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• Method 1 of 5: Is something wrong?
• Method 2 of 5: Notice if the other person is secretive
• Method 3 of 5: Listen to what is being said
• Method 4 of 5: Noticing the warning signs
• Method 5 of 5: Asking your boyfriend or girlfriend for an explanation
• Tips
• Warnings

A cheating boyfriend or girlfriend is something we worry about. Not everyone cheats. These concerns are sometimes unfounded. Maybe he really has to work late and maybe the strange woman in your bathroom is really his sister. Either way, here are some clear signs that your partner is cheating on you. Before doing this, ask yourself: Does he love you? If the answer is yes then he is not cheating on you and then these clues apply to typical lying fools and you should spend your day thinking about all the positive things he or she does for you and how much they may not like keep you.

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Method 1 of 5: Is something wrong?

1. Watch for changes in your boyfriend or girlfriend's normal routine. For example, does he or she return from work later than usual on certain nights? Sometimes these little changes in someone's routine mean nothing more than life has given them a reason to be unavailable, but it's still something you should be aware of.
2. Decide if you feel like they have suddenly become moody and arguing. Sometimes a cheating loved one will focus their shame, anger, and guilt on you by arguing, after which you can be blamed. Simply put, they need a place where they can let go of their negative feelings.
3. Find out if your boyfriend or girlfriend is no longer talking to you. Did the one you love always have something to say and is he or she now suddenly closed? It may be that your relationship is becoming less intimate because your loved one has started a new one with someone else.
4. Find out if your boyfriend or girlfriend smells strange when he or she is close to you. Everyone knows that this clue is stereotypical, but it can indicate something. If he or she comes by smelling of a perfume or aftershave that you are not using, he or she has been too close to someone who is using it.
5. Notice changed interests, including interest in music, political views, interest in social issues, favorite books or movies, etc. If someone spends enough time with someone else, he / she will begin to adopt, or at least begin to understand, the way they view the world. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is interested in things they hated at first, they may be influenced by someone else more than usual.

Method 2 of 5: Notice if the other person is secretive

1. Check the status of trust within the relationship. Does your loved one allow you to touch their phone, or view phone files, emails, etc.? If your boyfriend or girlfriend hides their phone from you, or clears all messages before you can use it, there's something they don't want you to see.
2. Make sure they leave the room before answering the phone. Do he or she always answer "It was nobody" when you ask him / her who called or messaged? These are also important signs that your boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. has something to hide.
3. Make sure the other person does not want to let you in if you are on the sidewalk unannounced. Does he or she get angry if you drop by unannounced, or do they only text you when they get home and never call you? These are also signs of adultery. For some reason, they don't want you in their house at certain times, and don't want to call you when they get home.
4. Note if he / she has to "clean" before you can enter his or her house, room, or car. If there is an earring in the passenger's side of their car, or a condom behind their bed, extra time will likely be spent removing these items.

Method 3 of 5: Listen to what is being said

1. Notice if a friend is constantly criticizing someone else. They may say terrible things about that person, but note that they talk about that person 24/7. They try to trick you into believing that person is unwanted, thus preventing you from becoming suspicious.
2. Catch them in a lie. Casually ask a friend where they were on a particular day and let them answer. Memorize their answer and ask the question again a few days later. If they lie constantly, they will have a hard time keeping up. They can get angry with these simple questions, which is another clear indication.

Method 4 of 5: Noticing the warning signs

1. Note if there are any unexplained bills, meal receipts, etc. for two persons. If you keep coming across McDonalds receipts that say two different meals, or two soda cups in the cup holders, or a bill for a bracelet you didn't get, be careful.
2. Find out if your friend has additional email accounts, or other online accounts, or suddenly changes his or her passwords to keep you out of their accounts. If they haven't given you their password to begin with, there is generally nothing behind it. However, if they have suddenly changed it to hide the messages they have written or their chats, then you should be on the lookout for this potential warning sign.
3. Notice if his or her friends behave differently towards you. Have his or her friends started acting strangely around you? Do his friends seem tense, nervous, or do they seem eager to leave if you happen to run into them and have a chat with them? They probably know something you don't know.
4. Notice if he suddenly starts buying presents for you, or she starts dropping a hint about ending the relationship every now and then. Questions like "What would you do if we left each other?" Are important hints. Both men and women start to feel guilty. This guilt can be easily hidden by doing or buying something for the other person, making the person who is cheating on you feel selfless.

