Content

• Steps
• Part 1 of 3: Spotting Strange Behavior
• Part 2 of 3: Traits of the stalker
• Part 3 of 3: How to Recognize a Stalker
• Tips

Many people do not take the persecution seriously, which can lead to dangerous situations. A bully is someone who expresses their attention in a way that makes others feel fearful. Persecuting people is prohibited by law. This behavior often borders on harassment and coercion. If you think you are being stalked or have concerns about other people's behavior, take external signs and “premonitions” seriously, and also report the situation to law enforcement officials. Watch out for any strange behavior, as well as study the personal traits and characteristics of the persecutors.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Spotting Strange Behavior

1. 1 Urgent and constant need for communication. The stalker may urgently and continuously try to get in touch with you. This leads to sudden calls, messages, emails, or visits that create an intrusive feeling. If attempts to establish communication have gone beyond social norms and acceptable levels of comfort, then such behavior belongs to stalking.
   • A person may try to get in touch through different social networks and “make friends” with you, after which a continuous stream of messages begins. For many, this is embarrassing.
2. 2 Obsession and surveillance. A person with a persecutory tendency may insist on attending events with you, meetings with friends and family. He always wants to know where you are going and what you are going to do. Questions like this about your whereabouts and plans create awkwardness.
   • Trying to find out what you do every day is a wake-up call. There is a big difference between being interested in your life and an obsession with knowing absolutely everything about you.
   • If your new partner has this behavior, then it is better to give up dating.
3. 3 Awareness of your business goes beyond what you say. The bully may have information that you never shared with him. These people collect personal information about you, including your place of work, your friends, family, and places you love. They often know your route to and from work, your gym schedule, and other recurring events.
   • The persecutor can “puncture” and tell what you did not tell him about. This is an alarming signal.
4. 4 Social awkwardness. The persecutor rarely knows the limits of acceptable social behavior. He regularly experiences social awkwardness, has no idea about the norms of communication, does not "fit" into the team. The persecutor knows little about how it is customary to behave in society, and is also mistaken in others' assessments at his own expense. Often these people have no friends and have extremely low self-esteem.
   • Some people are just awkward in expressing their attention. If they do not show obsessive tendencies, do not create threats and do not cling specifically to you, then the reason may be a low level of socialization.
5. 5 Disrespect for personal boundaries. Pay attention to the person's reaction if you politely ask him to respect your boundaries: "Please do not start a conversation when I am working" or "Could you stop calling me after nine in the evening when I am resting?" The average person will show respect, while the persecutor ignores personal boundaries. He will ignore any framework, invade your personal space in other ways (for example, spy), scare you in order to forget about the boundaries.
   • People with social awkwardness and people with developmental problems misinterpret body language, but when asked unambiguously, they will always listen to you.
6. 6 Unexpected visits. A person with a tendency to persecute may drop in to visit you at the most unexpected moment. If you reported your employment, and the person decided to visit you without warning, then this creates problems. Pay attention to these signals of total disrespect for your personal life.
   • Your actions may seem completely innocent, but pay attention to how you feel. Do you have at least a minimal sense of awkwardness or danger? Does the visit look too insistent or intrusive?
   • You may often bump into your stalker when you leave the house. This may be because the person has memorized your schedule and knows where to look for you.
7. 7 Physical aggression in behavior. The persecutor often wants you to belong to him alone. If you try to distance yourself, outbursts of aggression and attempts at coercion are possible. If you want to leave, the person gets upset and believes that you have betrayed him. This often leads to physical aggression. He may follow you on your heels or be nearby, as if saying, "You can't run away from me, you don't have to try."
8. 8 Other signs of anxiety. Harassment can take many forms. If a person's actions in relation to you cause concern, urgently contact law enforcement. Examples of behavior to report to the police:
   • a person spoils your property;
   • sends you photographs, letters or other items by mail;
   • often drives by your house;
   • writes false statements about you to the police.
9. 9 How do you respond to this behavior? If you think you are being stalked, take urgent action. Do you feel threatened when communicating with someone you know? Ask clearly and unambiguously to leave you alone. Use social media less often and take care of your safety: change door locks, close windows, change your phone number and your daily routine. Try not to appear on the street alone, tell your friends, relatives, employees and neighbors about the situation, and ask for help.
   • Don't try to fight back on your own. Get the support of a friend, relative, or acquaintance. Notify the police if necessary.

