Author:
Lewis Jackson
Date Of Creation:
13 May 2021
Update Date:
12 May 2024
Content
A relationship breakdown can often lead to poor health and increased feelings of sadness and / or anger. Unfortunately, losing a loving relationship also means losing some of the benefits it brings, such as social support, friendship, love, and affectionate intimacy. Phuong. Breaking up, of course, lowers your self-esteem and leads to an outbreak of depression. However, it can also provide a great opportunity for reflection, self-improvement, and most importantly, it can provide you with learning experiences that can help in a future relationship. this for many years to come.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Coping with Your Emotions
Know when to ask for help. Given the risk of depression, it is important to know how to recognize suicidal behaviors in yourself and in others. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline with US phone number can connect you with the nearest suicide prevention agency and health care professional. In Vietnam, call 1900599930 to contact the Center for Psychological Crisis (PCP) if you:- Thinking about suicide
- Having trouble eating and / or sleeping
- Experience serious changes in behavior
- Isolate from friends and / or social activities
- Loss of interest in studies, work, or hobbies
- Think about having a will rewritten or rearranging things one last time
- No need for life
- Seemingly haunted by death and / or dying
- Increased alcohol and / or drug use
- Has attempted suicide before
Evaluate your relationships in a real way. Really, healthy relationships do not end suddenly. Therefore, it helps to think about the different aspects of the love story to understand why things didn't go well.- Perhaps this relationship has been a mistake for you from the start. Or perhaps what you want in life is not what your partner wants, or maybe there are some flaws in the relationship.
Know what constitutes a strong romantic relationship. Many people choose to break up because they are unable to form a healthy relationship. Here are a few of the essentials that are essential to creating a truly satisfying relationship:- Respect each other: Treat your partner as if your partner deserves to be appreciated and in return their affection for you
- Compassion: Sincere concern for your lover
- Empathetic: Open your heart to what your lover feels
- Understanding: Understand the other's feelings and actions
- Accept: Accept who your partner really is and who you are
- Honest: Relationship should be built with honesty
- Trust: Be willing to let your partner know your own thoughts, feelings, and aspects of life
- Communication: Ability to communicate openly in the relationship; understand how to get to the other party with care
- Care: Pay attention to your lover's needs and your own needs
- Harmony and common interest: Enjoy and cherish all common interests; accept contradictions, disagreements, when you do not like or value common values
- Personal integrity: The ability to maintain beliefs and self-awareness; Gives time relationship and attention
- The ability to get hurt: Eliminate obstacles; has the ability to allow the other person to understand that you are human and also to make mistakes without fear of consequences
Remember disagreements. To better understand romantic breakdowns, think about whether you and your partner often disagree over any of the following important areas:
- Share financial
- Hobbies and common interests
- Calculate religious thresholds
- Show love
- Friendship
- Bedtime story
- Behavior
- Philosophy
- Family relationship
- Life goals
- Spend time together
- Give decision
- Responsibility for housework
- Career goals / point of view
Merciful for the relationship. Remember that breaking up is a traumatic process. Grief is a natural response to all forms of loss. Experiencing a broken relationship often brings pain because it not only shows a loss of a relationship, but also a loss of hope and promises shared together. It is normal to face an uncertain, new future when you feel sad, angry, exhausted, confused, or anxious.
Allow yourself to properly control your emotions. Don't let your grief last too long, and don't try to find ways to ignore them at the same time. Allow yourself to minimize your emotions for a while; you may not be productive enough, or have difficulty focusing on others like you did in the short term.
- Make sure to take time to accept your feelings and allow them to be fully expressed.
- Although this can be a little difficult, try sharing your feelings with others so that you can feel less lonely in the face of pain.
- However, remind yourself that moving forward is the ultimate goal, and that you still have a promising future with new hopes and dreams that will replace your old dreams and ambitions.
Silence your inner criticism. If your self-esteem is suffering the consequences of the breakup, there is a high chance that your inner critic will harshly criticize your role in the breakup. Understand that making mistakes and revealing flaws is possible without feeling guilty.
- If you find that your inner critic is criticizing negative things about you, stop and write down that negative thought. Then, cross out and rewrite the systematic way of thinking.
- For example, "I am too dependent" should cross out and replace it with "I will try to be reliable and confident".
- For example, "After all, I am the one who ruin every love affair" should cross out and replace it with "I will persistently look for the person of my dreams and strive towards a stable and healthy relationship".
