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Up to 11% of school-age children have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Children with ADHD often have difficulty focusing attention. Children have short focusing times and are easily distracted. It is also very difficult for children to absorb a lot of information at the same time. Many parents and teachers believe that the child will not listen or try hard; This is not true. Living with ADHD can be challenging, but you can help by communicating in a way that is easier with them. This can save you and your baby a lot of stress and disappointment.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Improving daily communication

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   Limit distractions. Children with ADHD have a hard time concentrating. They are easily distracted by events happening around them. You can improve communication by eliminating possible distractions.
   • When talking to a child with dementia, you need to turn off the television and sound system.Set the phone to vibrate and do not try to talk to other people at the same time as your child.
   • Even a strong scent can distract someone with ADHD. Avoid using perfumes with strong scents or room sprays.
   • Lighting effects can also cause problems. Replace flashing bulbs or lamp covers to create unusual patterns of shadows and lights.

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   Wait until your child notices. Do not say when the child is not concentrating. If your child is not completely focused on you, you will most likely have to talk again.
   • Wait or ask your child to make eye contact with you before starting to speak.

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   Communicate in a simple way. In general, you should try to be quiet and use simple sentences. Children with ADHD only keep up with short sentences. You should be effective and focused on the problem.

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   Encourage your child to exercise and be active. Children with ADHD usually perform better with a lot of exercise. When a child is restless, being active or standing up can help him focus and reduce distractions.
   • Some people with attenuated hyperactivity find it helpful to squeeze the stress ball when they're in situations where they have to sit still.
   • When you know your child is about to sit still for a while, it is also a good idea to give him a few runs or some exercise beforehand.

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   Reassure the child. Many children with ADHD have low self-esteem. The challenges that other children easily overcome are not small difficulties for children with ADHD. This may make the child feel stupid or useless. You can help by reassuring your child.
   • It is difficult for children with ADHD to think that they are intelligent when their peers or siblings outperform the child academically. This can lead to a lack of confidence in the child.
   • Parents should encourage children in need of special care to set goals and teach them to accomplish them.
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Part 2 of 3: Guiding and assigning tasks to children

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   Break it down into several small steps. Children with attention deficit hyperactivity are often overwhelmed by seemingly simple tasks. You can make the task easier to complete by breaking it down into smaller steps.
   • Teachers will not assign students tasks by announcing that they have a 10-page essay containing citations that must be submitted within a month, then walk away and wait for the student to finish. They will give students handouts with tasks broken down into sections with deadlines. Students will receive feedback for each section throughout the work. Parents can also do the same with tasks at home, making a timetable with appropriate instructions.
   • For example, if your child is assigned to wash clothes, you could break it down into smaller tasks like: put clothes, detergent and conditioner in the machine, turn on the washing machine, take out the clothes when washing is finished, etc ...

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   Ask your child to repeat what you said. To make sure your child hears and understands the instructions, ask them to repeat what you said.
   • This allows you to make sure your child understands and speaks clearly if needed. This also helps the child reinforce the tasks in the head.

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   Use reminders. There are many types of reminders that can help children with ADHD stay focused on tasks.
   • For the cleaning task, you can create a system of color-coded boxes and shelves. Labeling or sticking with pictures can also help your child remember what to put in when cleaning.
   • To-do lists, day planners, calendars or task boards can also help children with attention deficit problems.
   • At school, try to organize a “classmate” to help remind your child of assignments to be completed.

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   Helping children in a matter of time. Children in general often do not have an exact sense of timing. Children with ADHD are even more difficult. To help children with ADHD follow directions and be on time, it is important to deal with timing problems.
   • For example, you can set a timer. Let your child know that you want the task to be done before the alarm sounds. Or you can play your child's familiar music and say you want them to complete a task before the music runs out, or before a song ends.

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   Praise your child after each step. Every time your child completes a step, praise him or her. This will help build a child's self-esteem and sense of accomplishment.
   • Compliments after each task also increase your child's likelihood of success in the future.

