Content

• To step
• Method 1 of 3: Finding a partner
• Method 2 of 3: Build a bond
• Method 3 of 3: Your commitment
• Tips
• Warnings

A romantic relationship can be confusing but also a lot of fun. Sometimes starting a relationship can be the hardest part of the entire relationship. It takes patience to find the right person, get to know them, and then start the relationship with the other. The good news is that if you do it right, you can have a nice healthy relationship.

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Method 1 of 3: Finding a partner

1. List qualities that appeal to you in someone else. Many people meet someone and then immediately start a relationship with that person simply because they don't want to be single. While this does fulfill a need you may have, you don't know at all if this person will make you happy in the long run. The first thing you should do is think about what you are looking for in a relationship and in a partner, and what specifically attracts you to someone. Think of things like:
   • Do I want to be with someone who is focused on a career or a family? What physical characteristics do I find attractive in someone? Do I want to be with someone who is impulsive or predictable?
   • Think about the list you made, but remember that in the end no one can make you happy except yourself. Think of the things that could positively complement your life, instead of depending on someone to make your life fulfilling for you.
2. Do the things you love. The best way to get to know people you can share things with is to get out and do the things you love. It is then inevitable that you will meet someone who enjoys the same things as you do. That is a very good situation from which you can possibly start a relationship, because you will also attract people if you do things that you love.
   • For example, if you really enjoy reading, you can join a book club for people your age, for example.
   • There are many organizations and groups, from book clubs to outdoor sports clubs, that can help you start a relationship with someone who shares your interests.
3. Take a good look around your own circles of friends and acquaintances. Because the friends you already have probably have the same interests as you, and they know other people who have the same interests as you. Sometimes a friendship can easily flow into a relationship if there is an attraction between two people. Friends can introduce you to someone they know and think you would like.
   • Try not to force a relationship with a friend. This can lead to a breakdown in the relationship and breakdown of friendship.
4. Look around the internet. While the Internet makes it easy for people to pretend to be who they are, there are many people who are genuinely looking for a relationship. You can check out various dating sites and social media so you can get to know some people. Be careful if you have an appointment with someone you met over the internet. Always meet in a safe, public space.

Method 2 of 3: Build a bond

1. Spend time together. Once you've met someone you like, spend time with them. Date, meet at lunch, or just go for a walk and talk. If you meet regularly, you build a bond with each other.
   • Don't be together all the time. A few times a week is healthy in most cases, but being together every day can be oppressive, and it can be detrimental to a relationship that has just started. Also, showing that you need and want to give space to your partner shows that you are not too dependent, which can be attractive to the other.
2. Get to know the other better. When you spend time together, it is important to ask genuine questions and to pay attention to the answers he or she provides. The better you get to know the other, the deeper the bond you build will become. Your partner will also appreciate your genuine interest in him or her and your commitment.
   • For example, you can ask what he liked to do as a child, or inquire whether any of his relatives live nearby or not.
   • Withhold sexual intimacy, wait until you feel comfortable enough to communicate frankly with the other person. Because then there is less risk of misunderstandings when the moment comes when you do continue with each other.
3. Build a relationship of trust with each other. Building trust takes time. It means, among other things, that the other can rely on you, and that you are there when the other needs you. It also means keeping your word when you make promises, whether that means showing up when you're on a date or helping the other person clean their house when you promise. It's also important to be honest with the other person, and let them know if you'd rather not talk about something.
   • For example, if he asks you something very personal on your second date, you could say, "I feel uncomfortable talking about it now, but if we know each other better we can talk about it."
   • Trust often arises when you take a vulnerable position. When you open up to someone and show your positive traits, fears, and insecurities, you build a deeper and lasting bond with someone.

Method 3 of 3: Your commitment

1. Indicate that you would like to have a long-term relationship. Because even if you see each other regularly and you are dating, the other person is not sure what your intention is, unless you indicate it yourself. Let the other person know that you are ready for a relationship and that you would like it to be. Show the willingness to wait and see whether the other person wants that or not.
   • For example, you can say, “We've been dating for a while now, and I know we enjoy being together. I want to let you know that I would like a serious relationship with you, if you are ready for it too. ”
2. Talk about your limits. Once you agree that you want a relationship together, there are certain rules that you are bound by. The tricky part is that those rules are not the same for every person or couple. Sit down together and talk about the boundaries you like to maintain in the relationship.
   • For example, your partner may be fine with staying friends with their ex-girlfriends when you feel uncomfortable. Talk about both sides of the story, and determine what boundaries you stick to and what you're both comfortable with.
   • Setting boundaries can help you find a comfortable middle ground that feels good for your partner and yourself. For example, you may agree that while staying friends with an ex is okay, excessive contact with an ex is going too far.
3. Be willing to compromise. One of the hardest things about a relationship is that both partners have to be willing to compromise so that the relationship can last. That means you have to do some things you don't like and some others too. Continue to communicate openly about the relationship, and get both partners to give and take.
   • For example, you may both hate doing the dishes and laundry. A compromise could be that one does the dishes and the other does the laundry.
   • Work on communicating openly throughout the relationship. Because subjects that are not discussed can develop into major problems at a later stage if you do not discuss them together.

Tips

• Have faith in yourself.
• Keep yourself clean.
• Treat the other person with respect.

Warnings

• Stick to your own values ​​and standards.
• Make sure you have sex safely.