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• Method 1 of 3: Things you can do every day
• Method 2 of 3: Nice surprises
• Method 3 of 3: Go all out

You know you care about your girlfriend, but you worry about not showing it enough. Maybe she's starting to look like she's seen it. Here are a few tips to spice up your relationship and show her that she's the most important thing in the world to you.

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Method 1 of 3: Things you can do every day

1. Be direct. Don't assume that your girlfriend knows how you feel about her. Make sure to tell her exactly how you feel. Ambiguity leads to insecurity and this can put a strain on your relationship.
2. Ask her how her day went. You are her confidant, so listen to everything she has to say. Help her calm down by speaking through any problems she's facing. Show empathy with her and share highs and lows. This will help create a bond between them.
3. Listen. The importance of listening in a relationship cannot be overemphasized.
   • Even if what she says is boring to you, keep paying attention because it is important to her.
   • Learn to listen "between the lines" and draw consequences about what you can do.
   • Listening shows her that you are a part of her life and will gain her trust.
   • Don't just listen but respond to what she says. Join the conversation, but don't take it over.
4. Give her simple compliments. Always be sincere, because it is obvious when you are not.
   • Let her know that she looks very, very radiant today.
   • When she changes haircut, say something positive about it.
   • Compliment her on something she did in class / at work.
   • Make a positive comment about the clothes she's wearing.
5. Trust her. If you don't trust your girlfriend, she won't trust you either. Any good relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust.
   • If she's out with friends, don't call or text her every 20 minutes. Allow her to have fun without you.
   • Avoid jealousy. Let her talk to other guys / men without interfering with the conversation and being protective. Just because you're dating doesn't mean she's only allowed to talk to you.
6. Be respectful. Always treat her with the utmost respect, even when you're arguing.
   • Be respectful of her even when she's not around. Don't gossip about her behind her back.
   • Bring up issues that bother you right away. Don't bottle them up, but be open and direct.
   • Respect her intelligence. Don't assume she needs help with everything.
   • Don't put all her ideas down right away. A relationship is an equal partnership.
   • Never resort to name calling or physical abuse.

Method 2 of 3: Nice surprises

1. Write her a love letter. A handwritten letter shows her that you care enough to share your feelings with her. Make sure the letter is handwritten; a typed and printed note is not enough! Here are a few opening rules:
   • "I've been thinking about you all day ..."
   • "I wish I could be with you now, but this letter will have to comply first ..."
   • "I can't wait to see you again ..."
   • Put the letter where it will have the greatest impact. Ideally, finding the letter should come as a surprise. For example, if you know she needs to read certain pages of a book for school, put it between those pages. If you sleep together, write a note on the bathroom mirror with soap, or put a letter on her nightstand.
2. Don't forget to say you love her. She will never forget the moment you declare your love to.
3. Contact her before she goes to sleep. Text or text her before going to bed. Think of this as a "tuck-in phone call," and is a very powerful way to show her that you care.
   • Calling before going to sleep lets her know she's on your mind.
   • You are the last thing on her mind before she falls asleep.
   • It gives her someone to talk to about problems she encountered that day, which will help her sleep better.
4. Surprise her with a sweet treat.
   • You have chocolate ranging from cheap to quite expensive. It doesn't have to be a rib of your body, but look a bit further than a normal bar of chocolate. Look for a chocolate shop and don't forget that less is more.
   • Imported candies are a luxurious way to show her that you care, and can be surprising to try. Nor are they ridiculously expensive.
   • Bake her cookies. This shows how thoughtful you are and how well you know your way around the kitchen.
   • If she doesn't like sweets, surprise her with her favorite snack.
5. Give her flowers. This is one of the most traditional ways to show your affection, and it is very effective. They are colorful and cheerful, and the freshness is a vitalizing gift. However, flowers can be very expensive, so save them for a really special occasion.
   • Most supermarkets have bouquets for sale for less than € 20.
   • If you know your girlfriend's favorite flowers or colors, talk to a florist and let them help you put together a bouquet.
   • If you know where to find wildflowers, pick them yourself and make your own bouquet. Just make sure you don't accidentally pick someone else's flowers.
   • If your girlfriend is having a bad day at work, have some flowers delivered. This can be very expensive, but show that you care and she can make her colleagues jealous.
   • A single flower can work just as well as a full bouquet. It is about the gesture of giving that is most important.
6. Give something simple. A surprise can add some color to an otherwise ordinary and dull day and really make it clear to her that you are thinking about her. Some suggestions:
   • Love voucher. Give her some coupons that she can monetize by letting you do things for her. For example: romantic dinners, movie nights, hugs and kisses to order, etc.
   • A piece of jewelry. Clothes can be expensive, but a nice piece of jewelry can make a great gift and you don't have to raid your bank account. Look for hats, scarves or handbags.
   • A bottle of wine and a few wine glasses.
7. Show her your affection when she least expects it. Surprise her and you will leave a much more lasting impression.
   • Surprise her when she's at work and give her a quick kiss.
   • Give her an extra hug before going to school or work.
   • Pull her up when you're out for a walk on a cold day.
   • Take her hand when you are out walking in public.

