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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

Whether you've just started a new relationship or are about to celebrate your 5th anniversary, you can always do a lot to renew your role in the relationship. To be a good girlfriend, be open and honest with your partner, support your crush's wants and needs, and be willing to show affection for him. Also, try to maintain your independence so that you can enjoy the pleasure of a healthy relationship.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Be open minded

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   However, don't be too open in the early stages. To get along with your ex, make sure you both have plenty of time to get to know each other and have confidence that you are half of each other. If you try to push the relationship forward sooner than it really is, the rush can make the person fear "running away from sandals" and ruining the original goodness. Instead, be patient and understand that it takes time to cultivate a strong, lasting relationship. If you want to be a good girlfriend, avoid the following:
   • Don't force them to name the relationship in a hurry. You don't need to use the title boyfriend or girlfriend after a few dates; This may make the person feel like she has no decision-making power. Be patient and give him some time to think about it before deciding with you to name the relationship, like serious dating, long-term engagement, or need more time to learn. If the two match, the relationship develops quickly.
   • Don't talk about marriage or building a family without meeting your close friends and parents. Mentioning these issues too early can create stress from the very beginning and hinder or even kill a potential relationship.
   • Don't feel like you have to brag or try to impress your crush. You don't need to prove anything; Listen attentively every time he speaks, cares, and shares your interests.

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   Honest. While being honest with your partner is extremely important, you shouldn't take it lightly. If you overreact or make a mistake, admit it and apologize. When you feel hurt or unhappy, calm yourself down and put your feelings into words that don't imply blame.
   • The most important thing here is that you shouldn't be afraid to express your feelings. For example, if your ex does or says something that bothers you, say how you feel but don't blame or ask him to change.
   • If specific principles in communication are set at the outset, you will soon learn if the relationship is strong or not.

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   Speak out your thoughts. Don't be afraid to share your desires, needs and opinions, even if they contradict his point of view. You are under no obligation to please your boyfriend. In addition, the fact that you are someone with needs, desires, and goals in life will make him interested in learning more about you. If you feel free to speak your mind, he will do the same.
   • Don't use language that is meant to attack the thoughts and lifestyle of others - you can be both humble and straightforward by using your words wisely and taking care of the other person's feelings.

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   Always be yourself. Don't be a different person just to impress him. You might want to be the girl you think he would like, but in general it's just thoughts you've picked up from someone else's words and suggestions, and these are often not true. After all, the person just wants to date yourself not the perfect role model you imagine. If you really feel like you have to change yourself because he thinks you should be thinner, taller, prettier, quieter or anything else, then that's a sign that you two aren't for together.
   • If the person says these things in an imposing tone, it's not love, it's just control.
   • Don't pretend you have the same interest as your partner.At first, this may seem fun or doesn't hurt anyone, but your boyfriend will find it hurting to find that you're not really interested in his interests. In addition, your ex may visualize your role in the future based on untrue facts, and both will hurt as a result.
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Method 2 of 3: Always stand by your side

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   Find out what your significant other's concerns are. Remember what he loves to do and likes to share. You don't have to be interested in his interests, but at least you should understand why he likes them. For example, you will find out what makes him into a certain band. If the person likes to joke around and make jokes, remember that it may be his way of relieving stress. As you learn to accept him for who he is, you will also get to know yourself better and gradually learn if you really want to be with him for life.
   • You don't necessarily care all his preference. If you don't have the same interest in baseball as he is, that's okay.
   • It is enough to just learn about his interests and talk about what he is interested in.

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   Learn how to be teammates. Similar to any other healthy relationship, some conflicts will arise between you and your significant other with varying degrees of weight. Don't forget to be honest with yourself, though, and try to let go of selfishness. Every relationship needs to be nurtured from two sides and reciprocal rather than just effort from one side, with one side giving and the other just taking without the response. When considering each other as teammates, the two will support each other, do not underestimate each other and are not afraid to show their feelings for each other in front of others.
   • In tough times, teamwork can help you solve problems without relying on your emotions and both of you are involved in removing the knot of things, rather than expecting the other party to take responsibility. responsibility.
   • Avoid creating a "one-color" relationship with ties that only revolve around one aspect. Build strong connections by giving a variety of colors to your relationship. Two people can experience new and different things together. Love is enjoying joy, learning and growing together.

