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Have you ever fallen in love with someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings, or have you found out that your boyfriend doesn't care about you as much as you do? While it often happens, it is a painful and difficult experience to get through. Wanting to regain your balance faster, you can follow steps to change your outlook and move forward. You can also make simple lifestyle changes to feel better and turn to those around you for support.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Change Your Look

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   Handle the situation head-on. No matter how much you have a crush on a guy who doesn't care about you, you have to know your feelings and handle the situation. Denying him that you care or like him is not a way to move you forward.
   • Don't pretend it never happened, or pretend you're not sad about it. In order to forget someone, psychologists advise, you need to recognize and acknowledge what you are dealing with. No matter how deep your relationship with the guy is, this is an important step in this grieving process.
   • Talk to a close friend or jot down your feelings in a private place like a journal.

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   Don't blame yourself. When you know a guy doesn't like you the way you like him, it is very likely that you will look back at yourself for flaws. However, blaming yourself is not the way you move forward, and it only makes you feel sadder.
   • Instead of feeling like you have something wrong that could have been corrected or should be done differently, put those negative thoughts aside. Get back in control by getting rid of the guy who doesn't care about you. You don't need to be with someone who doesn't need you, and if they don't need you then it's not your problem. A good relationship is based on the feelings of both parties, and when the other person doesn't feel like that, then the relationship isn't worth your time and effort.
   • One way you can help is to use affirmations to tell yourself that you're not at fault. Self-affirmations may sound silly at first, but they will make you feel better and will make you less guilty about the views of others.

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   Appreciate your independence. While it's hard to forget the guy who doesn't care about you, it's easier for you if you love your independence. Remind yourself that you don't need others to make you happy.
   • Even if at that time you don't feel truly independent or interested in being alone, if you tell yourself that you don't have to depend on others, you will feel better.
   • Take notes on everything you do on your own and how independent you are. For example, are you financially independent? How are you responsible for your own happiness?

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   List your qualities and strengths. You may not feel great or strong trying to forget someone who is not looking for you, but take time to list your qualities and strengths. It will help you feel more confident, more attractive, stronger, and motivate you to move forward.
   • Feeling of rejection can hurt your self-esteem, and this move helps you remember how attractive you are.
   • Think about the specific challenges you have overcome or the events and circumstances that have tested your strengths. Maybe you got through more than you thought, and this time you will also be able to forget the person who didn't notice you.
   • Sometimes it helps to seek advice from a good friend. There are times when it is difficult to discern our own positives. Don't forget that there are things you think are your weaknesses that are strengths in the eyes of others.

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   Don't get impatient. It can be frustrating to find it takes a long time to forget someone, but don't try to force yourself. Asking yourself to forget quickly can make you feel worse and may seem to put even more pressure.
   • Even if it wasn't a formal relationship, you've lost someone you think is important to you. Therefore, you need to give yourself time to regain balance without feeling that you should have moved any further.

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   Recognize your progress. An important part of forgetting a person is recognizing whatever progress you have made, no matter how small. Think about what you did every day.
   • One thing that can help is to make a list of your progress in a journal. Even if you have harder days than usual, you can look back and see how well you are doing and how things are getting better.
   • Take notes even for simple things you do. For example, have you found it easier to hang out with friends and think about their topics? Have you gone somewhere without thinking about the guy you're trying to forget? Do you meet or see someone you consider attractive?

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   Let's hope things get better. Even if you may not feel that way right now, tell yourself that things will work out and you will forget about the person. Allowing yourself to hope for the future is essential in this process.
   • For example, think that forgetting about the person means allowing yourself to meet others who care about you as much as you deserve. Imagine what it would be like not to be sad or unhappy. You can immerse yourself in imagining and daydreaming about the future if it helps you feel more optimistic.
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Method 2 of 3: Making Lifestyle Changes for More Comfort

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   Enjoy a moment alone. If you find that a guy you like or are passionate about doesn't keep an eye on you, the idea of ​​being alone can be intimidating and frustrating. With a little effort, however, you can learn to enjoy loneliness and spend time alone to recover.
   • Psychologists advise you to heal yourself by cultivating a relationship with yourself, that is, feeling comfortable and satisfied with spending time alone.
   • One of the best things about being alone is that you can do whatever you want. The right step to forgetting the person is to think about and make time for specific activities that you enjoy or think you will enjoy.
   • Sometimes starting with small and basic activities can also help. Do you enjoy reading, enjoying a cup of tea, or enjoying a shower? Take time each day for those things. Once you feel comfortable spending time with yourself, you can move on to larger activities like going on a field trip or taking a class.
   • If you are a busy person, you can schedule these activities to be part of your daily routine. Do you have half an hour to yourself every day? If so, fill that time with an activity that you enjoy.
   • If you feel like you don't have time, ask yourself if there is a way to rearrange your schedule to get more time. For example, can you get up 15 minutes earlier each morning or cut down on tasks? You are an important person, and if the activity makes you feel more relaxed, more confident, and independent, then it's worth the time.

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   Stop unhealthy activities or behaviors. When trying to forget someone, it's easy to be tempted by the idea of ​​coping with the situation by inducing unhealthy activities like drinking alcohol, using drugs or having random relationships. While these behaviors may seem to give you temporary relief, they can be harmful and will not help you move forward in life in a positive way.
   • If you are resorting to drugs, alcohol, nighttime sex or other destructive behavior to cope with your mood, you must contact a counselor or therapist right now. who can help you find a more effective way to forget the person.

