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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Use Body Language to Express Confidence
• Method 2 of 3: Look for ways to start friendships
• Method 3 of 3: Focus on yourself

Adolescence is a difficult time. You are trying to become an adult and face new challenges every day. Adolescents often feel overwhelmed by the changes that are taking place, and they often suffer from low self-esteem. Remember that your feelings are normal and many people your age feel insecure. However, there are a few things you can do to become a confident person: learn to show your confidence with your body language, develop strong friendships, and try to live in harmony with yourself.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Use Body Language to Express Confidence

1. 1 Make eye contact. If you look a person in the eye, it means that you are confident. It also shows that you are a friendly and open person. People will treat you with great respect if you learn to look them in the eye.
   • Of course, you should not constantly look at the interlocutor - this can be annoying. Look away from time to time.
   • Keep practicing. At first, it will be quite difficult for you to keep eyeing the other person (instead of looking at your shoes all the time), but don't give up. After a while, you will do it more naturally.
   • Learn to make and maintain eye contact first with loved ones, such as siblings or friends. Then move on to more challenging tasks (maintain eye contact with the teacher or someone you like).
2. 2 Don't hide, stay in plain sight. Resist the temptation to cover your eyes with hair or curl up into a ball. The body language of confident people shows that they deserve to be full members of society, that they are strong and know how to control the situation.
   • Remove hair from your face. Place them behind your ears or back.
   • Don't slouch. This negatively affects your posture.In addition, others will perceive you as an unsociable and insecure person. Watch your posture: stand up straight, raise your head slightly and take your shoulders back.
   • Sit with your back straight. Do not lean forward or lean back in a chair. Keep your hands on your lap or on the table, do not cross them in front of you.
   • When you are with other people, look directly at them. Don't be left out.
3. 3 Smile. A genuine smile will make you look better and friendlier. Plus, you will feel better. Research has shown that smiling (even if you forced yourself to smile) can improve your mood. Feeling happy can help you radiate confidence.
   • Smiling helps us look more open to communication. Smile - and those around you will be willing to get to know and communicate with you. In addition, people are better at remembering those who seem cheerful and cheerful to them.
4. 4 Pretend you are a confident person until you actually become that person. In order to become a confident person, sometimes it is necessary to pretend that you are. Over time, your acting will develop into self-confidence. Pretend that you are confident, and over time, confidence will become an integral part of your character.
   • For example, you may experience fear in class due to the presence of smart classmates and difficult teaching material. Why don't you behave like your classmates who study well? Sit with your back straight, raise your hand confidently and participate in the discussion. As you begin to behave differently, you will notice that the attitude of teachers and classmates towards you changes.

Method 2 of 3: Look for ways to start friendships

1. 1 Make sure you have friends you can trust. You don't need a large circle of friends, so don't focus on popularity. You should have a few close friends with whom you can chat and have fun. Most importantly, you must trust them.
   • Friends are people with whom you should feel comfortable communicating. Each person should have friends who are ready to listen to him and support him in difficult times. You need reliable friends who can be trusted with secrets and not be afraid that they will tell your secrets to other people.
   • If your friendships consist of quarrels and conflicts, and you feel that there are more problems in your relationship than pleasant moments, it is better to think about how to stop such communication and find new friends. For example, if yesterday your friend showed you his sympathy with all his might, but today he ignores you and does not even deserve a word, you probably should not maintain friendly relations with such a person.
   • Don't stop hanging out with your close friends for the sake of people in whose presence you feel more popular.
2. 2 Share your feelings with others. It can be difficult to openly show your feelings and emotions, but the ability to be sincere is a sign of a confident person. In addition, sharing your feelings and emotions can improve your self-esteem. Of course, just the thought of showing your feelings can trigger fear. However, remember that the more often you do this, the better you will get.
   • If you are embarrassed to share your feelings with other people, think back to a situation where someone shared their secret with you. For example, your friend might share with you that he is struggling with depression. How did you react to his words? Did you condemn him or laugh at him? Chances are, you did your best to comfort him, and made it clear that you are very happy that he turned to you for help. If you have friends you trust, they will likely react in the same way.
   • Think about situations where you need to express your feelings and emotions in order to stand up for yourself. For example, imagine you find out that your friend is saying unpleasant things about you behind your back. Tell your friend how you reacted after learning about it. Mention any feelings and emotions you experienced (for example, anger, sadness, or frustration). Show your friend that this behavior is unacceptable. He must understand that you will not put up with this and hope that this will not happen again in the future.
   • To express your feelings, say, "It hurts me a lot that you don't invite me out." Don't blame your friend by saying, "You never invite me out!" The first option conveys your deep feelings and emotions, in particular your pain, and in the second option, you blame your friend. Most likely, in response to accusations, the friend will begin to defend himself, and you are unlikely to have a constructive conversation.
3. 3 Get the support of like-minded people. There should be people in your life who can become a support and support in difficult circumstances. Thanks to these people and their support, you will become a more confident person. In the company of people who care for you, you will not feel anxiety or fear, and you will also be able to be yourself.
   • These people can be your relatives, sports teammates, or members of your faith community.
   • If you do not have such people in your life, consider joining a group of like-minded people, for example, join a travel club. Get the support of people who are ready to help and provide support when you need it. Having an adult leader ensures that these values ​​and rules are respected.
4. 4 Listen to your elders. Trusted adults or relatives who are older than you have a lot of life experience. They can give you wise advice and help you see situations from the right perspective. While it may be difficult for you to imagine, they were once teenagers and faced similar problems.
   • Talking to adults will help you understand that you are not alone in experiencing these feelings. Thanks to this, you will feel more confident, as you will understand that you are a normal person who has chosen the right path.
   • Ask your parents and grandparents what they were like at your age. What were they worried about and worried about? Talk to a trusted adult whose teenage years are not easy. Ask him to describe his life as a teenager realistically.
   • You may ask, “Dad, you always tell me about your pranks at school. Have you ever had situations when you had no time for fun? "
5. 5 Take part in school activities. There are many ways to maintain relationships with your peers. Shared goals, aspirations and participation in joint projects help to bond with other teens. By achieving your goals, you will become a self-confident person.
   • Join a sports team. Join a sports club or join a high school sports team - exercising is great for improving self-esteem and building self-confidence. Being on a sports team will make new friends and feel rewarding. Plus, you will be in great physical shape and your self-esteem will increase significantly.
   • Speak to an audience. Of course, performing in front of an audience, singing, dancing, or playing an instrument takes courage. If you can survive the premiere of your performance, believe me, you will achieve anything! You will become a more confident person if you show others how talented you are.
   • Become a member of the club. Choose a club or club that suits your interests. Find out if your school has such clubs.Perhaps you enjoy doing robotics, filming, or traveling. Sign up for a hobby-related club or circle - there you can meet peers with similar hobbies. New friends and new social opportunities will help you become a more confident person.
   • Volunteer. Choose an activity that is important to you, be it protecting animal rights, caring for the environment, or helping people in difficult life situations. Not only will you become a more confident person, but you will also be able to use your abilities for the benefit of those in need.