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   Praise the person more than criticize. If what you say to your crush is critical or offensive, he will no longer be eager to see you and begin to consider being with you. You don't have to always agree with him, though, just because the two are a half of each other. Skillful behavior is an important part of mature relationships, and setting limits and compromise are essential to learning and applying when falling in love.
   • While you can provide reasonable criticism when needed, you should say at least four positive things about the person before you point out the negative.
   • Don't yell at him just because you're in a bad mood or when things don't go well.

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   Learn to compromise. If you want to be a good girlfriend, learn to compromise instead of arguing or getting angry when things go wrong. To compromise, two people need to communicate calmly, rationally and openly to the other's point of view. Learn to understand the person rather than blindly focusing on what you think you need.
   • You don't want to be a demanding girl just because you know your partner will yield. In fact, your ex doesn't want to be against you because she knows you'll get angry and dissatisfied when things don't go as expected.

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   Give each other private space. In addition to supporting him with actions, you should also let your boyfriend know that he is on your mind even when you are not seeing each other. If you want to be a good girlfriend, don't forget to spend time with yourself and meet your friends and then stay with your lover. Let your ex know that you are thinking about him and that you have deep feelings for him even when you are not together. If you feel insecure and question the depth of your relationship as soon as you are unable to meet your crush, you may have something wrong.
   • Be happy when your partner wants to have a date with your friends, rather than discouraging it. It is also important that your boyfriend has time to meet his friends without you.
   • If you've always wanted your ex to devote all of his time and attention to you, learn to overcome that somewhat obsessive desire. Don't become overly controlling your boyfriend; let your ex do everything without feeling like you are being watched.
   • Remember that your partner also needs time to spend with herself, and the two are independent individuals in a relationship. When they need their own space, don't stress; instead, recognize the true nature of things - this is just the time when the person refreshes himself and meets people with similar interests. In this case, just make sure he knows that you are still around.
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Method 3 of 3: Love the guy

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   Show affection. You can express your feelings in a variety of ways with varying degrees of depth, and how you choose to show affection also depends on your personality in love. Romance is not necessarily intimacy, but how you are not afraid to show concern for the other person, whether it's day or night, or in private or in public. Think about how you like showing your loved ones: holding hands, touching arms, kissing lightly on cheeks, hugging, stroking their hair, saying encouragement or praising them in front of others. , etc.
   • Using an informal name like "darling" or "cute idiot" is another way of expressing affection for a boyfriend. However, you shouldn't overdo it. In some cases, calling him “nasty stuff” can make him unhappy, especially in public. In short, effective communication is an important part of all relationships; Therefore, be sure to show your crush how you feel.
   • Sending text messages and emails regularly with winged words is also a good way, but sending too much will overwhelm him and make you a stalker. Words of love will help you show your affection for him, and you want this sweetness to last forever, but don't show so much that he feels scared!

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   Seductive guy. Don't be afraid to act seductive. Most people are attracted to her sexy, aristocratic and confident. Confidence means that you are satisfied with who you really are; you will show this without ever trying, knowing how to accept yourself and no longer doubting your worth. You don't have to be the most active and energetic if that's not your personality; Instead, always be yourself by taking good care of yourself and believing that you deserve his attention.

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   Give him a gift. Giving small gifts to each other is a way of creating joy in a relationship. Everyone loves to receive gifts, and the act of giving gifts means that the person is important to you. However, you don't need to "invest" too much in this - give him a gift just because you love him and want him to know it. You don't want your boyfriend to think that you are using gifts in exchange for his feelings.
   • Hand-prepare some gift for him. You can give him a confetti, an artistic heart image, something creative and express your personality so that every time he sees the gift, he will think of you and your smile. If you like music or know how to play an instrument, give him one or a few songs (more meaningful if you perform songs written by you). You can record a song video and post it to YouTube in private.

