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• Method 1 of 4: Embrace respect as a value
• Method 2 of 4: Communicate with respect
• Method 3 of 4: Argue in a respectful way
• Method 4 of 4: Act with respect

Showing respect in your relationships with others means that you value other people without judging them, even if you disagree with their way of thinking or what they do. It is also important that you respect yourself, as that is how you lay the foundation for your respect for other people. Being able to show respect for yourself and for others is a valuable quality that can go a long way in your personal and professional life. Even if you don't agree with someone, you can still keep talking to that person and treat them with respect. And chances are you will find that if you treat others with more respect, they will have more respect for you too!

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Method 1 of 4: Embrace respect as a value

1. Respect yourself. Respect starts with yourself. Respect yourself by knowing what rights you have as a person and by allowing yourself to make choices. Respecting yourself means setting boundaries for yourself that take into account your health and what you need. You are responsible for yourself and for what you do and feel, and no one else.
   • This means that you can say "No" to people who ask you for something without feeling guilty or bad about it.
   • If someone disrespects you and doesn't see your worth as a person, you have the right to say something like, "Maybe you wouldn't want to talk to me like that?" Or, "I'd rather you not touch me." '
2. Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. If you want people to treat you nicely, be nice to others yourself. If you want people to talk to you quietly, talk quietly to others yourself. If you find that you don't like something in someone, make sure you don't treat other people the same way. Instead, say and do the things you expect others to do.
   • For example, if someone is yelling at you, respond by speaking back in a calm manner and conveying calmness and understanding with your voice.
3. Try to put yourself in the place of the other. It can be difficult to respect someone's opinions if you can't imagine them. For example, if you are arguing with someone, try to imagine what it would be like to have the other person's experiences and feelings. This can help you better understand the other person's point of view and respond in a more compassionate way.
   • Empathy, or compassion, is a skill that you can improve with practice. The more you try to understand others, the better you will be able to put yourself in their place.
   • For example, if you do not understand something someone is saying, or if you do not agree with him or her, ask if the other person can explain it to you or give you a concrete example.
4. Recognize everyone's unique value. You don't have to like someone to treat them with respect. You just have to recognize their unique value as a human being, whoever he or she is and however he or she treats you. Even if you are angry with someone or if someone has hurt you, he or she deserves your respect.
   • If you have a hard time controlling your anger and need to hold back so as not to start calling the other person names, try taking a few deep breaths. Wait a while before saying something so you can calm down first.

Method 2 of 4: Communicate with respect

1. Consider other people's feelings. Even if you don't mean to hurt others, you may accidentally hurt or hurt someone with something you've said or done. When you are going to say something, always consider the way the other person might interpret your words. Try to understand what the other feels when he or she responds or responds. When you say something sensitive, do it in a sensitive way. Your words can have a lot of influence, so use them wisely.
   • For example, if you have to cancel an appointment and you know that the other person will not like it, always consider his or her feelings when you share the bad news. For example, say, "I'm sorry to cancel and I know you will be disappointed." Let's arrange something else as soon as possible! "
2. Treat everyone in a courteous and cordial manner. Always try to ask people for a favor, instead of giving them orders. Having good manners is no more difficult than saying "please" and "thank you" when you ask someone to do something for you. Having good manners shows that you respect the time they sacrifice and the effort they put in to help you.
   • Improve the skills that show good manners. For example, apologize if you interrupt a conversation, offer someone a seat during a meeting, and wait in line for your turn.
   • Remember that ordinary good manners can help you not only show more respect for others, but also communicate better with strangers.
3. Listen carefully. Always give your full attention to someone who is talking to you. Instead of planning your answer in advance, try to really listen and hear what he or she is actually saying. Minimize the distraction around you by turning off the television and the sound from your phone.
   • In the meantime, show in a neutral way that you are listening by saying things like, "Yes," "Go on," and "I understand."
   • If you notice that your mind is wandering, ask your conversation partner to repeat what they just said so that you can actively involve yourself in the conversation again.
4. State what you want to say in a positive way. If you nitpick all the time, just criticize, demean or condemn the other person, or continuously condemn the other person, chances are he or she will not be open to what you say, and will instead feel like you does not take him or her seriously or are harassing him or her. When you have something to say, do it in a way that encourages the other person.
   • For example, if your roommate has an annoying habit that drives you crazy, make it kindly clear or say it in the form of a request. For example, instead of saying, `` I really can't stand it when you make such a mess of the bathroom, '' say, `` Could you maybe clean the bathroom the next time you're done? '' Or say something like, `` I would really appreciate it if we both put in a little more effort to clean the bathroom every day. '
   • Don't try to use passive-aggressive language to get what you want. Instead, show that you respect both yourself and others by talking directly about your needs.
5. Only give your opinions if someone asks you what you think about something. While anyone can have an opinion about anything, people may not always want to hear your opinion. Make it a habit to only give your opinion when someone asks you to. This means that you give people the opportunity to make their own choices, even if you disagree with them.
   • If you always express your opinion about everything, you can hurt others, even if you didn't mean to.
   • For example, if you don't like the new boyfriend of one of your friends, be nice enough not to tell her about it unless she asks you directly or you think she might be in danger. Sometimes having respect means letting other people make their own choices, even if you don't agree.

