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The main concept of an individual "weakness" is imperfections. The "downside" is imperfections. There are no perfect people, so everyone is flawed. However, there will be many aspects of your personality, abilities, or habits that stress you out in certain situations. Find a way to understand and love yourself, and start calling those "weaknesses" by a different name.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Building a real self-assessment

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   Rename blemishes. Avoid calling flaws "weaknesses". Instead, view them as a trait, rather than judge them harshly. Should call them "disability", "habit" or "my personality".
   • Don't label your personality as a weakness. You can think of yourself as "shy" or "indifferent" - something that is probably bad. Or you can just think of yourself as someone who takes time to get excited about a new person - that's okay.
   • Use loving and detailed language instead of ambiguous and critical. Look in the mirror every day and say, "I really love myself." Literally aloud. On top of a high-rise building and scream: "I'm proud of myself". For example, let's say your downside has become extremely bad. If so, climb onto the roof and shout: "I'm ugly and I'm proud". People will respect you for the courage you just have.
   • Is that "handicap"? A relatively harmless downside might not really need a "fix". You just need to learn how to match the difference.
   • Is that something that is sometimes helpful? Some of the traits are sometimes good, sometimes they are bad. That's not a downside; It's just something you have to work hard to know when to use it, and when you have to approach things the other way around. For example:
   • Stubbornness can be determination. A stubborn person can be firm when things go wrong, and that causes problems. But becoming steadfast in the right things can be a real gift.
   • Perfectionism is sometimes perfect. Perfectionists get into trouble when they try to fit the imperfect world into the standards that require effort and frustration when the world is not united. But for surgeons, Olympic athletes, and engineers, developing in jobs where perfection is the goal.

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   Make a list all Your strengths and abilities. Include everything that happens to you. Don't remove any quality because you think it may not be necessary or stand out. List things like patience, kindness, courage, determination, taste, intelligence, or loyalty. Sometimes there is so much focus on blemishes that one's strengths are lost. Having an easy-to-understand self-assessment will help you get a more balanced view of yourself.
   • If you're feeling too depressed to make a list on your own, write for a while first.
   • Also get opinions from friends and family. Sometimes others see the good in us that we don't always admit to ourselves. And often these qualities are underrepresented.

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   List some things that you are proud of. List achievements such as goals you have reached, moments when you surprised yourself, and hard times over. You can be proud of recovering from a difficult situation, being with someone when they were in trouble, completing projects at work or school, or some of the things you've learned. . Write down your strengths, things that you have learned to do well.

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   List and pay attention to your own trends or needs. Write freely, making a list of things that are uncomfortable. Make a list of the things about yourself that you want to change. Be as specific as possible. For example, instead of writing: "My appearance" write: "I don't like when my skin has acne breakouts". If you're writing about an issue, put it in context as much as possible.

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   Think about your past experiences. Ask yourself how you have certain habits and lifestyles. Are they cultural? Are they familiar? Is it biological? When did they happen? Have you been criticized by someone else? Are you paying attention to messages from companies that are trying to make you insecure to sell you something? If you say something you regret later, ask yourself if this is the lack of ingenuity you have learned from your family, or this is your response to the dilemma.
   • If you spend too much money, ask yourself what drives these incidents, how you first started spending your money, and what you wanted while spending it.
   • The more you understand your past behavior, the more likely you are to forgive yourself for them.

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   Reshape your thoughts. What made you see them as "disadvantages"? Are these characteristics positive? Take a look at your list of strengths and ask yourself if any of the strengths listed are linked to qualities you consider "weaknesses". Start thinking of your traits in a positive way.
   • Perhaps you find yourself too sensitive. Reshape this thinking to remind yourself that sentimentality is why you have strong empathy skills to comfort others in times of difficulty, and why people seek care for you. and support.
   • Or perhaps you feel excitable easily, but that can be associated with incredible creativity.
   • Positive shaping won't change these qualities, but it can give you a healthy change in your outlook that will help you accept yourself.
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Part 2 of 3: Practice of complete self-acceptance

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   Avoid self-criticism. Treat yourself with kindness and respect. Instead of blaming yourself, talk to yourself calmly. When negative thoughts and feelings come along, identify them. You can say, "This is the thought I'm too fat", or, "Ah, I think 'everyone knows more than me'".

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   Accept affirmations from others. When you get complimented, say, "Thank you". If the compliment is genuine and sincere, it's rude to deny it. Rejecting a compliment means missing out on opportunities for positive connections with others, and positive affirmations for yourself. Let your friends and family tell you about you.
   • If you feel really down about yourself, you can ask someone you love to tell you something they like about you. Proceeding to receive and give advice.

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   Notice if someone is trying to pull you down. Some cruel people conceal them with a kind appearance. Do you have a friend who points out his flaws? Is there someone in your life that makes you happy or criticizes you in public or private? When you are proud of something, does anyone try to lower you as much as possible by acting flustered or humiliating?
   • Try to remove these people from your life or spend as little time with them as possible.