Method 2 of 3: Heal the wound through writing a Diary
Use a journal to better understand relationships and endings. Reflecting on a breakdown in a relationship through writing is supposed to help people accept the process. Writing a narrative relationship story can help you better understand why the relationship didn't go well, and can also help you convey that understanding to yourself and to others.
- This will also make you more aware of what you want for future relationships.
Evaluation while writing diary. The key to effective break-up journaling is to evaluate your breakup experience in retelling it. It is important to create a complete narrative structure that includes opening, body, and closing. This helps you organize things into a conceptually controllable structure, and then you can more easily see the breakup as a consequence with predictable cause.
- Journaling while using this structure can help you achieve a sense of real closure and move forward in life, increase your sense of control over your post-parting self-recovery, and allow you to cope with feelings. contact, and thereby improve your self-esteem after you become aware of what happened.
Start writing a diary. After understanding the reasons behind journaling, it's time to make it happen. You can write on a computer if you are more comfortable typing, or write by hand if you prefer handwritten personal information.
Organize the affairs of the love story in chronological order. Arrange everything that happened in the relationship in the order in which they were. Be sure to coherently report the link.
- In order for yourself to understand why a romance isn't going well, your story needs to be clear and meaningful enough for others to still understand when reading it (you don't have to share your diary with others). .
Recognize cause and effect. Organize events in the narrative so that causes and effects become clearer. Give a concrete example to illustrate the motives behind the breakup. This will help you develop and understand the end of the relationship.
See you and your partner as the protagonist of a story. Build your main characters as if they were involved in the cause and effect of the events that happened throughout your relationship.
- Try to discern the feelings and opinions of each character involved in the incident and try to sketch out what each of them means in the love story.
Know what you want out of the relationship. In another part of your journal, write down what you think is the perfect love story. Be specific and think about what relationship you want to offer and what you want in return.
Compare the story of the breakup with what you want from your future relationship. Was your relationship that just ended healthy and satisfying? How often do you disagree about major romantic issues? How would you like your relationship to be different from now on? How would you like them to be?
Thinking about the breakup. Keeping a breakup journal can help you feel in control of the affairs of the relationship. This can give you a full sense of your understanding of breakdown, a sense of ownership, and help boost your self-esteem. advertisement
Method 3 of 3: Practice Taking Care of Yourself
Find opportunities to help you feel empowered and successful. What field do you specialize in? Can you help your loved one complete specific tasks? Participating in activities that you excel in will help you feel acknowledged, acknowledged, and supported. If you participate in an activity that develops and / or capitalizes on your strengths, you will significantly increase your self-esteem, which can lead to your physical well-being, a cheerful and open-minded mood. festival.
Volunteer for a charity. This activity has many benefits; it takes your mind off of the breakup, makes you feel proud of yourself, and also helps others. Make the experience even more rewarding by bringing in a good friend or two to volunteer with you.
Try to exercise. Regular physical exercise makes people feel happier. You will feel better in your body, with abundant energy and motivation. Exercise can also be beneficial in helping you stay in shape, which in turn makes clothes fit better, and increased self-confidence often comes with weight loss.
- The process of exercising your health does not have to be strict, or becoming a member of a new gym class is effective. Simply walk outside for 30 minutes a day or find a class that interests you, like modern dance, yoga, or surfing.
Eat healthy and nutritious food. Choosing foods rich in fiber and low in processed ingredients and sugars can make you healthier and healthier. Are you not good at cooking? Find a cooking class and explore the freedom to just follow your own taste.
- Remember that a well-balanced meal includes plenty of fruits and vegetables, low in protein (like lean meat), and less nuts and less dairy.
Take time to focus on your appearance. Maintaining a clean and tidy appearance is always helpful in boosting self-esteem. In fact, it is common for people to find them a new style (or at least a new hairstyle) after the long relationship ends. However, you don't have to change the whole style to look different. Leave your sweatpants at home and change into everyday clothes — including shoes, not flip flops — while you are in the process of healing.
There is always a support network. While no one can improve your self-esteem, being with a close friend or family that cares about and truly listens to you can help you get back to a normal post-breakup state and improve. good self-esteem. advertisement
Advice
- Try making a list of your best points and remember that you are always proud of being yourself.
- Go to the gym or go jogging with friends. It is more fun to work with someone you like and that will help you lose your mind about other things.
