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When a guy who is lovingly affectionate with you suddenly becomes lethargic and aloof, your natural reaction is probably to wonder why. While there's a wealth of advice on how to tell if your guy has lost interest in you, we've found the best ones. The first and foremost thing is to notice major changes in communication between the two. Once you have identified any changes in your communication, consider his actions, followed by addressing the problem by talking to him, seeking advice from others, and focusing on yourself.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Notice changes in communication

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   Watch for signs of reduced communication. This is one of the first signs that your guy is no longer enthusiastic about you. Usually, you can be confident that he will contact you if he wants to talk. When a guy who often calls or texts you and stops doing so, take note.
   • His aloof and less talkative attitude could be a sign that his passion is not the same as before. However, this can also indicate changes in his private life - maybe your partner is too busy or has problems to deal with at home.
   • It's always best to meet face to face and ask in person instead of assuming that he doesn't love you anymore.

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   Note if the conversations between the two are usually shorter than before. This usually comes with less communication. If you begin to realize that each time two people talk the conversation is only lightning fast, then you need to be mindful of this point.
   • For example, if two people used to chat for hours on the phone and now only speak for ten minutes each time, then this could indicate that he is losing interest. Maybe your boyfriend intentionally cut the conversation short by ignoring your texts or calls for a long time before answering or telling him that he can't continue talking without giving a reason.
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   Notice changes in his voice when talking to you. Here's a clear clue that shows he doesn't care much about you anymore. Usually men will talk to someone they love in a softer and more loving voice than when talking to others. When there is a change in affection, his voice becomes less affectionate and begins to sound normal.
   • He even bluntly or said malicious words to you. This is a clear sign that he doesn't love you. You don't deserve to be with someone who treats you badly, speaking harshly to you or in difficult words. If he begins to disparage you about your appearance, your behavior, and what you do, stop talking.

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   Listen to what he says. During the conversations between the two of you, did he ask about the important things in your life, or just focus on himself? A guy who cares about you will try to dig deeper into the conversation and get to know who you really are. When your boyfriend talks, notice if he's trying to keep the conversation superficial or cut the conversation short.
   • He may intentionally leave clues behind to let you know if he cares about you. Pay close attention to what he says and how he says it.
   • Does he often joke around with you? A lack of humor is an indication that he is unhappy - possibly depressed - or that he is simply not interested.
   • You should also pay attention to whether he often talks about miscellaneous stories or goes into deeper topics. If he avoids important topics or doesn't want to talk about his feelings, he probably doesn't care about you.
   • If he starts to talk about his relationships with others, especially with affection, then he means that he only considers you friends.
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Method 2 of 3: Observe the change in his actions

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   Notice when he breaks his plan. When your boyfriend repeatedly misses out on activities planned by you two but isn't thinking of reorganizing, take it as a sign that he doesn't want to go out. Maybe he doesn't even ask you out to play, and that's the red alert.
   • If you find that you are the only one offering to do something or making a plan for the two of you, stop to see if he starts trying to make a plan. He will arrange a plan and try to hang out with you if he still cares about you.
   • Maybe he used general excuses when he broke his plans, such as being busy doing other things but not being clear about what. Notice if he never gives you a definitive answer about not being able to hang out with you. He may purposely ignore the reasons why he doesn't follow his plan, just explain something like, "I have something to do with someone else" or "I can't tonight" without stating. specific reason.

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   Observe his behavior toward others. It can be difficult to tell if the guy behaves differently from you, or the way he treats you the same way he treats his friends. See how he interacts with ordinary friends and wonder if he treats you the same way.
   • If his attitude towards you is the same as any other friend, he may just love you but not love. If his heart flutters for you, he will treat you differently from his friends.
   • Some guys are flirtatious, others are just flirting with girls they really flirt with, so you should try to discern what kind of guy your guy is.