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   Love yourself before you improve. Accept your situation before trying to make a radical change. If you try to correct yourself without first acknowledging your inherent worth and cuteness, you can hurt yourself. Self-improvement helps, but first you have to love yourself. See yourself as a sumptuous garden that needs watering, pruning, planting, and general maintenance: to prevent waterlogging and fire.
   • If you want to perform better at school, first of all tell yourself: "I'm smart, work hard, and I have dreams and ambitions. I have the ability to do what I want to do".
   • Say the above instead of saying, "I'm too stupid, lazy and I failed my final exam and I will fail next time."
   • Once you have a positive framework, you can continue to follow the action plan.

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   Reshape the way you see self-improvement. When there is something you want to go on, you are not removing or concealing your weaknesses, but rather, you are learning new skills.
   • Instead of saying, "I'll stop talking too much," tell yourself: "I'll learn to listen more effectively."
   • Instead of saying, "I'll stop being critical," try saying, "I'll work harder to understand and accept different perspectives and ways of life."
   • Instead of saying, "I'm going to lose weight," try saying, "I will continue to take care of my body better by exercising more, eating better and reducing stress."

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   Realize unrealistic standards. There are many images, beliefs and ideas that we encounter in the world. They may not be practical enough to make themselves or others respect. These may come from the media, from organizations such as schools, or being organized by family and friends. If you find yourself unhappy with some aspect of yourself, you may be faced with these ideas. For example:
   • Looks like supermodels. Only a very small percentage of people can come from anywhere like an actor, model or someone. Most people are not born to be beautiful, sick, and whatever is "in" beauty is present. However, they often have a team of makeup, personal trainer, designers and graphic artists to create this image. Lowering this standard isn't a downside — you're just ordinary people, that's fine. If you let yourself chase a standard of reality, of course you won't be happy.
   • Be a perfect student. Most education focuses on math, science and literacy. While these are important, not everyone sees them as strengths. Even the best performers fail or sometimes forget the deadline. Unfortunately, schools often don't classify what a good friend you are, your artistic abilities, or how good at sports you are, your hard work, or your courageous, adventurous mindset. friend. Not being a good student isn't necessarily a downside — just that your strength may lie in another field. You can be a successful person without necessarily being an A student.
   • No need to "achieve high performance" like other family members. You may feel flawed when you don't own a family trait that is appreciated by other members. You may not be perfect, but you are different. While a proper and loving family can accept this, it can be hard to be yourself if you are not like others. This may include:
     • Sports ability / hobby
     • Knowledge
     • Political bias.
     • Trust
     • Excited about the family business
     • Artistry
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Part 3 of 3: Going forward

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   Understand the difference between self-improvement and self-acceptance. Accepting both the good and the bad doesn't mean you can't commit yourself to personal growth. It's as simple as accepting yourself — not just the good or the bad — but who you are. You are yourself and that is normal, flawed, and everything. Self-acceptance means that you accept yourself unconditionally in the present, imperfect and unique.
   • If you keep thinking, "I can accept myself if I stop overeating and lose weight", then you are setting the conditions for self-acceptance that can always be disrupted. Feel free to pursue self-improvement, make yourself more productive or become stronger, but never take it as condition so that you can accept yourself.

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   Learn how to ask for help. It is natural to have conflict or feel depressed about yourself sometimes. One of the ways to make things better is to talk about your feelings or ask the people around you to help you. You don't have to be alone, and you deserve help.
   • If you have a hard time at school or work, talk to someone. They can listen sincerely and help you figure out how to make things better.
   • If you often feel negative towards yourself, consider asking your doctor to check for issues like anxiety, depression, and physical disorder. Getting help is the first step you need to take to improve the problem.
3. See yourself as work in progress. Time and experience create many opportunities to fulfill weaknesses. To grow and develop, we will often need time and make many mistakes, and even years. Be patient with yourself. Requiring to overcome shortcomings easily and quickly leads to disappointment, because people need to grow, develop and learn for a lifetime. For example:
   • Impatient teenagers become responsible adults.
   • A third grader who was once a poor student improves his grades as he learns some new learning skills.

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   Find a support group. Support groups are available for many reasons: from building self-esteem to recovering from eating disorders. Consider searching for local support groups or finding active online spaces if you're struggling with something. Groups can help you understand, accept your traits, and feel less lonely.
   • There are many different groups that aim to help minority groups. You can find many communities that will support your self-esteem and help you deal with problems, like Health At Every Size, Autistic Culture, and the website asexuality.org. Call 1900599930 to contact the Center for Psychological Crisis Prevention (PCP).

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   Hang out with positive people. Spend time with someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Limit your contact with people that make you feel bad. It is important to spend time with someone who supports you and makes you happier.
   • Take the initiative and ask people to hang out with you. Invite them to go for a walk with you, visit to talk, or make a plan with them.

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   Continue forgive. We may wish for a lot, but we cannot change the past. Reflect on your past mistakes as a result of a decision or the way you acted. What you can do is admit mistakes and try to learn and grow from the experience.
   • If you can't stop focusing on the mistake, tell yourself: "I made the best decision with the information (or ability) I had at the time." With mistakes over, you now have new information as you make decisions for the future.
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Advice

• Some "blemishes" are actually symptoms of a defect, like autism, dyslexia, or Attention deficit / hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). If you have a variety of habits that make you look different, you may need to do some research and talk to your doctor. Diagnosing your disability will help you get help, better understand yourself, and connect with a community of support for the disabled.