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Have you ever felt shy about seeing someone you have a crush on? Do you want to have the confidence to go to that person and confess your heart? Flirting can be a bit difficult, but it will be easier if you go through the training process. The article will give you tips on how to look, behave, and flirt with your ex.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Looks beautiful and full of life

1. 

   Be aware of your appearance. Flirting doesn't work if you think your looks are hindering you. Flirting is talking about confidence, and the way you look (or lack) your appearance tells a lot about your confidence level.
   • You don't have to be formal, but elegant and decent. Make sure the clothes you are wearing are right for you rather than the 70s or 80s fashion, unless you already have your intentions and are comfortable wearing them.
   • Regularly bathe or clean body. Use deodorants, brush your teeth, wash your face, cut nails, and more. Don't forget to use mouthwash right before you see / talk to the person.
   • Let a hairstyle make you beautiful / handsome and enhance your facial contours. Don't be afraid to mess with your hair if you're a girl.
   • If you are a man, you should use perfume sparingly. The boys are often "too hands on" with perfume. Sometimes they use so much perfume that they harm even small animals. The truth is that just a little perfume can be incredibly effective.

2. 

   
   
   Find ways to become confident. Flirting comes naturally if you are really confident. Think of success instead of fear of failure. You pursue your goals because you believe in yourself. If flirting is a sport, then self-confidence building will be the training your coach will force you through to achieve success.
   • Make contact with many people before you start flirting. Be with people of the opposite sex right before you flirting with someone. You will gradually get used to feeling comfortable around them. In addition, it will also help you become more sociable and gradually build the strength of the confidence you need to flirt.
   • Find ways to get courage before flirting. Do things for your forte before flirting: it will help you gain more confidence and enhance your ego. You can play sports, practice an instrument, or get good marks on an exam.

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   Don't be afraid to fail. Flirting can seem difficult for some people because of its high risk: if the person doesn't care about you at all or shows no sign of their liking, you will feel inferior. Don't let that feeling overwhelm you. Your worth who you are valuable far more than flirting.
   • Don't make mistakes. People get messed up and get nervous around the person they like. This mentality happens to most everybody. Flirting "experts" will often ignore these mistakes and don't let them affect confidence. Don't let this diminish your confidence.
   • Ask yourself: What's the worst that could happen? If you feel really nervous, try to ask yourself questions. This will help you see things right. Stress during flirting is inevitable, but this really isn't a big deal. If the person you're flirting with doesn't reciprocate your feelings, then this isn't the end of the world. If you give heartfelt love, you will receive adequate love.
   • Don't see a person as "all or nothing." The secret to flirting is flirting with more than one person. It's very normal for you to secretly miss someone, but you can hang out with people around you. The truth is that sometimes you will be rejected - that's common sense. If you flirt with someone you are interested in, a rejection on one person won't hurt you.
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Part 2 of 3: Flirting through text messages

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   As natural as possible. The advantage of flirting online is that other people won't know you're worried. So take advantage of that and show it naturally. There are a few ways you can chat:
   • "How's it going?"
   • "Did you know what history homework is?"
   • "Hi, did you know that Mr. Son is having a party on Friday next week?"

2. 

   Always direct conversations to the other person. Do you always want your ex to feel good about yourself? A simple way to do that is to direct the conversation (mostly) to focus on them. Feel free to talk about yourself, but don't forget to ask the person some basic questions that aren't too difficult for them to respond easily:
   • "I heard you reached the final round of the district science project, right? Congratulations! What is your project?"
   • "I recently moved to this town. What do people here usually do for fun?"
   • "Do you have any plans for summer vacation? How boring if I have to hang around at home during the holidays."

3. 

