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• Method 1 of 3: Connecting socially with people
• Method 2 of 3: Connect directly with new people
• Method 3 of 3: Connect with people at work

Whether you just want to connect with people in a friendly way, make a good first impression, or build relationships for work, it can be intimidating at first to find a way to bond with people. However, if you show that you really care about the person you are talking to, have meaningful conversations, or are working to make people feel comfortable, then you are well on your way to connecting with someone without a hitch.

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Method 1 of 3: Connecting socially with people

1. Find common ground. It can seem like a daunting task if you don't know much about the person you're talking to, but finding common ground is easier than you think. Be on the lookout for things the person says in an informal conversation to see if this could be common ground, such as a favorite sports team, a band, or even the fact that you both have five siblings. The key is to really listen and see if you can discover something that can help you bond.
   • You also don't have to ask the person fifty questions to find common ground; of course let it come up during a conversation.
   • You may think that you don't have much in common with the person you're talking to, but even having one or two things you can talk to can really help you connect. It could be your favorite author, the fact that you happened to live 15 km apart, or the fact that you both speak Japanese. Don't get discouraged if at first you think that you two are vastly different from each other.
2. Give people sincere compliments. One way to connect with people socially is to give them heartfelt compliments. This means finding something about them that is truly admirable and making them feel good about themselves without overdoing it too much. You don't want to sound like you're gluing, but like you actually admire them. Giving just one good compliment per conversation is fine. As long as you don't compliment physical compliments or overly personal topics, you won't come across as pushy. Here are some examples of compliments you can give:
   • "You are so good at talking to new people. How do you do that?'
   • "Those earrings are so unique. Where did you get them? "
   • "I am so impressed that you can balance working full time as a parent. I don't think I could. "
   • "I saw your tennis match yesterday. You have great service! "
3. Return to something the person has said before. This is a great trick for building a relationship with people you already know and care about. If your friend mentioned an important job interview the last time you saw her, or about a new guy she was excited about, you better make sure you come back to it the next time you see her, or even see her. to text and ask how you're doing. You want to make people feel that you really care about what they tell you, and that you remember it even when you're not together.
   • If your friend has to bring up that important topic you talked about last time, and you have to say, "Oh yeah, how did that go?" It seems like you don't really care much about it.
   • Your friends need you to support and care for them, and if you really want to bond with them, ask about the important things in their lives. This can even help you bond with an acquaintance who may be pleasantly surprised if you ask about something he mentioned last time.
4. Put other people at ease. Another way to bond with people you already know is to put them at ease. Just be open, friendly, compliment them, and make them feel comfortable in your presence. Don't judge what they say, don't look at them in confusion, or pretend that there is something wrong with the person. Also, don't distance yourself, and don't look like you're not really paying attention; make people feel safe and happy talking to you, and you can bond with them much more easily.
   • Work on radiating warmth and positive energy and make people feel like they can tell you everything and feel safe. If they feel like you're criticizing them deep down or that you're sharing what they tell you with your five best friends, then you can't bond with them.
   • When one of your friends is having a bad day, a little affection, be it a pat on the back or a hand on her arm, can make her feel more comfortable.
5. Be open. If you really want to connect with people, you have to be willing to open up to them and show who you are. Some people are unable to connect with others because they are too cautious or afraid to appear really vulnerable to other people. You don't want people to think you are too closed or too private; although you don't have to tell them everything about yourself, you should work on sharing some personal information so that people feel like they can really connect with you. Some of the things you can talk about are:
   • Your childhood
   • Your relationship with your family members
   • Previous romantic relationships
   • Your wishes for the future
   • Something funny that happened to you that day
   • A disappointment from the past
6. Thank people. Another way to connect with others is to take the time to thank them. This gives them a sense of appreciation, as if you are paying attention, and as if you know that they are adding value to your life. Make people feel valued and be honest and open about how much they mean to you. Even thanking a co-worker for providing helpful advice, or thanking your neighbor for taking care of your cat, connecting with people can really help if you make the effort to show gratitude.
   • Don't just say "Thank you!" Or send a text message. Take the time to look the person in the eye to say the word "Thank you" and explain what the person did and why it meant so much to you.
   • Research also shows that thanking people makes you feel happier, and it increases the chances for both of you that you will help people in the future. Everyone wins!
7. Do your best to nurture your relationships. While it may seem obvious, many people are unable to bond with people because they don't monitor and continue their relationships with them, even though they really like the person. This is either because of laziness, shyness, or because people feel they are too busy hanging out with too many people. But if you really want to connect with people, then you have to be willing to chat for more than half an hour.
   • If you feel like you've really connected with someone, invite that person to do something like grab a drink or get a coffee.
   • Don't cancel at the last minute. If people invite you to something, you should show up, or have a good excuse if you don't. If you get the reputation for canceling often, people don't want to hang out with you.
   • While it is important to have time for yourself, you can never build your relationships if you are never open yourself. Do your best to be social for at least 2-3 days a week, even if it's just having lunch with someone.
8. Be there. If you really want to bond with people, you have to be present in the conversation. In the meantime, if you think about what you are going to eat that night, or who you are going to talk to next, the person you are talking to will notice, he will not like you more. Work on making eye contact, really listening to what the person is saying, avoiding your phone or people walking by, and showing the person that you are really in the moment.
   • If you work to be fully present in a conversation, you can enjoy the moment more and thus become a better conversation partner. You're unlikely to make a good first impression if you're too concerned about the job interview coming up, let alone want them to meet again.

