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Relationships often take a lot of effort to preserve, but they can bring you lots of joy and rewards. While you can't really make your partner happy, with kindness and effort, you can give your girlfriend what she needs to feel the joy of your relationship. You will get to know your girlfriend as an independent individual and know what she needs, wants and values. Also, it is important to remember to always support and respect her, and always find ways to keep the fire of love.

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Method 1 of 4: Make her happy

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   Say good things. Everyone loves to hear kind and encouraging words from their lover. Saying positive things to your girlfriend will help her feel loved and appreciated; From there, your relationship is also getting better. So, every time you realize something lovely about her, don't just keep that thought to yourself - share it with that person!
   • Say the familiar "I love you" or express your feelings for her. For example, "You are the light of my life" or "I am very happy that we are together".
   • You can also compliment her by saying, "You did a great job today!" or "You have very beautiful eyes".
   • In addition, use words to express gratitude or appreciation. You can say, “Thank you for joining my show. You are really great! "

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   Willing to help her. Helping is the way you show your girlfriend that you care and makes her feel special. Take the initiative to help without waiting for her to ask.
   • For example, you could say “I've been working hard all day. Let me cook tonight for dinner! "

   Advice: Every time you help her, don't act like you need reward or complaining about work. That makes you look unhappy and reduces the meaning of your actions.

   
   

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   Occasionally give her gifts. Giving gifts is a way to bring joy to your girlfriend and help her recognize your feelings. You can give her a gift on a special occasion, when she is unhappy or for no reason. Don't worry about spending a lot of money on an expensive gift - she will appreciate your action, even if it's a small or simple gift.
   • The gift will be more meaningful when bringing her own unique features or creating a separate mark for the relationship. For example, you can frame a beautiful photo of the two of you or buy a mug with her favorite quote.
   • When giving her a gift, you can say, "I thought of you when I saw this item!"

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   Take time for her. Spending time with your girlfriend is one of the ways to strengthen the relationship and help her feel loved. Schedule a romantic date night or two-person time at least once a week.
   • For example, two people eat dinner and watch a movie together, go for a walk or relax at home and play games.
   • Take turns deciding what to do when you are together. Let her decide from time to time is a way of showing that you appreciate her wants and needs.

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   For her intimate gestures. For many people, cuddling is an important part of a romantic relationship. Show intimate gestures to your girlfriend by holding hands, hugging, kissing, or rubbing your back. Just make sure you know what gesture she's comfortable with and respect when she doesn't want to be intimate!
   • For many couples, sex is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship, but you shouldn't ignore intimate gestures either. Your girlfriend will feel more comfortable and enjoy closer moments when your hug and kiss is not accompanied by another purpose!
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Method 2 of 4: Become someone who loves and supports her

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   Always human honest and reliable in the eyes of his girlfriend. A good relationship is formed from honesty and trust. Let your girlfriend know that she can count on you for your truthfulness - don't lie or hide it. Also, keep your promises so she can trust you.
   • If she asks you to keep something a secret, don't tell others without her permission!

   Warning: Being honest doesn't mean being rude or unkind. Don't say something harsh or hard to hear and make excuses that it is "heartbreaking truth" or "you just say that because of love."

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   Show the kindness and respect in action. This may sound very normal, but your partner will be very happy when you treat her with love and respect. That means not only being there and treating her with kindness, but also respecting her limitations, listening and apologizing when you make mistakes. You can also show respect by:
   • Do not speak loudly, defame or insult her.
   • Treat her fairly.
   • Respect your partner's wishes when she asks you to stop.
   • Protect her from people who behave disrespectfully.
   • Give her some space and time to spend with herself or other friends.

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   Always present when she needs it. To maintain a fulfilling and happy relationship, you need to work hard to be with your partner in good times and in sad times. That means that you are not only there to comfort her when things go wrong, but also to be there to share the joy of when things go well.
   • Encourage her when she comes to challenges. Congratulate her and let her know how proud you are when she accomplishes her goals.
   • When she gets stuck, be there to support her with words and actions. Ask what you can do to help her.

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   Focus on listening when she speaks. Good communication skills are factors that help you maintain the relationship and bring happiness to both. When your girlfriend shares something, give her all your attention and listen without interrupting. Let her know that what she says is important to you and that you really want to listen and understand her.
   • Don't use her phone when she talks to you. Look her in the eye, nod, and say "Oh yeah" or "I see" so she knows you're listening. Ask questions or rephrase what she said to make sure you understand the content.
   • Try not to give advice unless she asks for it.
   • Likewise, don't be afraid to open up and share your feelings with her. She will understand your feelings better when you do not hesitate to say secret things.

