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• Steps
• Method 1 of 3: Take Care of Yourself
• Method 2 of 3: Maintain Good Relationships with People and Have a Pleasure in Life
• Method 3 of 3: Stop hanging out with your ex

Breaking up is a difficult period in life that is always associated with pain. Whether your relationship has lasted three months or thirty years, chances are you are experiencing intense mental anguish, separation pain, devastation, and despair. However, you won't always feel this way! Over time, the pain will subside. There are a few things you can do to speed up this process. Take care of yourself, lead an active social life, and very soon your pain will become a thing of the past.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Take Care of Yourself

1. 1 Increase your physical activity. Start small with simple exercise. Go to the gym, set aside time for a run in the park, or simply take a brisk walk in the fresh air. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the blood, which acts as a natural antidepressant that improves mood. Plus, you will feel energized. You will feel great.
   • Join a group fitness class or hit the gym with a friend.
   • It doesn't matter what you choose when deciding what to do, the main thing is to make your heart beat faster. By doing moderate-intensity exercise for as little as 5 minutes, you will notice a significant difference. Your mood will improve.
2. 2 Look for reasons to laugh. Laughter is truly one of the best medicines in life! Laugh as often as possible. Watch comedy films, funny memes on social media, chat with friends who have a great sense of humor, or attend comedian performances.
   • Avoid activities that remind you of your ex. Don't re-watch movies that you enjoy watching together.
3. 3 Do something new for yourself. Choose an activity that you find interesting. For example, go hiking, dance, or swim. Enjoy the freedom you have! Now you have enough free time to do what you like. Your ex may not have shared your passions. Now you have a great opportunity to devote time to your favorite activities.
   • For example, your ex-partner might be reluctant to try new cuisine. Now you have a great opportunity to do this.
   • You can join a group of people with similar interests. You can find the information you need on the Internet.
4. 4 Change your look. You can make changes to your appearance, such as a new haircut, or change your hair color or style. Refresh your wardrobe. Give away the things you no longer wear. Buy some beautiful new items of clothing. A flawless appearance can have a beneficial effect on your self-esteem!
   • Pamper yourself with facials, massages, pedicures and manicures. Massage helps relieve muscle tension.
   • Invite your friends to have a spa day at home. You can meet at your home or at one of your friends.
5. 5 Start journaling. Write down your thoughts and feelings in it. By expressing your feelings in this way, you will feel relieved. Write down anything that bothers you. These can be thoughts of breaking up, or any other problems you face. Write everything you want to write about. When you finish, you will feel much better.
6. 6 List your positive qualities. Breaking up can negatively affect your self-esteem. Blaming yourself for what happened can negatively affect your self-esteem. So take the time to think about the good qualities you have. List your strengths and remind yourself of them daily.
   • If you have a good sense of humor, intelligence, good looks, purposefulness, hard work, or compassion for others, list these qualities.
   • You can write your goodies on sticky notes and place them in specific places in your room or home. During the day, they will catch your eye, and this will positively affect your self-esteem.
7. 7 Do your duty. Of course, sadness and sadness are natural feelings after a breakup. However, even with these feelings, you should not forget about your daily responsibilities. Keep working or studying. Stay in touch with friends and family as they can provide you with the support you need. Get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and avoid bad habits such as alcohol abuse.
   • Pay your bills and keep your home clean. Prepare a healthy dinner for yourself every night.
   • Even completing a small task will give you the opportunity to feel like you are moving on with your life.

