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Weakened in your confidence? Maybe you're just tired and frustrated of waiting for the good to happen to you. Don't just wait in vain! Practice thinking courage and confidence, give yourself opportunities, and learn how to get what you want.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Behavior Brutalism

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   Don't hesitate and act. Have you wanted to try something for a long time, but don't seem to have the courage to do it? Whether you want to invite an acquaintance to a drink, say an apology to someone you love after a long misunderstanding, or simply be friendly with a colleague, stop thinking, go for it. what.
   • Courage is the exact opposite of procrastination. Whenever you feel hesitant about interacting with other people, or when making a decision for yourself, let go of your self-esteem and take the initiative.

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   Do things no one expected. Courageous people are not afraid of new experiences, and one of the many reasons that being with them is so enjoyable is that you always have to anticipate their actions. You can try something new, like salsa dancing or water surfing, for example. Whatever you do, be sure to do it for yourself, not for others.
   • Doing new and unexpected things can make you feel weak or scared. Don't give up on these feelings.Instead, accept that the skills you learn are completely new and don't hesitate to be yourself.

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   Find yourself again. After all, courage starts with understanding your strengths and weaknesses, then overcoming them. Do not try to hide your problems or failures, accept them all as part of who you are. This will help you move forward confidently and you will also appreciate your uniqueness.
   • Realize that you don't have to do messy or weird things to discover yourself. Avoid unusual changes just for shocking purposes. Be honest with yourself.

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   Pretend to be brave. If they were swapped for an assertive and bold person you admire so much, what would they do when they were friends? If you already know anyone who is brave, imagine their actions.
   • The inspiration for courage doesn't have to be real. Think of a bold and brave character in a movie or book. Then imagine their boldness in real life.

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   Willing to say no. If someone asks you to do something you don't want, say no. Saying "No" will help restore your personality and make you feel courageous, ensuring that you are ready and determined to work hard to get what you want. Don't feel compelled to give any reason or explanation. Everyone will have to learn to respect your honesty and courage, and you will have what you want.
   • Realize that when you make a commitment to something, you should pursue it. Your sense of self-esteem will grow, as will the other's respect for you.

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   Show your pursuit of action. It is not enough to simply say that you are going to do something, you have to really get started, otherwise people will think you are talkative. When what you say is good and you put it into action, people will trust and value you as a brave and trustworthy person.
   • If you've accepted to do something you don't really want, you should still do it because you made a promise. From next time, remember to say no and act more resolutely.
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Method 2 of 2: Get what you want

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   Ask for what you want. Instead of waiting for your efforts to be recognized, or expecting someone to care about your needs, step forward and ask for what you want. That doesn't mean you should ask for what you want or be harsh. Be confident and skillful when choosing your words.
   • Don't confuse courage and harshness. Stubbornness is how you assign your views or actions to others. Boldness has nothing to do with the people around you. It's about overcoming your fear and taking action.

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   Negotiation. The saying "What can you do for me?" is the easiest and most powerful way to hand over responsibility to the person you're dealing with. Even if the initial answer is "no", open the door of opportunity for the other person for as long as possible so they can change their opinion.
   • Plan your responses before you negotiate. If you think your boss will refuse to cut you because there's no one to take the place, suggest that you double shifts when you come back, or that you'll work remotely when you have free time.

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   Propose two options. One of the best ways to get what you want is to simplify the number of solutions to a given problem. That ensures you get what you want.
   • Even if there is an infinite number of possibilities for a problem, limit the solutions that are right for you. This will minimize the hassle of solutions and ensure that the results are what you want.

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   Take risks and create opportunities. Taking risks and taking risks are two completely different things. Risky people do not accept risks because they do not even think about those risks. A bold person, on the other hand, is knowledgeable about the risks, still following his decision, ready and determined to accept the consequences when things fail.
   • Failure to act or hesitate is often also a type of risk, because that risk is your missed opportunity. However, this is a risk that can be avoided. Your goal is to give yourself the best chance of success, not to cover your doors of opportunity. Once you've decided to act, do it and don't panic.

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   Make a question. You are not brave if you encounter a situation where you have absolutely no understanding but do not listen to advice. If you do not understand a given job or a problem at work or school, boldness is the willingness to admit that you are confused about the issue and ask for more clarification.
   • Don't be afraid to dare to ask for help from others. If you encounter someone who can't help you, find someone else. The perseverance of finding the answers has shown your courage.

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   Accept all results. When you try something new or even try to get what you want, you will also be more likely to fail. Please appreciate your own failures. Failure is not the opposite of success, it is essential. Without the risk of failure, you won't have the chance to succeed.
   • Don't worry about being rejected. You need to separate your emotions from the results you get. Don't let a single rejection ruin your confidence and courage.
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Advice

• Don't let others beat you down when you experience new things. They are usually people who want to be brave but don't have the courage to do what you are doing.
• To be courageous, you don't have to be fearless. Let the other person see that you are scared, too, but that you keep moving forward, walking without stopping, and not turning your head.