Content

• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Ending the fight
• Method 2 of 3: Preventing Conflict
• Method 3 of 3: Preventing Conflict in the Workplace

Fighting with a loved one, family members, or coworkers can have many consequences: edifying, rewarding, destructive, or painful. Most people would agree that fighting is exhausting. If you are looking for ways to avoid conflict situations, there are immediate measures to prevent an argument, both now and in the future.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Ending the fight

1. 1 Try to understand what the other person is concerned about. If a person starts a fight or reacts inadequately to your comments, put it all in words. For example, say, “I understand that this question is important to you” or “I understand that you think my idea is unsuccessful, but I don’t think so.”
   • If things start to escalate or things are moving too quickly, simply remove yourself from the conflict. Tell them that you need a break and that you will come back to discussing the issue later.
2. 2 Calmly discuss the reasons for each other's concerns. Try to keep the conversation as emotionally stable as possible. Don't scream or stoop to accusations.Instead, be clear about your point of view. It will be easier for a person to respond to a specific example rather than something vague, generalized, or accusatory.
   • While this can be difficult, try to limit the argument to 1 or 2 major issues. Don't turn into a fight on the battlefield, where every single flaw in your relationship or friendship is exposed.
3. 3 Give the person a chance to speak up. This means that you really need to listen to what is being said. There is no need to look for weak points in arguments and arguments. Try to understand what is being conveyed to you, whether you like it or not.
   • Don't rush the other person. Allow him to collect his thoughts and substantiate his reasoning at a pace that suits him. That way he will see your respect and your willingness to listen.
4. 4 Respectfully respond. If you disagree with what was said, try to find a justification for these arguments, rather than immediately argue. Collect your thoughts for a few minutes before answering. So you will not get out words that may be offensive to the interlocutor. For example: "Now I understand why you are upset."
   • If you go to meet the person, most likely, you will also receive a positive reaction to your comments.
5. 5 Pay attention to your body language. This one is just as important as shouting, accusing, or getting personal. Use body language that encourages open communication, such as avoiding crossing your arms and trying to strike a relaxed posture. Also, in a critical situation, eye contact is very important.
   • Avoid defensive gestures such as crossing your arms, pointing your fingers, avoiding gaze, or trying to hide your arms. These are all signals that you do not want to speak.
6. 6 Use a sense of humor. Arguments need not be made with the utmost seriousness. If you think it would be appropriate and the other person is receptive to humor, joke a couple of times. This will release tension and show the other person that you are not defending yourself or taking things too personally.
   • Never joke about another person. This will only aggravate the conflict.

Method 2 of 3: Preventing Conflict

1. 1 Continue to be a good listener at all times. Never take a rigid stance. Instead, constantly listen carefully to what others are thinking and what they are saying. If the person mentioned something that bothered them, take it seriously and respond or apologize.
   • Active listening and responsiveness facilitate communication in general.
2. 2 Try not to defend yourself every time. This is a huge source of quarrels between people. Learn to admit you're wrong. Learn to flow in and communicate without figuring out who is "right" and who is "wrong."
   • It can be difficult at first to stop and not defend your position until the end, but over time, you will notice that your stress levels are decreasing. Without having to be right all the time, you can enjoy life and respect other people.
3. 3 If a conflict arises in a relationship, spend some time alone with yourself. Sometimes people just get tired of each other, especially if they see each other too often. Take a break to reduce stress and appreciate each other even more while hanging out together.
   • Spending time with friends will help you strengthen your worldview, charge you with a positive and cheerful mood. Perhaps your partner also needs time for themselves and their friends.
4. 4 Put yourself in the other person's shoes. You will learn empathy and better understand what the person is going through right now. Do not expect a quarrel when all this can open up. Instead, regularly try to understand the other person's problems and joys. This will make you more connected and less inclined to conflict.
5. 5 Plan important discussions. If you care about something, think about how to present it to the other person. Decide what you will say, how and when. Keep your arguments short and clear.
   • Do not bring up an issue during the heat of the moment or without careful thought. Otherwise, you will simply offend the person, get an emotional response, or simply swear.
6. 6 Sign up for a counseling session or meditate. If you are still struggling with conflict situations, get help. Offer the other person a counseling session or meditation together. If you are rejected, go to therapy yourself. While this may not solve all of your problems, you can learn to respond appropriately and feel better about the situation.

Method 3 of 3: Preventing Conflict in the Workplace

1. 1 Respond to the problem before it turns into an argument. If you start having problems with coworkers, start building relationships right away. Do not wait until everything is resolved by itself, otherwise the situation may worsen and escalate into a conflict.
   • Waiting and delaying problems only makes them worse. You will not even have time to realize how everything will develop into a snowball that will be difficult to stop.
2. 2 Solve problems personally. Face-to-face is a smart way to solve problems, especially when compared to texting. Solve the problem and all questions face to face. In electronic communication, it is much easier to say something offensive or offensive.
   • If you cannot avoid communicating electronically, just watch the tone of your letter and the words you use, as in this case, gestures and body language will not be able to help you convey your attitude.
3. 3 Eliminate conflicts. This is quite obvious. Conflicts at the workplace are often inevitable, especially if there are a lot of people in the team. Daily squabbles, petty quarrels and disputes over various issues. You need to determine what is important to you and your job. Resolve conflicts before they start to harm your job and the work environment.
   • Minor issues can be frustrating. Learn to disengage from it before you start worrying and worrying about it.
4. 4 Resolve differences completely. Don't leave a problem. While you settled the issue right away, you also want to make sure you arrive at a satisfactory solution. Make sure you and your coworkers respect each other and that everyone is happy with the outcome.
   • Remember that you must maintain professional relationships with other people. Once the issue is resolved, forget about it. Don't think about past disagreements or they will continue to affect your work relationships.
5. 5 Seek help from a third party. Do not be afraid to contact this or that department for help. Sometimes a third party can help relieve tension and make the conflict less emotional.
   • You can contact HR or speak with a manager or other colleague first. The main thing is that both of you are comfortable and that you both are ready to talk.