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• Method 1 of 3: Make time for yourself
• Method 2 of 3: Understand and forgive
• Method 3 of 3: Change your life
• Tips

When you're in heartbreak, it can feel like you're drowning. We build lives with someone we trust and care about, and then, in the blink of an eye, it's all gone. This can leave people with grief, anger, and some serious questions - about ourselves and the future. If you are dealing with a broken heart and want to heal it, try these suggestions to help new ones to find you.

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Method 1 of 3: Make time for yourself

1. Give yourself some time. You've probably been in a relationship for a while, or you may have thought about that person for months. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone trips. How you recover defines you.
   • Take a weekend to do what you love to do. Whether it's surfing, hiking, cooking, or just hanging out with your friends, take the opportunity to surround yourself with happy people and do things that make you happy.
   • Start a journal to write down how you feel. Writing things down can be a powerful outlet. It's called "catharsis," where you cleanse your mind through expression. Write about anything you want to write about. You will feel much better afterwards.
   • Don't be afraid to feel sad. It's normal to be sad. Don't feel inferior or stupid when you cry or are upset - that's normal. Grief is just one step on the road to recovery. Allow yourself to grieve.
2. Remove all memories of the person from your daily life. You don't try to pretend the person never existed forget just temporarily how much they meant to you and how they broke your heart.
   • Go across your room and delete all photos, letters and references to the person you want to forget. If you have a journal where you write about the person, start a whole new one. It is a symbolic new beginning, but important.
   • Deleting is not the same as destroying. Do not burn or destroy objects related to the person unless you are sure you never want them to be a part of your life again. When you're old and madly in love with someone who loves you just as much, the memories will be an archive of everything you've gone through to get to where you are now.
3. Remove the person from all social networks you use. Today we have our regular life and our online life. Stop following the person on Facebook and Twitter, and don't let your online network remind you of the person who broke your heart.
   • If you want to write them, create a fake email account (for example, a Gmail account) and send the emails to that account. This way you can accommodate all your pain and vent your heart out, without your ex ever seeing it.
4. Exercise and eat well. Hit the gym or go outside to work up a sweat. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which acts as a natural antidepressant, improving your mood. It's okay to eat ice cream and milkshakes now and then (who doesn't ?!) but it's best to have a healthy diet with lots of fruits and vegetables, lean proteins, whole grains and water.They will not only make you look fantastic, but also make you feel fantastic.
5. If possible, try not to be in the same room with the person. This is obviously tricky: The other person has probably been an important part of your life for a long time, and your mind and body are used to their presence. But simply giving up on the other person is a good way to tell your mind and body that there are plenty of other people in the world who deserve your attention. Why don't you give them a chance?
   • If you go to school with the person, avoid the person as much as possible. Don't sit with them during recess; do not participate in the same volunteer projects. Follow the lessons that you finally want. If possible, leave when that person is around.
   • Don't put yourself in situations where you could bump into each other. You know, because of your past love, where the person goes. If the person always goes to the gym on a Saturday morning, only go during the week. If the person likes to go to the nearby farmers' market, try to go as late as you have to go. (Or rather avoid it altogether.)
   • Be polite if / when you meet the person. There's no point in being mean, angry, or boastful when you run into the person. Say "hello" like you would to a friend, have a short, impersonal chat and say goodbye. The best revenge you can take is to live a fulfilling, happy, meaningful life without them.
6. Stay Optimistic. This is easier said than done, but if you feel very negative about yourself, get stuck in the past, or see the glass as half empty, try to get out of that moment. Remind yourself of everything you have and how happy you are.
   • Laugh as much as possible. It will help you feel and look better. Watch funny movies, read funny books, or hang out with funny friends.

Method 2 of 3: Understand and forgive

1. Find out what went wrong in your relationship. Every relationship has its strengths and weaknesses. Find out what went wrong in your relationship or what wasn't so great about the other person. That way you can grow in the future, or look forward to better character traits in your next partner. There are a lot of things that can go wrong in a relationship, but here are just a few:
   • I never felt loved / I always felt bullied. A relationship is about love, and if you didn't feel it in the relationship, that's a big deal. Your partner doesn't have to show love the same way you do, but they should be able to show it somehow. It's the least you earn.
   • I felt manipulated / used / lied to. Honesty and honest intent should be a pillar of any relationship. True love is doing something for someone else without expecting anything in return. Someone who manipulates, uses, or lies is only interested in himself, not in you.
   • After a while, the love just diminished. In the beginning of a relationship, when you fall for each other, you are blinded by love. This means that you are completely taken by the person, especially since they are new. After a while, this feeling will naturally disappear. If the other person is no longer in love with you, try to say that you are happy for the time you had together.
   • I was cheated. Trust is an essential ingredient in a relationship. If you don't have faith, you are constantly guessing or feeling jealous. If your partner cheated on you, that trust is likely gone. In the future, let someone trust you to earn, and give what is due to them.
2. Don't worry about who was wrong. You probably also have room to grow yourself, so don't just blame the other person. Focus on the problems, not the people.
   • For example, if you were in a manipulative relationship, don't say alone "She / he manipulated me and I didn't deserve it." Instead, tell yourself: "I will no longer allow myself to be manipulated in this way because I will recognize all signals in the future."
   • There are probably things you would like to change or take back. Concentrate on improving those points for your next relationship. It will give you extra motivation.
3. Learn from your mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. How you learn from it defines you as a person. Learn from what went wrong in your previous relationship - that broke your heart - and don't let it happen in the future.
4. When you are ready, forgive the other. Forgiveness is an important part of healing your broken heart. To continue, you have to forgive the other person or you will constantly think about them or wonder why they hurt you.
   • Forgiveness does not happen overnight. It can take a long time to forgive someone, so be ready to forgive. Usually, finding someone who really loves you is a great way to forgive the other person.
   • How do you forgive someone? Recognize that everyone makes mistakes. Find out their intentions and understand why they did what they did. Try to put yourself in their place. You don't have to come up with an answer, but try to get an idea.
   • You don't have to tell the other person that you forgive them, but it will help. You can forgive them tacitly in your heart, if that's the way you choose. But you may want to have a friendship with them in the future; telling them you forgive them will make that friendship easier.
5. Don't argue with the other person. Sometimes you give the other person a chance to vent or talk about something that went wrong. We do this to close a chapter. If you talk about something with the person who broke your heart, be wary and don't let the conversation turn into an argument.
   • If the person tries to defend what happened in the relationship and gets angry, you can say: "I didn't come here to argue. I respect you as a person and your beliefs, but the time to argue is over. If we continue to talk, let's do it as grown-ups or not at all."
   • Don't let the other person manipulate you. The other person may try to upset you or provoke you with something hurtful or mean. Don't give them that satisfaction. Stay calm, collected, and calm.