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   Give yourself space. If you are trying to forget a guy who doesn't care about you, it hurts you even more when you are with him. In order to recover quickly, give yourself some space and minimize your contact with him.
   • This means you spend time visiting new places or hanging out with other friends if you and he share the same social relationship. You may also need to block him from his social media accounts or remove the contact from your phone. You don't need to avoid the person at all costs and it's impractical to completely remove him from life, but you should do what is necessary to feel better.
   • See this as an opportunity to meet and make new friends or experiment with other activities. For example, you might join a book club, take an art class or try a new cafe.

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   Allow yourself to cry. It's easy to understand how frustrated you are when the guy isn't as interested in you as you do for him. And shed tears because it can actually help you feel better.
   • Researchers have concluded that crying can relieve stress and promote healing, so don't be ashamed if you feel like crying and don't try to hold back your tears.

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   Smile and you will be happier. Crying can be a cure when you're trying to forget someone who doesn't keep an eye on you, but smiling is also therapeutic, and it's usually much more fun. Research shows that laughter can reduce pain, reduce anxiety, help you cope with your fears and make you feel more optimistic.
   • To forget that guy, take the time to smile with friends, family or colleagues. Watch a comedy or choose an activity that makes you giggle for fun.

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   Exercise for a better mood. While you won't enjoy exercising at all when you're sad, research shows that being active releases endorphins that make you feel less sad and help you feel more confident.
   • You don't have to run a marathon or train hard to raise your mood. As long as you walk in the park or cycle slowly. Gradually increase your activity levels from day to day, week by week, and soon you will notice that your mood will be much better. As your body and mind improve, it will be easier for you to continue moving forward.
   • Physical exercise also gives you the control and strength to get over your situation. Imagine that you are carrying out life just like doing the physical exercise.
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Method 3 of 3: Get Help From Others

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   Don't separate yourself. When the guy you like doesn't care about you, it's okay to feel disappointed, but don't separate yourself from those who love and support you. Cutting off contact with family and friends will make you even sadder, so reach out to people you can rely on in life.
   • Ask friends and family for feedback and help. Perhaps they will be more than happy to hear from you and find ways to make you feel happier. It is also possible that they have faced a similar situation and will sympathize with you.

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   Organize exciting activities and outings. To get your mind out of your clutter and help you move forward in life, organize fun activities with the people you like around.
   • Go out for dinner, watch a movie, organize a trip or spend a day at the spa.
   • It can be easy to fall into the situation of talking about your unrequited love all the time, but people will have a better time if you enjoy the present moment. Don't just focus on the past.

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   Make new friends. Meeting new people can be a healthy way to regain balance after rejection, because new people have not been present in your painful past. Here are a few ideas to make friends:
   • Start a conversation with a friend you would normally see at work, at school, or at the gym class. We all see many people every day, but we never take the time to actually meet them. Maybe you will meet someone who is able to be your best friend.
   • Go to new locations like restaurants, bookstores and cafes.When you are stuck in familiar places, you won't have a chance to meet many new people.
   • Instead of spending time talking to your new friend about your past love, try asking them about life and the things they care about. You meet new people to move forward, so don't let the past enter your new beginning.

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   Try to help others. When you are dealing with a painful situation, such as finding out that someone is not interested in you, it's easy to lose yourself in pain. However, a great way to feel happier and get rid of your troubles from your mind is to help others.
   • Helping others is a way to put your problems in perspective, making them seem less serious and don't cover your entire life.
   • Consider volunteering for a community organization. Offer to help a friend, or simply do good for someone in need.
   • You can also help others in a friendly and encouraging manner during meetings, therapy sessions or online forums.

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   Find a mental health professional. Talking to a mental health professional, counselor or therapist is a very effective way to forget about the guy. They are trained to guide people through the grief process and help them move forward in life and relationships.
   • If you are concerned that your loved ones and friends are tired of hearing you talking about a guy who doesn't care about you or that they are impatient because you are not making progress, then talking to a mental health professional is a good solution. France is good. Their job is not to judge you or your progress. Instead, they'll provide you with a supportive and safe environment where you can express your feelings.
   • If you have depression and are going through a hard time leaving the guy who doesn't need you, then a mental health professional can recommend therapy, support group meetings or even even medicine to help you feel better.
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Advice

• Record your progress and keep a daily journal about the positive steps you are taking. For example, have you gone through a day without thinking too much about the guy who turned you down? Were you able to make new friends? Even if you have had difficult days, you can look back and see your progress.
• Make time for yourself and enjoy time alone. Arrange a time for a cup of tea, read a book, enjoy a bath time. You will feel more independent and strong.
• If you're socializing with the guy who turned you down, giving yourself some space can also help. Go to new places, make new friends and keep your distance from him.
• Love yourself first and then you will find that love is all you need to be free.

Warning

• Avoid self-destructive behaviors like drug and alcohol use and arbitrary sex. Those are not effective ways to forget a person; on the contrary, they can also raise problems.
• If you are depressed and have thoughts of self-harm, you need to get help as soon as possible and you will feel better. If you live in the United States, you can call the National Suicide Prevention's toll-free 24-hour hotline (1-800-273-8255).