Method 5 of 5: Asking your boyfriend or girlfriend for an explanation

1. Pay attention to the way your boyfriend or girlfriend explains his or her behavior to you. If they effortlessly give you detailed reasons that seem thought out ahead of time, they probably are. He or she probably figured out what, based on their indiscreet behavior, your questions would be, and came up with a story beforehand to explain it all. Listen carefully and pay attention to details that are too prominent in their story (names, times, exact locations, etc.) and keep a mental list of those things.
2. Remember the reaction. Do they shake their heads, throw their hands in the air, or make similar gestures to express exhaustion, confusion, and disbelief about their "maddening night" or event, when they have finished telling their story. The way someone uses body language can easily reveal whether he or she is "pretending".
3. After pausing for a moment, and once the story has been told, you need to remember one detail that stood out in your view. Keep it a seemingly harmless detail that won't startle your partner or make you suspect you're suspicious (you're not interested in specific moments). Now ask him or her an abstract question about the detail in question that you have chosen. Innocently ask when this "detail" or event occurred, or ask another simple question. If he or she is not being honest with you, they will show this when answering this question.
4. Watch what happens now. Was there an embarrassed silence or did they change their attitude before answering your question? Did they stutter or became nervous about what to say? Did they look like a deer trapped in the light of your headlights? If so, here's why: If someone is telling the truth, they don't have to think about the answer for more than a few seconds. The details are already in place because it actually happened. However, if the person is lying, he will have to pause to, in his head, dig through his previously told story from the beginning in order to answer. He or she will have to remember which part of the story this question refers to, and that takes some thinking time. Since the "unimportant" detail you asked them for was not prominent when they made up their excuse, they will most likely not have an answer ready.
5. Do this again with another question that focuses on an unimportant detail. Keep a close eye. Do you see how they have to think about it again? Do they get frustrated, start snapping at your "stupid questions," and / or ask, "Who cares?" If so, this is one way to buy time to come up with new details. It's also a handy diversion to swipe the finger at you to point and you the one who did it because you asked about it at all. How many times have we heard, "What exactly are you trying to say?"
6. Expect to be questioned yourself too. Usually, your partner will start questioning you and inevitably say, "What? You do not believe me? Do you think I'm lying to you? ".
7. Wait patiently. Eventually you will hear the sweet words, "What? Do you think I'm cheating ?! "Bingo!
8. Ask yourself the following question: have you insinuated that they are hiding something from you? Did you steer the story in any direction so that you could question him / her and then grossly accuse him or her of adultery? Have you accused them of anything at all? By asking simple questions, your partner has shown not only what kind of behavior they have been hiding from you, but also that they just made up their entire story, no matter how solid they thought it was, and were taken by surprise. Once at this point, if you ask at random, he / she will likely start to sweat, panic, or lose the ability to accurately remember his or her story. The discrepancies will flow freely at this point and you will soon have enough information to be sure that your partner is "honest."

Tips

• Be discreet when trying to catch someone cheating. If you show that you understand them, they will act as if nothing is wrong. Your best bet is to wait for them to make a mistake.
• Pay attention to the degree to which your suspicious partner wants to be intimate with you. If this decreases, it could be a sign that they are actually longing for someone else.
• Just know the person too. Know their personality and how they behaved before starting a relationship with you. Did they flirt a lot before they knew you? Have they committed adultery before while with someone else? How many people have they dated or slept with? Some people would never commit adultery while others find it so common that they hardly think about it anymore. It helps if you know who you love.
• If he / she commits adultery, you must ban him or her from your life. Enjoy your life and be glad you found out.
• Sometimes cheaters are just cheaters. People can be self-centered, unconcerned with other people's feelings, and don't feel like changing. Try to keep these types of people out of your life.
• Do not fight; just talk about it. You should be strong enough to talk it through.
• Have your friends help you assess the situation. If you feel like the one you love has changed, your friends may have noticed and help you figure out why this happened. They can be especially careful if he is acting strangely when they are in the same class as him.
• Pay attention to the influences in your partner's life. Are she or her sisters, brothers, parents, etc. cheating or have they done so? This is not necessarily an indication that someone is a cheater, but nonetheless, this type of behavior affects others.

Warnings

• A liar can make you stop trusting your gut feeling when you raise something. A liar can convince you that you are being paranoid and that these suspicious feelings are normal. Keep that in mind before asking your partner why he / she should leave to answer the phone.
• If your partner is committing adultery, chances are he / she isn't averse to lying either. If you ask him or her about the signs you've noticed, and those signs disappear afterward, then your partner is probably hiding everything you've noticed before.