and open the door when it's over. Let your partner lie for a while and take the opportunity to relax yourself.
   • If your partner fell asleep during the massage, let him or her sleep.

Tips

• If you want a massage of your own, hire a masseur who will come to your house and give you and your partner a partner massage.
• Encourage your partner to drink extra water after the massage. The massage may have released toxins from the muscles, and the extra water will help flush everything out.

Necessities

• Clean sheets
• Pillows
• Candles
• Playlist with atmospheric music
• Natural cream, lotion or oil
• Essential oils (optional)