Method 3 of 3: Go all out

1. Get to know her friends and family. Do whatever you can to like them and interact with them in a friendly way. They are an important part of your girlfriend's life, and you need to show that you respect that. This lets your girlfriend know that you take the relationship seriously.
2. Plan a treasure hunt. This can be a fun way to spend an afternoon and the thinking and planning you need to put into it will show her that you care about it.
   • Make up a treasure first. This can be almost anything from a piece of jewelry to a dinner party, or something more personal.
   • Plan the hunt. Decide how long the hunt can last and where you want it to take place. Frequently used places are the first place you meet and "our first time out for dinner".
   • Write this on notes. Place the first one where you know she will find them. Write something like "I have a short game for you to play; the next clue you find [location of next clue]. "
   • Don't make the hunt too difficult, it's meant to be fun!
3. Cook for hate. Not only is that a good idea for a date, it also shows that you know your way around the kitchen. Do not worry too much about a possible failure, the thought behind it is much more important than the execution.
   • Plan your meal. Find some simple recipes with not too many steps. Try to time the preparations so that everything is ready on time.
   • Make sure the meal is balanced. Add vegetables and do not serve too large portions.
   • Pasta is usually a safe choice because it is fairly easy to cook and most people like it.
   • Dinner area should be cleaned before dinner. Light one or two candles and make sure all the cutlery is properly arranged.
   • If you are old enough, add a modest wine.
4. Make a Mix CD / Playlist for her
   • The idea of ​​the Mix CD can be traced back to the days of the Mix Tapes. The bottom line is that you collect music that you feel she loves, along with songs that show how much you care about her. Memory is strongly influenced by music, and a good Mix CD will be remembered for a long time.
   • Make the list of tracks. The idea is that you can play the whole thing without getting bored of wanting to skip a song. Make sure the first number catches her eye and the subsequent numbers match.
   • Most music software offers you the possibility to burn CDs. See wikiHow for more instructions on burning a CD.
   • If she uses a service like iTunes or Spotify, you can create a digital playlist and share it with her. This offers the opportunity to create a longer playlist than is possible with a CD, but the lack of something tangible can make the gift appear less special.
5. Plan a picnic. In the same way as making a dinner party, you can plan a picnic to show her that you care and that you can think ahead.
   • Make sure the weather is good. The weather forecast is constantly changing, so keep in mind that your plans can be changed if the sky suddenly starts pouring down.
   • Prepare a light lunch. A picnic should be light and airy, and the food should reflect that. Make sandwiches, cut some fruits and vegetables to take with you. Make iced tea on the side.
   • Have the picnic somewhere nice. Depending on your location, you can look for a place with a lot of natural beauty. Along a river, the beach or a meadow are all excellent locations for a picnic. Check it out in advance and look for secluded spots.