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   Confession. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes. If you make a mistake in your relationship, your partner will probably be disappointed, sad, or angry with you. When that happens, prevent yourself from blaming or making excuses. Admit that you were wrong and apologize sincerely.
   • When you apologize, take responsibility for your feelings and actions. Don't say things that sound like you're blaming your girlfriend.
   • For example, don't say "I'm sorry I got angry, but I won't raise your voice if you're not late." Instead, say, “I'm sorry, I shouldn't be so loud at you. I got angry and that is not the right response.
   • If you want to mention your girlfriend's actions, use first person pronouns to emphasize your feelings instead of accusing them. For example, "When you're late, I feel like my time doesn't matter to you."
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Method 3 of 4: Understand what makes her happy

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   Take time to find out what your partner's concerns are. Your girlfriend is an independent individual with your own hopes, fears, wants and needs. As you get to know her better and what makes her special, it will be easier to know what you should do to make her happy. Find out what your lover is interested in and what he likes to do. Participate in and show concern for the things that matter most to her.
   • For example, if your partner says she likes video games, try asking which ones she likes and if you can join.
   • If she likes to write, ask permission to read her works.

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   Talk to your partner about what she needs and wants. It will be difficult to know what your girlfriend wants out of the relationship without asking. Not only does asking about your girlfriend make her feel interested in you, but it also makes it easy to accompany her. Encourage her to say what she needs and ask her simple questions like:
   • "What do you want to do today?"
   • "What can I do to support you?"
   • "Do you want to talk about that?"
   • "Are you feeling happy?"

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   Avoid making inferences about your girlfriend. Inference can damage a relationship. Don't make the familiar mistakes of many people by inferring that you know how your partner feels, thinks or wants. When in doubt, ask!
   • For example, don't assume that she likes to watch romantic movies because it's "a girl's hobby". You may find that her ideal date is going to a zoo or playing a game at a pub.
   • Don't assume she is happy with your love. Ask her from time to time and listen to her thoughts. For example, you could say, "How would you feel if we went out to dinner more often?"

   Advice: Don't assume that your partner knows your thoughts and feelings well. If you question something, bring it up with love and respect.

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Method 4 of 4: Keep the fire for love

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   Do things you both enjoy together. Having fun together is a great way to create a positive relationship in your relationship. Taking part in activities you both enjoy not only creates fun, but also helps strengthen your relationship. So, take some time to have fun together.
   • For example, two people would watch the same game if sports were a mutual hobby of the two.

   Do you know yet? Studies show that the happiest couples spend time having fun and having fun together!

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   Try new experiences together. In addition to doing activities you enjoy together, you two can keep the fire in your relationship by walking out of your comfort zone together and trying new things together. This is a way for you and your girlfriend to create unforgettable memories and keep a fire for love.
   • For example, you could explore a new land together, join a class with a topic you both always want to learn about, or start a hobby.

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   Get to know her friends and family. Your partner will be more than happy if her other relationships continue to thrive in love with you. By taking care of her friends and relatives, you are showing respect for an important part of her life. Plus, this is a way for two people to have fun and meet more people together! Plan a time where you can do group activities with your girlfriend instead of just meeting the two of you alone.
   • Likewise, introduce your girlfriend to your friends and family. From time to time you can invite your loved one to events with your loved ones and friends.

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   Occasionally surprise her with romantic or interesting things. Spending time together is very important, but the surprise also helps to make the relationship even more special. Plan a secret date, give her a surprise gift for no reason, or surprise it by cooking her favorite dessert yourself.
   • Don't worry about having to prepare the perfect surprise. It could be something as simple as a piece of paper with love words placed somewhere for her to accidentally find.

   

   Connell Barrett

   Marriage and Love Specialist Connell Barrett is a love advisor, founder and executive coach of Dating Transformation, an emotional consulting firm he founded in 2017 and headquartered. New York city. Connell advises clients on the X.R.B Dating System: Authentication, Clarity, and Expression. He is also a dating coach with the dating app The League. His work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Oprah Magazine, and Today.

   

   Connell Barrett
   Specialist in Marriage and Love

   Try to make her feel special. We all have a need to be special. Lots of relationships go awry because one or both people no longer make the other feel unique; So, today, ask yourself what you can do to make your ex feel "lifted like an egg, inspired like a flower", appreciated and loved. For example, you might tell your lover that she is beautiful, or send a smelly text or text that you miss her.

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