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   Don't be jealous. Fall in love, but don't get into rage when your boyfriend talks or even mentions another girl. Nothing will disappoint your partner faster than realizing that you are insecure and unable to bear the presence of other girls in your life.He'll appreciate it when you're friendly with his opposite sex instead of gossiping or messing with any girl around him.
   • When your ex is with friends, don't text them all the time to make sure they aren't talking to other girls. This will only make your boyfriend think that you don't trust them at all.
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Advice

• Stand on the side of the lover. Fidelity and encouragement are key factors in the depth of a relationship.
• Appreciate the good things in the relationship. Everyone feels more comfortable receiving appreciation. You too, right? Learn to appreciate what your ex does, even if it's just a thank you when he takes you home. They do it for you to show their respect for you. Not all women have a beautiful love story; So please cherish your relationship.
• Acknowledge when they do the right thing. This is an action that helps him feel more confident, just like admitting mistakes when he is wrong will help ease the conflict in the relationship. Learn these skills early to build a foundation for a shared and strong relationship.
• If your partner behaves passively, that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. In fact, he may be inherently shy or introverted. Perhaps he had never loved anyone before and did not know how to behave. Or, he isn't someone who likes to show affection, but still has a deep love for you. Find out what makes him act like that and try to understand that. Sometimes he or she expects you to be more proactive because you have a lot of experience in love. Or, at some point, you will realize that he is and you should learn to adapt.
• Don't try to change your boyfriend. You just need to say what you like; If he loves you, he will do it next time. If the person is too different from the type of person you want to stick with for life, find a more suitable person and see this as a relationship that will help you gain valuable experiences.
• Don't impose! You shouldn't force your boyfriend to do things that make him uncomfortable.
• Understand that every relationship is different and that there is no universal formula that will make you a good girlfriend because everyone has a different perspective.
• Don't let anyone arrange your life, especially your boyfriend. Don't let the person pressure you; Instead, talk openly about the matter, including the effect of every order he puts on you. Likewise, don't tell them how they should live.
• Talk to your significant other about the problems you have and deal with him. Two people should learn to care for and care for each other.
• Trust the person; If you can't do this, you need to change your mind. Trust is an important foundation in a relationship; and the bond between the two will deepen as beliefs are formed.
• If your partner has a habit of controlling or forcing you to do something you don't want to do, then maybe it's time to say goodbye. Don't let them control you.
• Do not lie to your lover because "the needle in the bag has been visible for a long time". Be honest, but if the person is always lying, you don't need to respond with the same act. Instead, talk frankly with him.

Warning

• Jealousy is a very dangerous emotion. Do not intentionally make lover jealous. This only damages the belief in the long run.
• Don't be self-conscious about your appearance. When your ex decides to date you, it means that you are very attractive in his eyes.
• Don't compare your current partner with your ex. Nobody likes this comparison, even if you just want to say that your current boyfriend is better than the ex. This is a lame comparison and you have no right to judge anyone; Instead, focus on nurturing the current relationship.
• Do not flirt with his friends! No matter how attractive those guys are, you need to let your partner know that he is the only one in your heart. If you want to flirt with someone, it means you're not ready for a serious relationship.
• Don't secretly check on your boyfriend to see what he or she will do. This is an act of humiliation, disrespect and unfairness. Surely you don't want your partner to do this to you. Likewise, don't force your partner into sex.
• Do not lie. In addition to being honest, you should also have an open mind. Don't hide something from you even if it makes you feel awkward, as it could cause problems in your relationship later on. Hypothesis is also a solution - sometimes you have to say something to dispel the stress because hiding it can lead to misconception.
• Don't be a nuisance. Nuisance here means constant phone calls, getting angry when the lover spends time with friends, using the "next pain" so they have to spend more time with you, complaining, constantly complaining other, always demanding recognition (eg often ending stories with “do you think so?”), etc.
• Don't look at your lover's phone unless you're comfortable with it. He should also respect you in the same way.
• Understand the difference between a constructive comment and a criticism that has a negative impact on the other person's personality - in this case, you are making them behave differently than they really are.
• Occasionally your lover will want space, so do not object when he says that need.
• You can talk about your boyfriend with your best friends, but be sure to respect your partner by not sharing something that is somewhat embarrassing, personal, or not so cool. (Don't talk about your kiss!) It's okay if you want to update your relationship with your friends, but don't let them get in the way; however, tell everything when you are in a violent or dangerous situation and ask a friend to help you get out of the relationship. If you want to share in private about the relationship, make sure your partner knows that and that he is allowed to do the same with his friends; But don't let your partner talk about you as an item.