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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

You may have countless friends, Facebook contacts and social relationships you can't remember, but do you feel really connected to those "friends"? How are you so sure? Read on to this article if you want to take the friendship test and find good friends.

Steps

Part 1 of 2: The friendship challenge

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   Ask that friend for help. When you need help, is that friend with you? Or does that person make excuses and disappear whenever it is inconvenient? Real friends are there when you need a helping hand, and when you're done they will celebrate with you.
   • Those friends will help you pack your things, drive you to the airport and do your homework with you.
   • Avoid asking too much. If you need help all the time, it will be difficult for people to be with you and see you as your friend.

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   Change of plan agreed with that person. If you are already good friends, no matter what the plan is, you will still be friends. The occasions of gathering with friends are an opportunity for us to have a good time, and meeting each other alone is enough fun. How will that person react if you decide to change your plans? If you have a date out for a night out, try to see if they would rather stay home watching television alone than agree with you.
   • Even if your offer is turned down, you won't necessarily lose your friendship, but you can learn a lot about the person by how they react. Does the person react as if your opinion is silly? That is not good Or does the friend just want to either go to the movies, or stay home alone? This is another story.

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   Open up to a friend and tell a personal story of yourself. Schoolmates or acquaintances often don't pay attention to helping you in difficult times. They just want to have friends to happily gather on the weekends. But even so, that doesn't mean you can't find true friendship in it. If you want to know who are good friends, you need to open up and see how they react.
   • Talk to the person about your date or about a family problem that is giving you a headache. Don't expect an answer, but if you are not listening and sympathetic, or the other person seems upset, that's not a good sign.
   • Gossip stories are another story. Many people love to gossip, but this doesn't mean they are good friends.

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   Invite your friend over to your house to play with your loved one. While a best friend doesn't have to get along well with your parents and siblings, it's a good sign if they get along with your family. If the person likes to come to your house to play and your family likes them, then they are comfortable with you, and you can trust your friend's words to be sincere.
   • Inviting a friend over for dinner is a quick and easy test. Remember to ask your parents first.

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   Beware of "exploitation" signs. Just buying your car, how many "friends" do you suddenly have at school, who were not interested in you before? Often people will act friendly when they want to take advantage of something from you. It's best to avoid these types of relationships. The abusers will flatter you and delight you with their care, but they will never be with you when the situation doesn't work out as it should.
   • If you have a friend who hitchhiked your car, played your game, or came to your house just for a swim, make an appointment for them to hang out at another time, or tell them your car is being repaired. If they cancel, that's a bad sign.

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   Watch for signs of jealousy. Jealousy can sometimes creep into a friendship, especially if two people are in different positions. Suppose you and your friend are on the same team, but you can switch to the school and the other friend cannot, the friendship between the two may begin to crack. But good friends can learn to overcome an initial feeling of jealousy and put friendship first. Signs of envy include:
   • The other person never compliments your successes, or often condemns you instead of congratulating you.
   • That person begins to distance himself from you.
   • You feel a "negative" energy when you are with the person.
   • The other person goes missing when you have trouble and need help.

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   Notice the signs of a double-sided person. Anyone who slanders you to others is not a good friend. If someone talks to you at one time or another, or they talk about you in front of you unlike when they talk to others then that person can't be friends.
   • You can talk to other friends if you are curious to know what is being said behind your back. Good friends will tell you the truth.
   • People who often say malicious things to you are clearly not friends. Making fun of someone is one thing, but if someone is low on you and doesn't mind that their actions hurt you, that person is not worth considering you.

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   Face off against the person you think they are playing against you. If you suspect that a friend is jealous of you, takes advantage of you, or lives a leafy lifestyle against you but cannot make it clear, ask them to speak face-to-face with you and ask, “We have is that you? "
   • While the question may sound a bit odd and may be shocking, name the phenomena that you recently noticed. “I saw you only play with me when you wanted to swim at my pool, and you even talked badly behind me. So, not you. What happened?"
   • Let the person explain. If what they say makes you uncomfortable, or if they try to advocate for an unsuspecting behavior, then the person is not your friend.
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Part 2 of 2: Choose good friends

1. 