Method 3 of 3: Focus on yourself

1. 1 Be yourself. Don't try to be different just for the sake of others to love you. In this case, it will be difficult to call you a truly confident person: rather, such behavior indicates a lack of self-confidence. This is easier said than done, of course, but here are some tips to help you be yourself.
   • Feel confident and comfortable in your own skin. Let the person inside you, such as a smart guy (eccentric, real athlete, or hippie), show themselves to others. Love yourself for who you are. You will show that you are a confident person if you love and accept yourself for who you are.
   • Learn to laugh at yourself. For example, if others taunt you because no play is complete without your participation, you can laugh at their words and say, “Yes, it's me! Drama queen! " Add a dramatic gesture to emphasize the meaning of your words.
   • Don't try to be who you are not. Others will certainly notice this, and you will feel like nothing.
   • Trust your intuition. By listening to your gut, you can determine if you are doing whatever is necessary to make you feel good - for example, if you are uncomfortable in a rowdy crowd at a football game, this is not your personal fault. Perhaps it is the voice of intuition that says you don't belong here.
2. 2 Be honest. Speak the truth about who you are and the mistakes you have made. Letting others know about your weaknesses and staying who you really are can help you become a more confident person. People will appreciate that you share your feelings with them. You will find that others accept you for who you are, despite your shortcomings.
   • If others find out about your weaknesses and shortcomings, believe me, this is not the worst thing that can happen. In fact, it can even help develop relationships with others. You will find that people who are important in your life will accept you for who you are, despite your weaknesses.
   • For example, you might say that you are very upset that your father is about to remarry. You can say, "I feel like my father communicates less with me because he has a new family." Even if your friends did not face similar situations, each of them had a feeling of rejection. Having heard about your problem, friends will certainly share their experience.
3. 3 Do something new for yourself. Adolescence is a period of self-discovery. Allow yourself to try new things and still make mistakes. You will understand that if you fail, it is not the end of the world.
   • Do what you have always wanted to do, but you thought this task was very difficult or even daunting! For example, you might try asking someone you like out on a date, entering a talent contest, or joining an athletics team.
   • Of course, it can be hard and scary, but think about the fact that in the end you will feel satisfaction and with a sense of accomplishment you can move on.Also, think about the fact that next time it will be easier for you to do this task.
4. 4 Keep a diary. Journaling is a great way to keep track of your feelings and emotions, your development, and find possible solutions to a problem. As you look through the previous pages, you will understand that a problem that once seemed very serious to you has now become quite insignificant. You will learn not to get upset over little things.
   • You will get to know yourself better, and this, in turn, will have a positive effect on you - you will become a more confident person.
   • You will also have records of your life as a teenager. By looking back and reviewing these recordings, you will be able to treat young people with understanding as you become an adult.
5. 5 Remember that others feel the same way you do. Being a teenager is a daunting task. You get to know yourself as a person, expand the scope of your freedom and learn a lot about the world around you ... just like your peers! Remember that your feelings and inner struggles are normal for your age.
   • Treat yourself with condescension. Allow yourself to make mistakes and not know something. Remember that there are no people who do not make mistakes and have unlimited knowledge (this also applies to adults)!
   • Don't put pressure on yourself trying to find out who you really are and what you want out of life. Knowing yourself is a long, lifelong process. It doesn't happen overnight or during adolescence. Let everything go as usual - in due time you will find answers to important questions for you.