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• Steps
• Advice
• Warning

The past is the domain of elapsed memories.Sometimes it can be difficult to move forward, for example after a traumatic event, but when you spend so much time indulging in the past, you are wasting your own life.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Determine the cause

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   Think about the past. Reflect on the things that are holding you back in life. Are you scared of not wanting to start a new relationship just because of a bad experience in the past? Are you stuck thinking about something bad you've done and don't know how to overcome it? Are you missing your childhood and a time when you don't have to be responsible as much as you are now? Do you remember the great moments with old friends?
   • Identifying what is holding you back is an important first step in moving forward.

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   Listen to your feelings. As you reflect on the things that are holding you back, pay attention to your feelings for your memories. If something is deeply emotional (good or bad), it's most likely the cause.
   • Suppose, if you find yourself happy and pensive every time you remember your teenage years, ask yourself questions to assess whether those past flashbacks are healthy, or they're potentially dangerous. harm and hold you back in life.
   • For example, you might ask yourself if you share more of your teenage days than other stages of your life or future.
   • You may also wonder if those teenage memories are limiting your potential. For example, ask yourself if attachment is keeping you from experiencing new things.

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   List those reasons. Once you have identified what is holding you back, write them all down. This action will serve as a warning you will try to keep going.
   • Do this if the reason that holds you back is, say, your experience of a traumatic event, such as assault, and you fear that the same might happen to you.
   • You might write that, for example, you are afraid of being hurt, and that you worry about losing control in similar situations.
   • Writing down the reasons why you can't move forward will also aid in the process of coping with your emotions.

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   Patience. Although the time you spend thinking about the causes is, by definition, past penetrating behavior, keep in mind that you do so in the end just to move forward.
   • Try to remind yourself of your ultimate goal as you reflect on your past.
   • If you feel overwhelmed, take a break with quiet, distracting activities.
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Method 2 of 3: Change your way of thinking

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   Fight the thoughts that hold you back. You can move forward in your life by thinking differently about what is holding you back. For example, if you have witnessed an assault and are afraid the same will happen to yourself, ask yourself a few questions to avoid the adverse effects of the event on your life. .
   • For example, you can ask yourself about the frequency of these behaviors in your city or country and search for answers online. This will help you realize that the likelihood of you being attacked is very low.
   • You can also ask yourself how many times you've been out in the street without witnessing any assault. This will help reinforce the fact that such injury incidents are rare, and that you can move forward before changing your negative views on the situation.

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   Don't victimize yourself when you don't need to. While it's okay to accept the reality of the situation, suppose when someone hurts you, understand that you are in control of all of your thoughts and behavior. So, it makes sense not to focus too much on what happened to you, but instead consider what you can do in that situation and what you can do to move forward.
   • Don't go too far in the negative and think that everything that happened to you is your fault. Instead, think about what you can do to make yourself feel better, no matter who is at fault, and move forward.

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   Always wholeheartedly. There won't be any other day like the one you live today. Every day is precious, and time will pass by. You never know when you will die, so live your best. These things may sound cliché but they contain too much truth, and that's why they are so popular! There are many ways to become more committed. You can try the following tips:
   • Enjoy your experiences by doing your best to focus on the simple emotions they bring. Pay more attention to the taste, smell, look and feel of things.
   • Take a deep breath, listen attentively, and feel your own breath.
   • See the world through new lenses by imagining that what you are doing is not familiar; Imagine as if this were the first time you observed the scenery around you and never knew anything about it.

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   Do not be discouraged. Moving forward is not easy. Sometimes you will find it difficult to control your thoughts, when your mind wanders into the past or future but you just want to think for the present.
   • Avoid letting yourself get discouraged by behaving easily to yourself when you are pondering again or not moving forward.
   • Remember that moving forward is an ongoing process, so you won't fail while remaining in that direction. Do not be upset by temporary mistakes, instead, observe the overall progress of your struggle.

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   Face your fears. If you've experienced something hurting and have had a hard time moving forward, consider facing those fears directly to get over it.
   • For example, if you've ever had a car accident, can't forget it and have stopped driving ever since, slowly get used to the car and driving again.
   • You can start by staying in a parked car for about two minutes. Then, you can drive around the neighborhood at night or when there is little or no traffic.
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Method 3 of 3: Seek Help from an Expert

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   Find a psychologist. Seeing a therapist can help you solve problems when you are not yet moving forward in life.
   • In the United States, to find a psychologist, you can visit the following online site: http://locator.apa.org/

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   Consult with your family doctor. Maybe you have depression, depression is one of the symptoms of this disease. In that case, you should consult your doctor about the possibility of using antidepressants.
   • Some signs of depression include: feelings of hopelessness, lethargy, loss of interest in all activities or the future, slow thinking, restlessness, anxiety, and lack of birth. force.
   • You may also have Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, the type of anxiety that often occurs after experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event.

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   Make a list of your symptoms. If you decide to seek medical or mental health professional help, take advantage of these meetings by writing down all the symptoms you experience and the circumstances under which they occurred.
   • Do not be afraid to list them thoroughly. Giving too much information is better than giving too little.

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   Make a list of questions. Make sure you prepare well for your meeting by writing down questions you can ask your doctor. You can ask about the following:
   • What medicines you can use.
   • The advantages and disadvantages of each drug are different.
   • Alternatives to taking medications, for example lifestyle changes (e.g. exercising, eating in moderation).
   • Side effects of the recommended medications.
   • The primary cause of your post-traumatic depression or disorder.
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Advice

• Everything has its time. What's happening to you doesn't last forever.

Warning

• Getting stuck in the past or worrying too much about the future can be signs of depression.