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   Pay attention to his body language. A person's feelings can be expressed through his or her body language. When people are indifferent or feel uncomfortable in a situation, they will try to move delicately away from the other person and avoid physical contact. You can pay attention to his body language to see if he is awkward or lethargic while interacting with you.
   • Maybe he deliberately chained away from you, crossed his arms over his chest, or turned his face away when talking to you. He may also try to avoid physical contact like avoiding your hug or pulling back when you touch his arm. If so, he probably doesn't like you.
   • If he looks at you less while he talks, he probably doesn't care what you say. However, some guys are quite shy - if so then this just shows suspense or bashfulness, not because he doesn't care.
   • Some gestures that show he is indifferent to you are: feet and body away from you, neck rubbing, arms crossed, looking at the floor, or turning away.

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   Watch out if he stops any physical contact with you. Touching gestures create physical attraction and intimacy in any relationship. Notice the change in frequency and type of physical contact between the two of you.
   • For example, two friends often hug each other every time they meet. But if he doesn't like you anymore, he probably won't hug you or step away when you're trying to hug him.
   • Even if the two of you still have physical contact, the type of contact might change if he loses interest. Maybe instead of hugging you, he just pats you on the hand, a man's non-romantic gesture towards his friends.

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   See if he's paying attention. When a guy has a crush on someone, they'll try to remember important things like hobbies, schedules, or other related things. He will stop paying attention and remember these things if he no longer gives you special affection.
   • For example, if he forgets your birthday even if you told him a few weeks ago, he may not be interested in you anymore.
   • If he constantly forgets what you say, like you are going for an interview or your family is going to town, he may not care about the important things in your life.
   • Maybe he doesn't show any more meaningful gestures and surprises you like before, such as a bouquet of flowers or a surprise gift.
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Method 3 of 3: Solve the problem

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   Let him contact you first. If you begin to notice that he is not communicating as much with you as before, take a step back in finding him. If you've always been the one texting, calling, or trying to organize your plan and he doesn't do the same thing, then the guy is obviously not eager to see you.
   • Do this for a week to see if he starts making changes. Don't get in touch to see if he talks first. One is that he notices that you have stopped chatting and will come to you, the other is that he will not find you, and that proves he does not care about you.

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   Seek advice. Maybe you and the guy you like have mutual friends. If possible, ask his friends if they know if he has a crush on others or if he still likes you.
   • On the other hand, be sure to see if he asks for your opinion about his romantic relationships with others. These are obvious signs that he cares about others and sees you as only friends. If he starts asking you questions like "How do I get that girl to notice?" or "How should I plan a date with her?" So it's clear that he doesn't have a crush on you.

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   Ask him. Here's the best way to find out if he still likes you. Judging a guy by communication, behavior, or attitude can help you judge his feelings, but you'll never know for sure until you talk to him.
   • This can be scary and stressful for you. Nobody wants to feel rejected, moreover this is a vulnerable situation you put yourself in. However, you may be reading his signal wrong or not getting the signals he thinks is clear.
   • You can address the problem directly or indirectly. For example, ask, "Do you still want to go out with me, or do you just want us to be friends?" When you ask, you go straight to the point and give him the opportunity to express his feelings.

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   Take care of yourself. This is extremely important, as it is not pleasant to feel like losing a man you love. Whether that guy is your boyfriend, someone you have a crush on, or your ex, you need to take care of yourself and be kind to you.
   • Do things that make yourself happy. Hang out with friends, cook a delicious meal, go outside for a walk, draw pictures or watch a new movie.

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   Keep your pride. Accept that he may no longer like you with self-esteem and tolerance. Keep some distance from him and try not to get angry or angry with your mutual friends.
   • It is natural to feel grief when you have lost a relationship and your future plans. After a time of mourning for your broken relationship, get up and move on by focusing on the positive aspects of your life.
   • Let's look at the bigger picture. This is definitely not easy, but in this world there are many other great guys looking for their partner.
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Advice

• The boys' emotions changed for many reasons. That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. That said, however, you need to start reconsidering your own needs and making sure you can retreat with your head held high.
• Love yourself and know that you are wonderful. Never let someone who is no longer interested in you make you feel insecure.

Warning

• Don't overthink "supposed" things. Those things haven't happened yet, so focus on the current and upcoming events.
• Try not to keep the bitter feelings inside. Resentment will hold you back and won't change what happened.