Method 2 of 3: Maintain Good Relationships with People and Have a Pleasure in Life

1. 1 Spend quality time with your friends. Your friends can help you and comfort you. They will make an effort to get you out of your home and have a good time. Nothing special is required of you. Go to the movies or the zoo, dine at a new restaurant, or head to the beach. Think back to the good times you spent with your friends.Do your best to bring back the joy of communicating with loved ones in your life.
   • Get the support of friends as you recover from a breakup. There should be people around you who can listen to you and help you deal with your feelings.
2. 2 Channel your energy in a new, productive direction. Use this time to do some introspection and discover new areas that you might be interested in. It's never too late to become who you always wanted to be! Do something new for yourself. Try new dishes. Choose new activities that will fill your life with satisfaction.
   • Master new skills. For example, you can try blowing glass, making pottery, learning to play a musical instrument, or diving.
   • You can invite your friends to join you in your new hobbies.
3. 3 Do charity work. Volunteering will help you realize that you can influence the lives of others, and will help you appreciate what you have. Think about what you would like to do. For example, you might be helping in a homeless shelter, doing work in a free cafeteria for people in difficult situations, or helping in a nursing home. Your goal is to focus on helping others.
   • Find out which volunteer organizations are active in your area.
4. 4 Get a pet. If you have the time and money, get a pet, as caring for a pet has a healing effect. Consider taking a cat or dog from your local animal shelter. You will not only make a new friend, but also provide housing for someone who really needs him.
   • If you do not have your own home and live in a rented apartment, ask the owner of the apartment if you can have a pet.
   • Having a pet will expand your social connections. You will be interacting with other pet owners. For example, walking your dog can help you meet and interact with other dog owners.
   • If you already have a pet, spend more time with it. Buy him a new toy or treat. Enjoy the company of your pet.
5. 5 Start dating when you're ready to do it. After a while, you will feel that you are ready to date someone again. You will meet new people. With some of them, you can build strong relationships. However, don't force yourself to date someone if you feel like you're not ready for it! Do not hurry!
   • When you start dating, take your time to build a serious relationship. Move at your own pace to avoid breaking up the relationship.
   • If you try to start new ones immediately after breaking up, your attempts may not be successful because you haven't given yourself enough time to recover from the end of your past relationship.
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Method 3 of 3: Stop hanging out with your ex

1. 1 Stop communicating with your ex. One of the most important steps in recovering from a breakup is to completely cut out the relationship with your ex. Do not call or send him messages or emails. Do not reply if this person is trying to contact you. You can even block this person's number if you are worried that you cannot resist and answer him. Try not to interact with this person for at least 90 days. During this period, you will be able to wean from it.
   • If you have joint children or property, you cannot help but communicate with your ex. However, try to limit communication with him to a minimum.
   • If you have no reason (for example, children) why you are forced to communicate with your ex, after 90 days, do not resume communication with him. Otherwise, it will be difficult for you to quickly recover from the breakup.
   • If you feel like chatting with your ex, write him an email, but don't send it. Putting your feelings into words will give you relief.
2. 2 Remove this person from your friends list on all social networks you use. If the former partner is on your Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook friends list, delete it. No social platform should remind you of the person who broke your heart. It might even be worth going to the extreme by stopping temporarily using social media. Also, remove the photos if you see fit.
   • No need to delete photos permanently! Just remove them from your page so they don't catch your eye.
   • You can also unsubscribe from his friends' updates. This will prevent you from seeing photos or posts related to your ex.
3. 3 Avoid places where you might meet your ex. If you meet your ex a lot, it will be difficult for you to forget him. Try to avoid places where you might meet this person. Take a different route to work or school. While you may feel a little uncomfortable, it’s worth it to heal faster after a breakup.
4. 4 Allow yourself to grieve. You can only cope with your feelings if you allow yourself to experience them, and do not suppress them all the time. Set aside enough time each day to think about breaking up. Don't hold back tears; cry, it will be easier for you to cope with your feelings. The tears will wash away all the sadness.
   • Set aside less and less time each day to grieve. After a while, you’ll think less and less about breaking up.
5. 5 Remove anything that might remind you of your ex. Of course, you shouldn't pretend that this person never existed. However, if you take away things that might remind you of this person, recovery will be less painful.
   • Walk around your room and put away any photographs, letters, and any reminders of the person you are trying to forget.
   • Do not forget that we are talking about removing all reminders for a while, it is not at all necessary to destroy them. You need to burn or throw away items associated with this person only if you are absolutely sure that they have no place in your future life.