Method 2 of 3: Connect directly with new people

1. Smile and make eye contact. If you want to connect with someone directly, it's absolutely important to smile and make eye contact (which often goes hand in hand) when you introduce yourself and start the conversation. Research has shown that laughter is contagious, and your smile makes the other person more likely to laugh and be open to you. Prolonged eye contact can make the person feel like you really care about what he or she has to say and make him or her likely to like you much more.
   • While you can occasionally break eye contact so that the conversation doesn't feel too intense, you don't want the person to think you have other things on your mind.
   • You can practice smiling at people when you walk past them so that you are more likely to radiate positive energy.
2. Use the person's name. Using a person's name can make that person feel important - or at least important enough to remember his or her name. Just saying something like, "It was nice meeting you, Amy," at the end of the conversation can really make the person feel connected to you. There is nothing that makes someone feel more unimportant than saying, `` What's your name again? '' Or `` I can't remember your name ... '' and if you really want to connect with new people, don't just let them know. Remember name, but also use it.
   • Don't use the fact that you supposedly have a terrible memory as an excuse. If you really want to connect with people directly, you really have to commit to remembering their names.
3. Have open body language. Your body language can help you look more accessible and open, making people appreciate you more. If you want a new person to connect with you directly, you need to turn your body towards that person, stand up straight, don't fidget or cross your arms, and focus your energy on that person without being too intrusive.
   • If you turn away from the person, cross your arms, or sit down, the person feels that you are not really interested in what he or she is saying.
4. Do not underestimate the value of a good conversation about little ones. You may think this is pointless and is only intended for people who want to make superficial contact, but talking about talking to someone can really connect you well and work towards a deeper relationship with people. When you connect with people you know, you don't immediately talk about the meaning of life or how your life has been affected by the death of your grandmother; you first slowly build a stronger relationship by talking about light-hearted topics and getting to know each other. Here are some tips for talking little talk:
   • Use simple topics to create a deeper conversation. You can casually say that the weather was perfect over the weekend and then ask your conversation partner if he did anything fun to enjoy it.
   • Ask open-ended questions instead of questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no" answer to keep the conversation going.
   • Pay attention to your surroundings. When you see a flyer for a great concert on campus, you can ask the person you're talking to if they're going or what they think of the band.
   • Keep it light. You don't want to scare someone off by talking about dark or intense topics too quickly.
5. Make the person feel special as soon as possible. While you don't have to compliment the person endlessly, just make a small comment that shows the person that you think he or she is somehow impressive or interesting. This will certainly help you connect with new people. Ultimately, all people want to feel special. Here are a few casual comments you can make to instantly make the person feel special:
   • "I am so impressed that you wrote an entire novel. I can't imagine being able to do that. "
   • "It's amazing that you speak three languages."
   • "I feel like we have met before. It's so easy to talk to you. "
   • "You have such a unique smile. It's infectious. "
6. Ask questions. Another way to get someone to like you right away is to focus on being interested rather than being interesting. Don't ask questions that are taboo or personal - this could offend the person. While you can try to impress the person by being utterly fascinating or entertaining, it is much easier to show genuine interest in the person and show that you really care about who the person is and what he has to offer the world has. While you don't have to make it seem like an interrogation, just a few simple, well-timed questions can make the person interact with you a lot more. Here are some things to ask about:
   • The person's hobbies or interests
   • The person's favorite bands
   • The person's favorite things to do in the city
   • The person's pets
   • Planning the weekend of the person
7. Keep it positive. People prefer to be happy than sad; It makes sense, therefore, that people are more likely to bond with you and spend more time with you if you keep it positive and talk about things that make you excited and happy. While everyone complains at some point, you should focus on being positive, and don't complain a little until you know the person a little bit, if you really need to. You want to radiate positive energy so that people feel more positive in your neighborhood; this makes it much easier to bond with people than when you are feeling sad or angry all the time.
   • If you catch yourself making a negative comment, try to refute it with two positive comments so that people still view you as happy.
   • This doesn't mean you have to change your whole personality or make fun of someone. It just means you need to focus on the good things in your life when meeting new people if you want them to remember you positively.
8. Show that you listened. Taking the time to really listen to people can be one of the best ways to connect them with you right away. When a new person is talking to you, make sure you actually hear what that person is saying instead of interrupting or waiting your turn to speak; once the person has finished speaking, respond in a way that shows that you really got everything the person said. This makes the person feel much more connected to you.
   • If you come back to something the person said earlier in the conversation, the person will be really impressed. Most people feel that people aren't listening enough to them, and if you can show that you're really listening, you make a great impression.