   Praise the other person. You can't flirt without complimenting your partner with a couple of sentences. Compliments will let the person you like know that you care about and value what they are doing. Try to compliment the person as naturally as possible.
   • If you're a guy who wants to compliment a girl, don't compliment sensitive areas. That means you shouldn't mention breasts, buttocks, or the like. Guys often see girls as objects for sexual gratification. Be a man and show her that you value her personality first.
   • Reinforce the image that the person wants to be recognized. This will be a great opportunity for the person to turn to you if you reinforce the way they want to be seen by others. If the person you like to consider yourself an athlete, compliment their athletic looks; If the person claims to be an intellectual, commend their intelligence.
   • Don't give too much praise. The more you compliment, the less meaningful each compliment means. So choose and give a few appropriate compliments. Crush will understand your heart.
   • Here are a few suggestions to try:
     • "It's great to talk to you. I appreciate your openness and friendliness!"
     • "What does a pretty girl / handsome guy like me / you do for fun on a Friday night?"
     • "So why does a smart and attractive person like me / you have no boyfriend / girlfriend?"
     • "I / I know this is a bit unfair to the other boys / girls at school, but it is true that it is with you that Monday coming to class becomes more comfortable."

4. 

   Ignore the cheesy saws. The cheesy words are like stone pets: they sound good, but they are completely meaningless. Furthermore, they are difficult to respond. It's better to keep your sincerity if you can't think of something interesting to say.

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   Teasing a little. If you have a close relationship with your ex, don't be afraid to tease a bit as a way to flirt with him / her. Make sure he / she knows you're teasing, sarcasm, or sarcasm - because it's hard to tell if someone is really serious over the internet.
   • Tease gently about the person's strengths / confidence points. If the person you like is a famous athlete, say "How many goals will your team have to score without your presence on the field?" It is perfectly clear that you are joking. Besides, there is almost no chance of offending a person because they already know they are a good athlete.
   • Tell your own jokes.Talk about the moments you've been through together and interject with intimate jokes from time to time. Jokes strengthen your friendship and help you connect the little things in your life.

6. 

   Stop at the climax. Don't hesitate to shorten the conversation if things are going well. It is better to end the conversation when you don't know what to say or something goes wrong. Let the person expect more.
   • At the end of the conversation say something like "It's fun to talk to me - please text me / me?" or "See you tomorrow at school!" to reinforce what you have achieved.
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Part 3 of 3: Direct flirting

1. 

   Make eye contact and smile. These are two of the most important flirting rules. Flirt with your eyes and don't forget to smile. Eyes and lips are our beauty traits and are often used to communicate. So take advantage of them to your advantage!
   • Look into the person's eyes affectionately. It's hard to do, but the person in your dreams will find it hard to resist that gaze - which everyone is excited about.
   • Make eye contact when talking with him / her. Learn to maintain eye contact when you talk to the person. If done correctly, the content of the conversation will not matter much because they have been fascinated by your eyes.
   • Smiling from far to near. Smiling from a distance is an invitation: "Come close to me, I will not" bite "you." Smile and say as your significant other approaches, "Stay with me a little longer, how happy you are with you." A bright smile is the difference between successful flirting and failure.

2. 

   Find a way to talk. Getting into a conversation is just one way to initiate a conversation. This is usually very simple and you don't have to think too hard:
   • "You look really beautiful wearing that dress. Did you make that dress yourself? "
   • "Do you know what Son did on the weekends? I heard he set a Guinness world record ...."
   • Looks like you are a math master. Can you help me / me solve this algebraic equation? "

3. 

   Make sure the person you like knows who you are. Introduce yourself if you've never talked about yourself. You can introduce yourself after a conversation (this is quite normal and interesting) or you can use the introduction to talk to the person: "Hi, I'm Ngoc, I don't think they are. I've met before. " Remember to smile and make eye contact with the other person when introducing yourself!

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   When the conversation begins, keep the conversation light and smooth. Determine your crush's level of interest: if he / she seems bored or disinterested, pause the conversation and try again later. As you continue to talk with the person, keep the following in mind:
   • Find common ground. Link your partner's experiences to yourself and share similarities. If you both enjoy surfing, talk about the waves or surfing competitions you entered. Discovering things you have in common will help you bond with your crush, and will make him or her closer to you.
   • Avoid difficult topics like politics or religion, unless the person is interested in talking. Politics and religion are difficult to say because they are associated with strong emotional responses. They can be as divisive as they are connected, so stay away from discussing these topics if possible.

