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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: How to catch a lie
• Method 2 of 3: Listen and you will recognize the lie
• Method 3 of 3: Behavioral Change Research
• Tips

It is quite difficult to understand the body language of another person, because communication cannot be put into certain frames.It is necessary to pay attention to various signs, starting from the characteristics of a person's personality, social factors, his words, manner of communication and environment. All this information is not always available, but you should pay as much attention as possible to various factors in communication. Knowing the context, you can understand the body language of another person and try to see what his body is saying and understand what the words are silent about!

Steps

Method 1 of 3: How to catch a lie

1. 1 Let go of your body language prejudices. There is no universal indicator of lying, otherwise no one could lie with impunity! People's gestures come from the current situation, the person's energy, personality traits, self-confidence and level of intimacy.
   • There are many behaviors associated with lying that people try to avoid so that their lies are not revealed. For example, lowered eyes are thought to be a sign of lying, which is why so many liars try not to look down when they tell a lie.
   • Some people develop specific signals, habits, and reactions to specific emotions and the situation itself. If you know these signs, you can tell that the person is lying. For example, if you know that your son usually smiles when he lies, you can use that metric as a guide.
   • If you can recognize characteristic patterns of human behavior, the person himself most likely knows about them too. Most people try not to use gestures that indicate a lie. For example, if you and your son both know that he usually smiles when he lies, he will try not to smile in order to deceive you.
2. 2 Learn about the common signs of lying. While there are no universal signs of a lie, some gestures indicate that the person is not telling the truth. Liars are usually more tense: their pupils dilate, they cannot sit still. Liars also try to appear indifferent.
   • But some people may fidget and look indifferent, but still tell the truth.
   • Body language is very different in all people.
   • Pupil dilation is not the most accurate indicator of a lie.
3. 3 Accept your own strengths and weaknesses. Body language refers to "non-verbal channels," that is, a means of transmitting information from other people without words. There are three main channels: kinesics (facial expressions, eye contact and gestures), haptics (touch), and proxemics (personal space).
   • You yourself have ample experience in understanding kinesics, proxemics and haptics.
   • People tend to understand positive kinesics better. This means that everyone is more likely to perceive happiness and pleasant excitement, rather than fear, disgust, or lies.
   • If you don't understand what proxemics means, take the next test. The next time you line up with strangers, line up as you normally would. Now take one step closer to the person in front of you. Do you feel uncomfortable at this distance? Are other people repeating your movements? Non-verbal communication includes the science of personal space. This is proxemics.
4. 4 Explore cultural differences. Non-verbal communication is different in every culture. For example, in Finnish culture, gazing is considered a sign of friendliness. In Japanese culture, this is interpreted as an expression of anger. Don't forget your boyfriend or girlfriend's cultural background and the situation itself.

Method 2 of 3: Listen and you will recognize the lie

1. 1 Start small. When people lie, they often answer short questions and don't go into details. They also stop talking and take longer to answer. When liars answer questions, they are less detailed about everything.
   • Try asking someone to tell a long story. For example, ask the person what their vacation plans are. Try not to ask questions that can be answered yes or no.
2. 2 Pay attention to the details. If you listen carefully to someone telling a story, a lie can easily be recognized. Liars use words based on feelings, such as "I saw," "it smelled like," or "I heard." They also use pronouns and third-person phrases like "she forgot about it" or "something happened to the car" instead of "I forgot about it."
   • Liars often do not correct their own mistakes when they talk about something.
   • Be wary of implausible and unbelievable stories.
   • Liars usually use little gesture.
3. 3 Observe the person's voice. Does he speak in a raised tone? Faster than usual? Quieter or louder? The awkwardness of a situation in which a person has to lie usually provokes a raised voice, although for some people the opposite is true. If your loved one speaks in an unusual tone, this is a sure sign of a lie.

Method 3 of 3: Behavioral Change Research

1. 1 Notice how long your partner was away. Perhaps your loved one has been absent for a long time, and you do not know where he is. An unexplained absence can be a sign of a lie, and your partner may lie to you about their absence.
   • Talk to your partner and find out why he was absent. Respect his personal space and your relationship with him.
   • You can find out the truth by asking his friends, family, or co-workers
2. 2 Keep track of your budget. Dishonesty in a relationship can lead to financial discord and related problems, so it's important to check your bank accounts, cash, and wallet. This is more true for married couples, as well as for everyone who uses a common budget.
   • Pay attention to any non-human changes.
   • Don't check another person's personal budget without permission. Watch only your own.
3. 3 Observe what your partner is doing. Your partner may behave differently when you are not around. This can be anything from constant cell phone checks to a goodnight kiss. Behavioral change speaks volumes, including lying. Investigate the cause of the change in behavior. Perhaps this is the reason for the lie.
   • One of the common behavioral changes is related to the reaction to questions - often liars do not like to be asked questions. "Why do not you trust me?" or "What do you care?"
   • Behavioral changes are most evident on social media, texting, and at work. These are not entirely obvious things to you.
4. 4 Analyze your own relationships. Is trusting your partner a personal issue? Have you convicted your partner of lying before? There are times when the problem is not that your partner is lying, but that you suspect him of lying. If this is your case, analyze the big picture of your relationship with your partner. Systematic and prolonged lying can be a sign of relationship problems.
   • If your partner lied to you, decide if you want to improve the relationship and if you are willing to forgive him.
   • To be forgiven, your partner must take responsibility, repent of their lies, and want to improve their relationship by changing their behavior. You must approve of his efforts and encourage changes for the better.

Tips

• Learn to trust your partner.
• Your partner can do some of the things described here without lying.
• The best way to find out if a boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you is to ask them themselves and get an honest answer. To do this, you need to show that you just need to know the truth, and you are not going to apply harsh penalties.
• Other than that, a good way to know if a boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you is to get to know him / her better. As you get to know your partner's personality better, you will begin to notice changes in their behavior or communication.
• Tell your partner how you feel and talk about the issue without judgment.
• Avoid making sarcastic comments about important or serious matters.Instead, be positive and use affirmative sentences to give you a chance to maintain the relationship.
• Even if you are sure that your boyfriend or girlfriend is lying to you, you do not know the details. A classic example is when a girl lies to you, and you suspect her of cheating, although in reality she just hides that she signed up for foreign language courses or dances.