   Listen to your intuition. Friendship and friends are very diverse. Your feelings about your friends are largely based on instinct and intuition. If you feel like someone really cares for you and you believe that the person really is you, then it probably is. If you have come to your country you have to wonder if they are good friends, perhaps the answer is no.
   • Ask yourself multiple choice questions even if you're unsure of the answers, and follow your hunch: Would that friend come to the airport to pick you up at midnight if you need to? Would they sit and talk to your grandparents during that boring Sunday dinner just to be a good friend and hang out with you afterward? Do they celebrate your success when they are not like you?

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   Play with friends who always support you. As friends, you must be together, share sweet moments in happy moments and help each other in tribulation. Anyone who doesn't support you mentally is not your friend. A person is called a friend if they:
   • Praise you sincerely
   • Tell others well about you.
   • Looks really excited for your success.
   • Be sympathetic to you when you get stuck.

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   Be with people who accept who you are. Friendship is not built on external frivolities. Someone who wants to befriend you for your car, your swimming pool or because you are the cool guy or girl at school, that person is not a real friend. Friends need to be by your side for who you are. A true friend would:
   • Don't force you to do things you don't want to do.
   • Don't judge you because you were straightforward.
   • Don't shame you and don't be ashamed of you.
   • Behave consistently in front of and behind you.
   • Doesn't ask you too much.

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   Maintain friendships with those around you when you make mistakes. Friendship is not always filled with laughter. Good friends want the best for you, especially when you make mistakes. This can be a bit complicated, since even though you need a friend to accept you, they also have to know when you stumble and be ready to lift you up. Your true friend will:
   • Don't graciously disagree with you.
   • Don't criticize you personally
   • Always want the best for you.
   • Understand what you want and what you need.

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   Connect with people you listen to. If the person is always absentminded around you, or seems like they want to be somewhere else, to hang out with other people, then that's not a good sign. This can happen to old friends, people you have known for a long time but sometimes something suddenly changes, and the relationship is no longer the same. A true friend must be someone who:
   • Stay in touch with you even if you've changed.
   • Always value friendship.
   • Would like to hear from you about details in your life.
   • Remember the conversations you used to have.

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   Play with people who are comfortable around you. Friendship is not always all pink, but it shouldn't be stressful either. If you get scared at the thought of hanging out with the person, or seem reluctant to go with you, then the friendship probably isn't that good anymore. That person is your friend if they:
   • Easy to get along with you.
   • Makes you feel good.
   • Doesn't make you more stressful.
   • Do not exaggerate everything.

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   Maintain friendships with tolerant people. Unless you are really annoying, a true friend will forgive you for your mistakes and sincerely apologize. Friends must be willing to ignore each other's stumbles, shortcomings and small mistakes if they really understand and think about each other. That person is your friend if they:
   • Accept your apology.
   • Forgive the times you didn't do what they expected.
   • Doesn't require you to be different from who you really are.
   • Do not re-dig the old things.

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   Be a good friend. If you want to have good friends, you must also be a good friend. It would be flawed if you just expect all your friends to always surround you, support you and listen to you. If you are not yet concerned with reciprocating the kindness and altruism required in a friendship, reread this list and do everything you would expect from them to do with your friends. Then you can be confident that your friends are true, sincere, and lasting friends. advertisement

Advice

• Sometimes a good friend rejects your last minute plan. Investigate the situation before making a cruel and irreversible decision.
• Remember that the person who always keeps promises to those around him is honest.No matter what, your friend will treat you like that - keep your commitment. As long as they don't dismiss all of the plans you have prepared for both of you, all will be fine. Be open and generous, but also be careful when judging your friend.
• Some of you have a plan for something after school. Maybe the friend is about to take part in an important swimming competition and will have to go to the pool every day to practice every day, so it's best to ask a parent or sibling.
• Maintain friendships with people who stand up for you. If you are in a situation where you have to cope with a large number of people, value a friend who stays with you and fight for you. This may sound exaggerated, but to a lesser extent it helps.
• Don't be in a hurry to cut off your friendship just because it doesn't seem perfect. No friendship is perfect, and every road has bumpy sections.

Warning

• If you let go of a friend, make sure it's a fake friendship. If they're really good friends, you could lose a friendship that's hard to find.