Method 3 of 3: Change your life

1. Lean on your friends. Your friends are there to help you, to comfort you when you feel bad, and to inspire you to feel good. Deep down, your friends love you. It is not unreasonable to lean on your friends when you are heartbroken. They can be the ones who will get you out.
   • Do daily things with your plans. Plan a cinema night by purchasing tickets in advance. Go to the zoo, to the beach, or to dinner. Think about how much fun you always had doing fun things like that. Try to pick up that part of your life again.
   • Talk to your best friend about your heartbreak. Confide in them. Give yourself a chance to talk to someone you trust completely. You will feel a lot better.
2. Channel your energy into new activities. What we miss when we end a relationship is that we can no longer express our love. We cannot share our excitement with someone who is interested because they are interested in it you. However, you can carry on this form of expression from the heart by writing poetry, painting, singing, dancing, etc. Do whatever it takes to turn your pain into something productive!
   • Learn a new skill. Try to do something that you know little about, so that it forces you to interact with the world in a different way. Try glass blowing, pottery, a new musical instrument, or cave diving. Be adventurous and open to new possibilities.
   • Volunteer. Learn to give back to your community, no matter how big or small. Volunteering will help you see the real impact you have on people's lives, and should show you how lucky you are to have everything you have.
3. Go on a trip. It doesn't have to be far, but far enough to give you some perspective. The world is such a big, beautiful place; you should take advantage of it. Bring camping gear or stay with that friend you haven't seen in a while. A little distance can work wonders for your broken heart.
4. Use your imagination. Nothing makes it more difficult to heal a broken heart than feeling trapped. And it may sound corny or cliché, but your imagination lets you go to places you've never been and experience things you may never see. Use your imagination and you will feel better.
   • Read a book every night before going to sleep. You may never have read books, but nothing moves you to another world better than a book. It will aid in the healing process.
   • Fantasize about your future. Leave the person who broke your heart out there. Fantasize about your career, your home, your family, your travels. You should feel inspiration to realize them. Focus on the possibilities of the good.
   • Set the bar high. Your goals will motivate you to get up and do something. Ask yourself: What are my goals? If you don't have goals, make some. Be ambitious and set the bar high. You won't regret it if it doesn't work out, you will if you haven't tried it.
5. When you're ready, start dating again. After two or three months, many people feel ready to date again. Get over the problems of your previous relationship, and try not to make the same mistake twice!
   • If you're not ready for another serious relationship yet, tell your date that you've just dated and want to take it easy. Hopefully the person understands. If not, they are not a good fit for you.
   • Don't immediately look for perfection. We often avoid relationships because we want to find the perfect man or woman. If you want a prince or princess in shining armor, you can keep looking for a long time. Look for someone who is nice, sharing, funny, smart, and gets along well. The rest will follow automatically.
   • Don't be afraid to love. You have to open yourself up to possible heartbreak if you want to love again. But it is worth it. Love wouldn't mean so much if it didn't hurt when taken away. Give your heart to the right person and they will reward you infinitely.
6. Remember the two-year rule. It takes two years to learn a new job, two years to adjust to a new city, and two years to fully heal a broken heart. If you expect things to be completely fine one day after a three-year relationship, you will be quite disappointed. Real results can be achieved when you have realistic expectations.

Tips

• It really helps if you have good friends who can watch over you and prevent you from doing and / or saying something that you end up regretting!
• Concentrate on yourself. Do things that make you happy.
• Don't date the person who hurt you. This is not productive and will not lead to healing. There is no more closure. There is only healing. Think of it like cutting open a wound that has just closed.
• If you need to tell a friend about your heartbreak, just do it once. You will need your friend later, so don't let him or her get bored.
• Eat something tasty to temporarily relieve your heartbreak. Chocolate is the number 1 heartbreak food because it really helps a bit. It doesn't change anything, but it does cheer you up a bit, which you will probably need.
• Don't interact with the person you're trying to forget.
• Don't humiliate the person to elevate yourself!
• Stop thinking about the person!
• Nostalgia will persist long after the healing process ...
• Initially, it can help to write down and read through all the bad things about your ex when you feel weak. But after a few weeks, you should write down all the good things about yourself and focus on them. After that, think about all the great things you can do right now.