Method 3 of 3: Connect with people at work

1. First, make use of your existing connections. You may think you don't know anyone who can help you in your career, but you'd be surprised how many people you know who know someone who knows someone. If you're looking for a new job or want to take your career in a new direction, reach out to the people you know to see who they know. You can even email your friends describing the type of position you're looking for and your qualifications to see who can help you.
   • Don't think that by using your connections instead of getting a job yourself, you are in some way abusing or cheating. You just play the game. Research has shown that as many as 70-80% of jobs are found through networking, so don't be afraid to take this first step. Ultimately, it is unlikely that someone will hire you based on your network alone, and you will still have to prove yourself.
2. Prepare your pitch. If you want to connect with someone to find a job, you need to know how to sell yourself - and how to get it done quickly. You may only have a minute or two to talk to someone who can help you get a job, and when you do, you need to distinguish yourself. You can't just chat about the weather, but have to make the person remember you and see you as someone they'd like to help.
   • Whether you are selling yourself or a product, the important thing is to have a strong opening line that shows why you are a candidate that the employer should not miss, or why your product is something he should invest in.
   • Keep it short and sweet and end by giving the person your business card and saying that you look forward to hearing from that person. Of course, you need to make sure that the person has a genuine interest in you or your product.
3. Find a way to help the person. Another way to build connections for work is to find a way to help the person. You may need to be a little creative and find something you can do for the person that is not directly related to your work, for example, if you know that the person is writing a biography, you can offer to give feedback on it because of your writing experience , or if you know the person is looking for a location for their daughter's wedding, you can tell them that your aunt can offer a great and inexpensive location.
   • Don't think you have nothing to offer the world. Even when you're trying to network, you still have plenty of skills and abilities that can benefit other people in different ways.
4. Hold on. You may think that being persistent can be a turnoff, and that if an employer or work contact were really interested in you, that person would make this clear right away. However, you will be surprised how often people are approached by others; Get noticed by making that extra phone call, reaching out to the person at a business or social event, or sending a follow-up email. While you don't want to be annoying, you don't want to give up too early either.
   • Just think: the worst thing that can go wrong is you keep trying to get the person's attention and they don't respond. Well, that's exactly where you started, so it's not like you got it worse off, right?
5. Leave a good impression. Another way to network with people is to make sure you stand out. You have to find a way to be remembered, if only by a little detail, like the fact that you are fluent in Japanese, or that you and the person you met are both obsessed with the Russian author, Sergei Dovlatov. You just need to find one or two ways to really stand out for people so that you can later remind them of who you are when trying to contact them.
   • If you find a way to stand out, you can say something simple in a follow-up email like, "We met at the Business 101 event." It was so great to meet someone who loves Sergei Dovlatov as much as I do! "
   • Of course, this doesn't mean that you should overdo it and do your best to stand out that it comes across as unpleasant. You don't have to do a lime green resume or tap dance to be remembered - unless you want to be reminded negatively.
6. Connect with people around them. Another way to connect with people while networking is to connect with people who know the person you want to speak to. Check out LinkedIn to find mutual contacts, or even ask the people you know to connect you with someone who knows someone. Don't be shy about it and work on building a wider network
   • You never know who might be useful to you, so make sure you are friendly, kind, and approachable to everyone in your work environment.
7. Make sure people can reach you easily. It goes without saying that if you want to connect with people for work, you should make it really easy for them to contact you. You should have business cards with you at all times, have a phone that people can easily reach, and even promote yourself with a website or blog. For example, if someone has heard of you, you want that person to be able to find you with a quick Google search; you don't want to rob yourself of your network just because you don't have a personal website.
   • Many companies these days even ask to see your personal website when you apply. You don't want to miss this opportunity because you don't have a website. If you're using sites like Wix or WordPress it's free and easy and only takes 1-2 hours to create, even if you're not tech-savvy.