Content

• Steps
• Tips
• Warnings

So you've spotted a lovely girl you would like to date. But she's a dancer, and that complicates things. There are many stereotypes that you should remember (and ignore) before you take the first step, or ruin any chance of getting to know her better. The key to success is showing confidence in an environment where everything revolves around looks and money.

Steps

1. 1 Get ready to embrace something new. Before you enter the club, make a conscious effort to accept and understand. Don't assume that if they are strippers, then they are promiscuous and cannot make money in any other way. Some dancers are very smart and do it in order to pay for their education. Other dancers may have found themselves in very unpleasant situations that you cannot even imagine, and work in the club to support their families or pay for the private school for the children. It's easy to judge a book by its cover, but you won't get very far in a relationship with a stripper if you think that way.
2. 2 Know what you signed up for. Strippers get a lot of attention, both inside and outside the club. If you can't handle the attention being paid to your partner, chances are, a relationship with a stripper isn't for you. Don't start a relationship with a stripper if you think you can change her or expect her to change jobs. Either accept that she is dancing, or find someone else.
3. 3 Find a club where you feel comfortable. Usually the type of club. Which one you visit determines the type of women who work for it. In some there are many young, inexperienced girls, labor veterans, purse hunters, or all at once. It's best to avoid women who are attracted to a male thug who can protect them and live a nightlife with them - you can easily find such a girl, but they are difficult to date. Head to a more expensive bar where you can find more educated dancers, sometimes female students and even university graduates.These girls are usually much more interesting and open to communication outside the workplace.
4. 4 Come early. Come to the club immediately after opening, usually in the first hour and a half of work, when there are no clients yet and the strippers are just relaxing, having fun, rehearsing tricks and chatting with each other. This is the best time to approach them without feeling pressured, as they are not yet in the money making mad mode.
5. 5 Start a conversation. Be nice and don't judge. Many of these girls are used to being mistreated by men who treat them like a piece of meat. Listen to them, give them a chance to open up and tell you their stories (which are usually interesting), show a genuine interest in their activities outside the walls of the strip club. Don't focus on their bodies. Everyone loves compliments, but they get them all the time. Look into your eyes, not your legs or chest. Instead of complimenting their body, tell them that their new outfit suits them (compliment the color combination) or that they are dancing better and better, something like that. Ask them about books, movies, studies, family, life and they will find you more interesting to talk to than most of their clients.
6. 6 Tip her, but don't order a lap dance. If you pay her to do a lap dance, she will think you are “normal,” but pay her for the time if you distract her (she is still at work). She will never meet with you if you have a business relationship. And if you don't pay her for a lap dance, you should NOT pay other women for it. When you pay to dance on stage, however, you should pay all the dancers, but pay her a little more. Paying only her can make other dancers jealous and make it harder for her to associate you with something positive.
7. 7 Leave the club when there are too many people and all the girls are dancing on the lap of clients. Let her know that you do not want to interfere with her making money, wish her luck and tell her that you will come and see another day. After a few meetings, she will hopefully smile at you and come up as soon as she gets the chance. If she doesn't, it may be because she is not allowed to meet with clients or she is already dating someone.
8. 8 Ask her out on a date. If she doesn't want to date you outside the club, she plays with you. Yes, she can be careful, but if she continues to refuse you, there is no point in pursuing her. If she agrees to go on a date, do something cute and romantic. She is a stripper and she is used to being paid attention to by means of money and expensive gifts. Try something related to your common interests that you learned about earlier. Whatever you do, never think that if she is a stripper, she will immediately want to sleep with you. On the contrary, some of these girls take a long time to get to know you; they usually don't trust men because they encounter inferior masculine qualities several times a day, so be patient and show her that you are different.
9. 9 Accept her work. If things work out and you start dating, she will appreciate that you understand that she works and makes more money than many doctors. In fact, she may even at least become a doctor in the future, as many dancers get used to higher salaries than most office workers! Understand that many women choose this area because it allows them to spend their free time on other interests and priorities, so plan dates according to her schedule and, please, do not call her until 11 o'clock in the morning.

Tips

• If you're dating a stripper, don't go to her club. Jealousy can cloud the mind, even if the stripper is just doing her job and has to work hard to get paid. She may also be jealous if you flirt or buy other strippers' dances.The last thing a stripper wants is to have relationship problems haunt her at work.
• The easiest way to start dating a stripper is if you meet her outside the club - at the gym, at a concert, in a store, and so on. As stated earlier, some strippers won't be dating clients; some will spend time but will not date even a very attractive client, and some may start a relationship with someone they find attractive.
• Don't ask for a phone number or ask her real name right away. They will tell themselves when the time is right. Instead, give them your number.
• Make friends with the dancer first. Many dancers don't like managers and are more willing to hang out with bouncers. If you make friends with the dancer first, you won't have to worry about how she perceives you as a vile friend of the director.
• Don't drink in the club she dances at. Dress nicely and make sure you smell good.

Warnings

• Even if a stripper asks for your phone number or business card, don't assume she really wants to date you. She may want to have a regular client in your person, or in case she needs your services in the future (if you are a lawyer, photographer, etc.).
• Some women (not just strippers) try to find a 'sugar daddy' or 'sponsor' - someone who will pay for housing, give gifts and pay for travel, in exchange for sexual favors, attending events or company. Some strippers may have one or more 'sponsors' if they are comfortable with that.