Method 3 of 4: Argue in a respectful way

1. Accept the opinions of others. Listen open-minded to the ideas, opinions, and advice of others. Even if you don't necessarily agree with them, try to take someone's words seriously and don't dismiss them as nonsense.
   • Show that you value him or her as a person and what he or she says. You can do this by not talking through it when he or she is speaking, by asking questions to understand the other person better and by listening to his or her opinion, even if it is different from yours.
2. Use friendly language. There is always a nice way to say something. And with that, you can make the difference between hurting someone and making a well-thought-out comment. If you tend to express yourself in a hurtful and angry way, especially during an argument or discussion, try to get used to using more gentle words.
   • For example, instead of saying, "You pay." never if we had dinner together somewhere, 'something like,' I paid last time, would you like to take this on your behalf? 'By using phrases with' me 'as the subject instead of' you 'when talking to others , you show more respect and it is easier to make it clear what you think about something without your interlocutor immediately feeling attacked.
   • Never try to belittle, insult, disparage, or insult others. If it has come to that in your discussion, you probably don't treat your conversation partner with respect. In that case, take a break.
3. Apologize if you make mistakes. If you mess it up, take responsibility for it. It is very normal to make mistakes, but it is important that you acknowledge your mistakes and understand how your mistakes can affect others. When you apologize, show that you regret it and that you know you made a mistake. And if you can, correct your mistake.
   • For example, say something like, "I'm sorry I started yelling at you. That was unkind of me and you didn't deserve it. I will try to always speak calmly to you from now on. "

Method 4 of 4: Act with respect

1. Respect other people's limits. Pressuring someone to do something is not a form of respect. When someone sets a boundary, don't try to see how far you can go or try to get the other person to cross that boundary anyway. Respect his or her limits and leave it at that.
   • For example, if someone is vegan, don't offer him or her meat anyway. If someone has different spiritual or religious beliefs than you, don't make fun of them or say they are following ideas that are wrong or incorrect.
2. Be trustworthy. If someone puts their trust in you, show them that you can indeed be trusted. For example, if someone asks you to keep a secret, keep your word. Don't abuse his or her trust by telling the secret to someone else, especially if those two people know each other.
   • Keep your word when you do or say something. Only then will people know that you are someone to be trusted.
3. Don't discuss gossip or hearsay. Talking about someone behind their back, or gossiping about someone, is not nice and indicates that you have no respect for that person. He or she cannot defend themselves or tell their side of the story at that point, while you can judge that person to your heart's content. When talking about other people, don't gossip or spread rumors or other harmful information.
   • For example, if you notice someone else starting to gossip, say something like, "I'd rather not talk about Lia in front of her. That doesn't seem fair to her. "
4. Treat everyone with respect. Whether someone has a different skin color, religion or sexual orientation, or is from another country, city, or neighborhood, treat every person in your life fairly and as your equal. If you find yourself unfairly treating someone who is different from yourself for any reason, always try to do the best you can to deal with them as fairly and justly as possible.
   • If for some reason you don't feel completely comfortable with someone, do your extra best to discover something you have in common. For example, try to find something that binds you, such as a certain sport, a hobby, a television program, art, children, growing up in a large family, etc.