Part 2 of 3: Traits of the stalker

1. 1 Obsessions. Many persecutors suffer from obsessions. They may think that you have something they want or need, or they may regard you as their only soul mate, strive to find out an important secret or secret.
   • Obsessions seem to be a reality to the person and feed the tendency to persecute.
2. 2 Assertiveness. Many persecutors are overly assertive. When they first meet, they can look you in the eye constantly and steadily. This behavior can be flattering at first, but over time you feel threatened. The person may think that there is a strong bond between you or that you were born for each other.
   • Assertiveness can manifest itself in continuous messages, frequent visits, and sophisticated ways to get your attention.
3. 3 Obsession. Stalkers may show signs of possession. They may not accept rejection and exhibit strong obsession. This obsession is discouraging, but the person is not aware of the impact of his behavior.
   • He may be so obsessed with his ideas and thoughts that trying to persecute you will become the meaning of his life. For example, a person might become obsessed with seeing you every day or knowing what you will be doing.
4. 4 The need for control. Feeling in control of the situation also adds fuel to the fire. The more a person knows about you, the more power and control they can experience over you.Often for this, he tries to be aware of every little thing in your life. This is especially evident in social networks. The person may ask many questions about the photos and events you attend.
   • Pay attention to attempts to inquire about your location or to recognize the person in the photo with you.
5. 5 Broad gestures. Often, the persecutor will feel that he is only capable of loving you. Such romantic impulses quickly turn into obsession and persecution. This person may try to win you over with sweeping gestures to prove their feelings, even if you don't show the slightest interest in them. Such gestures include expensive gifts, long journeys hoping to meet you, or frequent marriage proposals.

Part 3 of 3: How to Recognize a Stalker

1. 1 Demographic description. Recently, a description of some of the patterns in the portrait of the pursuers has appeared. As a general rule, special attention should be paid to unemployed and underemployed people in their 40s, often with higher education. Most often, the persecutor is a man, but women should also not be discounted.
   • These people often abuse alcohol, use drugs, or may have a variety of personality disorders.
2. 2 People from your circle of acquaintances. Often times, the stalker will be familiar to you. The most likely candidate is a former romantic partner. If such a person has previously been seen in domestic violence, then be on the lookout. He can come to your work and be a danger to everyone around you. Familiar people often know the places that you often visit, so it is easy for them to find you.
   • If you fear harassment from your ex-partner, then inform the security at the place of work and show a photo of the person. You can also warn employees about the potential danger: “One dangerous person is chasing me. I ask you not to let him into our office. ”
   • Sometimes a former employee, a resentful relative, or a rejected friend may stalk you out of revenge.
3. 3 Stranger stalker. If you are being stalked by a stranger, then this is a significant cause for concern, as is the case with familiar people. A stranger's motives are almost always unknown, as are the danger he may pose. Common reasons for this behavior include feelings of lust towards you, agreement or disagreement on political issues, rejected feelings, or attempts to harass a celebrity.
   • If you are concerned, you should report it to the police.
4. 4 Ask for help. If you are being persecuted, you should seek help as soon as possible. If this behavior is not stopped, the situation can become overly dangerous. Contact law enforcement officials immediately.
   • In case of imminent danger, the police should be called immediately.

Tips

• If you think you are in danger, call the emergency services at 112 or 102.
• Collect evidence to make a statement. Save SMS, voice messages, videos and other confirmations of threats or similar actions.
• Review applicable laws. All the information you need can be found on the Internet.