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   Once you get acquainted with the person, touch the person. You can hug, touch him / her, or give him an informal smile instead of just saying goodbye.
   • In general, in conversation, compared to men, women tend to avoid contact early. Many girls feel insecure when the guy has just met their body; meanwhile, most guys are usually very open to touch. Either way, take extreme caution and step back immediately if you notice negative or vague signals from the other party.
   • Learn to touch safe zones. These areas include the hands, arms, shoulders, or back. When you are talking to the person, gently touch their shoulder to draw attention. Or you can do the same thing with the other person's hand. If the person is interested, they will be excited.
   • Be a little bolder as you get comfortable. Hold the person's hand when crossing the street, or gently take your hand to lead him / her to a seat. Lightly bump each other as you go along, or randomly bump each other to get their attention.

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   Don't forget to praise others. The praise was mentioned in Part Two, but there are a few points to reiterate:
   • Never over-compliment gender characteristics. You may accidentally go too far and make the other person uncomfortable. Only compliment superficial features like:
     • Eyes
     • Smile
     • Lips
     • Hair
     • Skin
   • Reinforce the image that the person wants to be recognized. If the person you like is an athlete, compliment their athletic looks.
   • Don't give too much praise. Complimenting more reduces the meaning of each compliment.
   • Focus on looking at the person and smile at all times. These traits add value to your winged compliments!
   • Compliments are natural. Try to include compliments in the conversation as naturally as possible.
   • Be brave! If you're an adventurous person - you should keep it going, because luck will come to brave people - try something funny and daring: "I'm sure you are. know this, but you really are the most beautiful person you have ever seen… in the last three minutes. "

7. 

   Know when to end a conversation. The flirting conversation can take a while, but usually only takes a few minutes to finish. This is a good thing! You should flirt when opportunities open, and then let them look forward to more, so that person will come back and you will have a chance to flirt with the other person many more times ...
   • After 5-10 minutes, find a reason to leave. For example "Now you will have to do some homework for your friend". Try to end the conversation at the climax of the conversation.
   • Don't talk to the person every day. Absence makes love sweeter. Let the other party guess. Be mysterious. Don't expose everything.
   • Give the person a chance to show off a little. Now that you've successfully flirted with your dream person, let him / her flirt back! This is not a game, but give the person the opportunity to show their feelings. People often like to face a bit of a challenge.

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   If you're ready to take the next step, ask for a date. It doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman - it's okay for girls to actively date guys, as long as the guy is the one to plan your next date.
   • Ask your partner what their plans for a week are: "Are you busy next Saturday? I / I have some tickets for the movie that just came out."
   • Choose a public place and an enjoyable day. A public place makes your significant other comfortable, and an enjoyable activity will help you bond when you're both enjoying it.
   • If you are really confident, just go ahead and say, "We got along well. What do you think about this weekend? Shall we have dinner and a movie together?"
   • There's no need to consider this as a date if you don't want to. Just ask him / her to join you in what you are doing. If the person asks you if it's an appointment, you can admit it.
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Advice

• Always be honest, if you are open-minded, maintain this personality; If you are shy, continue to be shy.Don't be a copy of someone else. Always be honest, because if you cheat on him it means you are deceiving yourself.
• Always be yourself.
• Shouldn't be obvious.
• Give him a gift from time to time to get him to appreciate you.
• Don't despair, a new relationship will come along with time.
• Be yourself and don't let him change who you are. If he tries to change you, show him your outstanding qualities.
• Always smile and raise your face. Please behave normally. You don't want to look fake.
• Appearance should not be your top priority. You should learn carefully about his humor, his kindness as well as his personal life. If he's a cold-blooded guy, he doesn't deserve to be the person of your dreams!
• Make sure you listen and don't ignore him / her. If you show no interest, he / she will feel left out. Remember not to chat AT ALL TIME with him / her as they will feel stuffy!
• Try to start a conversation and maintain eye contact with the person. Any stress will be relieved when you smile.
• If you are someone who never truly smiles, don't smile at the person you like when talking. A smile will work.
• Be yourself and try to love her with all your heart because no one is perfect.

Warning

• Be yourself. No guy is worth changing yourself and you won't be able to fake it forever, because that way you will just release the stress yourself. (People are often attracted to people who have similarities with them and you wouldn't want to end up with a hot guy / girl that has nothing in common with you ... especially when they don't still very attractive). Prefer a guy for who he is rather than how he looks. If he is really hot but a cunning guy, don't hang out with this type of person.
• Make sure the guy you like doesn't have a girlfriend right now. If he is in a relationship, this could be a big problem.