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   Bring joy at work. Turning a task into a game can help reduce the pressure a child with ADHD may feel when working on a new task. Here are a few ideas:
   • Use a funny voice to guide your child.
   • Try playing role-play. Pretend to be a character in a story, movie or TV show, and / or prompt your child to act. For example, your child might dress up as Cinderella while doing housework while you play the soundtrack of "Cinderella".
   • If your child starts to stress, then let him do a happy task, or have him make funny moves or sounds at work. Don't be afraid to give your child a break and snack if the situation becomes too difficult.
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Part 3 of 3: Disciplining the child with ADHD

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   Prepare in advance. Like many children, children with ADHD sometimes need to be disciplined. The advice here is that you must be disciplined so that it is effective for the brain of children with ADHD to follow. A good first step is to prepare for awkward situations.
   • When you know that you are going to be in a difficult situation with your child (for example, when they are in a place where they need to be quiet and sit still for a long time), talk to them first. Talk about rules, agree on a reward if your child follows the rules, and punish them for disobeying.
   • Next, if your child starts to “squirm,” ask him to repeat the rule and punishment mentioned earlier. This is often enough to stop or stop a child's bad behavior.

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   Have a positive attitude. If possible, use rewards instead of punishment. This is better for children's self-esteem and also more effective at encouraging good behaviors.
   • Try to find children's good behavior and reward them rather than trying to find mistakes and punish them.
   • Prepare a box or box of small rewards such as small toys, stickers, etc. This kind of tangible reward will be of great help in promoting good behavior. After a while, you can cut down on tangible rewards and replace them with compliments or hugs, etc.
   • One method that many parents find useful is the reward system. Children awarded points for good behavior can use the points to "buy" certain "privileges" or activities. Reward points can be exchanged for a movie session or staying up 30 minutes after bedtime, etc. Try setting out bonus points in your child's schedule. This can reinforce good daily behaviors and build self-esteem through the performance chain.
   • If possible, try to set positive rules in the home instead of negative ones. Rules should set patterns of good behavior instead of telling children what not to do. This will provide the child with ADHD a role model instead of making the child sad about things not to do.

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   Be consistent. When it is necessary to use punishment, be consistent about the punishment for the child's improper behavior. Children need to know the rules. Children need to know the punishment for breaking a rule, and the punishment should be the same every time they make a mistake.
   • Both parents should agree on the punishments in the same way.
   • Punishment should be imposed for inappropriate behavior at home as well as in public. Consistency is essential, and if you don't do it first and foremost, it can cause the child to become confused or stubborn.
   • Never contest punishment or concessions when a child insists or challenges. If you give in even once, the child will find that it is possible to “negotiate” the punishment and continue to make mistakes.
   • Likewise, limit your responses to bad behavior. Don't react to bad behavior by being more attentive.More attention is only used to reward good behavior.

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   Take immediate action. Children with ADHD have difficulty focusing attention and thinking about "cause and effect". Therefore, it is important that you apply the punishment as soon as possible after the mistake.
   • The punishment applied too late after the child's mistake may no longer be meaningful. These punishments seem arbitrary and unfair to a child, leaving them feeling hurt and continuing to behave badly.

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   Guarantee validity. The penalty must be strong enough to work. If the punishment is too light, the child will despise and continue to make mistakes.
   • For example, if the punishment for refusing to do chores is just that the child has to do it later, it probably won't really work. However, not being allowed to play the game that night could be a good punishment.

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   Keep calm. Do not react impatiently to the child's unkind behavior. Keep your voice calm and calm when you apply the punishment.
   • Your angry or emotional attitudes can stress or fear children with ADHD. This is not helpful.
   • Your angry attitude is also a signal to your child that he or she can control you with bad behavior. Especially if the child shows an attitude to attract attention this encourages the bad behavior.

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   Effective use of time-out (isolating or facing a wall). A common punishment for making a mistake is “time-out”. This can be an effective tactic to discipline a child with ADHD if used correctly. Here are some tips:
   • Do not use this penalty as a "prison sentence". Instead, consider this punishment as an opportunity for your child to calm down and reflect on the situation. Ask children to think about what happened and how to deal with it. Ask your child to think about how this stops happening again and what the punishment will be if they do it again. After the penalty period is over, talk to your child about these topics.
   • When at home, find a place where your child can stand or sit. This should be a place where your child cannot watch TV or have other recreational facilities.
   • Set a certain amount of time for your child to stay still and calm down (usually no more than 1 minute for each child's five years).
   • When the baby's body begins to relax, he or she will sit still until she is calm. Maybe by this time the child will ask to talk. The key here is to give your child time and tranquility. When the time-out is effective, commend your child for doing well.
   • Don't take this as a punishment; Consider it the "reset button".
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Advice

• Be ready to repeat what you said. Children with ADHD have a short attention span, so you often have to talk again and again. Try not to get frustrated.
• When things get tough, remember that your child is also struggling with the illness. In most cases, a child's harassment is not intentional.