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Surely you will feel very uncomfortable when someone calls you by a name that is difficult to hear or offend you. It is easy for your emotions to get hurt when someone criticizes, teases, or looks down on you. It is okay to confront someone who disrespects you to ask them to stop and leave you alone. You just need to learn to take care of yourself and how to handle it when things happen.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Processing at the time of the incident

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   Avoid immediate response. When someone acts disrespectfully toward you, handle it by not reacting immediately. Retaliation or anger will reinforce the person's behavior. Your reaction is what they want. Furthermore, there is no point in expressing anger or negative feelings. It is easier to act or say things you might regret at this point, or you might hurt yourself from stress.
   • Take a deep breath to regain composure.
   • Count to five slowly while trying to stay calm.

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   Do not retaliate. You might also want to respond with an act of insult, but this only makes you as humble as them. Besides, this action also increases the stress level and is unable to resolve the issue.
   • Similar to reacting immediately, retaliation will give them what they want.
   • Even though you feel you have to do something, don't respond to comments and vulgar posts on the internet with slanderous articles.
   • Avoid talking about the person. You may be comfortable at the moment of the discussion, but this is not going to help you solve the problem.

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   Ignore the incident. Sometimes silence is the most effective weapon. Ignoring your offender will take away the satisfaction they'd expect from your feedback. This is a way to keep you from wasting time and energy on the unworthy. Besides, their evil deeds will also be overtaken by your good gesture.
   • Just act like the person never said anything.
   • Continue what you are doing and keep an eye on them.
   • The person will leave you alone after being ignored, unless the person has a thick face.

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   Ask the person to stop insulting. This is a straightforward way to let the person know that you want them to stop insulting. If ignoring the person is ineffective or if something really upsets or hurts you, asking the person to stop the insult can help resolve the problem.
   • Make sure you stay calm. Make eye contact with them and speak in a clear, confident, and assertive voice.
   • For example, if you are offended by a friend of your age, take a few deep breaths and calmly say, "Stop insulting me now."
   • To a colleague, you can say, “I don't like or appreciate the way you speak to me and about myself. I want you to stop insulting me.
   • If it's a friend who doesn't mean bad things, you can say “I know you didn't mean to me, but what you said hurt me. You don't offend me like that anymore ”.
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Method 2 of 3: Make a plan to solve the problem

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   Find out why the person does it. People offending others often do this for a number of reasons. They are not always on purpose and want to hurt you. Understanding the person's motives can help you figure out how to deal with them.
   • Some do it out of insecurity or jealousy. They want to feel better about themselves by offending others.
   • Some people act like this because they want to impress someone or be noticed. For example, when a coworker criticizes your work in front of your boss.
   • Others either don't realize they're doing this or don't know how to communicate. For example, an old woman would say, “Nice shirt. It covers your stomach ”.
   • Sometimes people don't really want to treat you badly or hurt your feelings. They see it as innocuous teasing. For example, a friend might call you "short legs".

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   Clear out the limits. Some comments can be annoying but can still be ignored. Others are really rude and hurtful that you have to speak up. Setting limits will help you determine how to cope with the situation.
   • For example, even though being offended by your brother makes you uncomfortable, you know he doesn't mean it and doesn't intentionally hurt you. You probably don't want to talk to him about it unless it goes beyond your limits.
   • However, when a co-worker always says vulgar words that make you angry, you need to speak up.
   • If the insults are discriminatory or happen frequently, the person is going beyond the limit and their actions should be reported.

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   Talk with colleagues and peers. Someone who offends you even when you don't know you well may do it for a bad purpose (or they are just a nuisance). Don't argue, let them know the job is not welcome.
   • If possible, talk to them in a private place. This makes them no longer have the opportunity to "act" in front of others and helps maintain the respect of both.
   • You can say, “During the discussion, you made some harsh comments on my idea. I appreciate constructive feedback, but not an insult. Please don't do that anymore ”.
   • If the person starts offending you while you try to talk about their behavior, stop talking.
   • If the behavior continues or gets worse, report it to your supervisor.

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   Be frank with friends and siblings. Even though it only starts with innocuous teasing, things can go too far and you need to ask the person to stop acting. Don't laugh when you ask them to stop or use offensive language. The person won't take your request seriously and their offending behavior will continue. Be straightforward and ask the person to stop in a clear, composed voice.
   • For example, “Hahaha. Stop it, kid ”is not a good way to ask someone to stop insulting you.
   • Instead, make eye contact with them and say in a calm, serious voice, “That's enough. I know you find it funny, but it bothers me and I want you to stop.
   • If the person doesn't stop right away, just keep saying “I'm serious” and walk away. That person will probably run after you and apologize. Sometimes the people closest to us don't know when we're being serious.

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   Show respect for older people. Sometimes parents, teachers, or superiors offend you without even realizing it. Let these people know that their words affect you and that you want them to stop. This helps the person become aware of what they are doing and how you feel. This is also an important step in handling the situation in the long run.
   • Talk to your workplace HR department and see what they suggest about how to handle being offended by your boss.
   • Talk to the person privately when you feel comfortable doing this. This is a way to reduce the embarrassment of the two's conversation.
   • Say "When you say my work is stupid, it really upsets me." Or, “I know I often don't get things done on time, but don't say I'm lazy. It is difficult to hurt me '.
   • Talk to another trusted adult or human resources department when you are uncomfortable talking with the person who offended you privately, or if you feel they were trying to offend you.
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Method 3 of 3: Take care of yourself

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   Don't let your stomachs. A person's words reflect who they are, not you. If the person is happy, they will not take the time to offend those around them. Furthermore, that person will offend other people, not just you. If you let their insults get on you, they win. Don't allow what the person says to lower your self-esteem or make you feel bad about yourself.
   • Recall the good things about yourself by listing your positive traits.
   • Write down what the person says about you. For each insult, you write three things that prove it incorrect.
   • List all the good things that other people say about you.

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   Use stress management techniques. It can be stressful to be offended by someone, especially if it happens often. Learn and use a number of stress reduction strategies to help you deal with the offender and the stress they are putting on you.
   • Practice deep breathing and meditation to help you stay calm in the person's presence.
   • Practice mindfulness because it helps you manage your stress and even helps you ignore the person when they bother you.
   • Try some physical activity like walking or swimming to reduce stress.

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   Help me. Talk to someone about things and help them out when someone is constantly offending or behaving rude to you. Tell someone when the offender is a more powerful person like a teacher, parent, or boss. Asking for help works in many ways. Others can protect you when things happen or report them.
   • Talk to someone you trust about what's going on. Provide details so they can understand the situation. Ask them for help in dealing with the person who offended you.
   • It can be as simple as having a friend present when you want to ask the offender to stop doing their jobs.
   • You can also get help by reporting the matter to the appropriate authority.

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   Meet positive people. Spending time with someone with a good attitude is a great way to handle stress from being offended by others. This is also a way to take care of yourself. Feelings of stress also decrease when you meet positive people. Your mind is no longer on the person who offended you and the feelings they caused you.
   • Try to meet and talk to people who often make you feel better about yourself.
   • Don't just talk about the person who offended you - do something fun!
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Warning

• If the insult is related to race, age, sex or disability, you should record the information and report the incident.
• If you feel threatened or otherwise physically hurt, contact the authorities immediately.