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Have you ever stopped wondering why you are feeling embarrassed? Some people have low self-esteem in terms of certain physical characteristics; others worry about identity, intelligence or money. If you feel judged, understand that it's not good to allow others to judge you. On a more profound level, one of the biggest causes of self-consciousness is inner brooding and a sense of insecurity in a person's ability to express or interact. Learn to let go of your inner criticism and find effective ways to reduce your embarrassment. Now is the time to start your life again!

Steps

Part 1 of 5: Identifying the Cause of Embarrassment

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   Identify what is embarrassing to you. A certain feature in your appearance? Is it an eyelid twitching? Or because of the voice? Or disabilities (mental or physical)? Or intellectual capacity? List those reasons on paper. Leave a blank column next to your checklist to write down actions you will take to reduce the embarrassment associated with each cause, once identified.

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   Challenge negative thoughts. Fright often stems from fear that people will agree with our negative thoughts or notice weaknesses that often make us feel insecure. When that thought says you are too fat and you believe so, you will feel very painful and embarrassed when someone tells you to lose a few pounds. That's because you are influenced by thinking that you are overweight, and that you are overweight bad.
   • When negative thoughts arise in your mind, do not resist but accept it. Think of it as a funny thing, like "You are a flying unicorn," something that you neither believe is true nor believe is bad. Imagine shrugging and talking. "Well, whatever, just in the head."
   • Remember that criticism that is voicing negative voices inside of you is unreliable and irrational. It is not the voice of truth that many shy people believe in.
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Part 2 of 5: Reality Check

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   Understand that people are not paying you as much attention as you might think. People are often too busy thinking about themselves that they don't have time to dwell on your little habits and differences. If you have low self-esteem about your big nose, you might assume everyone you meet are staring at it. You believe that everyone focuses on that trait, but in reality they may not even notice it or even think about it.

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   Examine the criticisms of others. Every time you think someone is "better than you", stop that self-criticism and take it back. Chances are that you are overestimating the person and underestimating their imperfections.

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   Know that confidence can be exercised. As with all skills, confidence and self-acceptance are things you can learn and gain with time and practice. The idiom "pretend to come true" is often used to gain confidence - take action as you believe you deserve to be loved and appreciated for all your flaws - and in the end will really believe so.
   • Practice the concepts outlined in this article to start building your confidence and reducing your embarrassment.
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Part 3 of 5: Controlling Your Reactions

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   Think about whether you are overestimating others. There is no one in the world who is perfect, and before you do not pay attention to their little flaws, why should they pay much attention to your flaws? If you don't think or say anything like that about your best friend, then why do you think or say that about yourself? Try to be your own good friend too. Here are a few ways to be your best friend:
   • Even at first you don't feel that way, at least just act like you don't have to worry. Gradually you will feel that way.
   • Your greatest strength lies between your trigger and your response, so try to control it.
   • Always act like you know you look good and feel comfortable in front of others, but don't think too much about it as it becomes natural.
   • Spot times when you underestimate yourself or compare yourself to others. Don't blame yourself; just notice and tell yourself that it's time to stop and find more positive ways of thinking about yourself.

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   Challenge yourself. This is an effective way to motivate yourself. Every time you feel that doing something will make you confident and excited but are stopped by nervousness and shyness, then challenge yourself at that moment.
   • For example, tell yourself, "I dare you to get into an awkward situation." Or, "Go up to that girl / boy and talk to her / him, even though it doesn't make sense." Remember, don't scold and torment yourself. And even if you fail in those challenges, you should still reward yourself for trying.

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   Make fun of yourself. Oh, that's right - not in a self-deprecating way, but with humility and a sense of humor to admit you're not perfect, and you're not worried about it either. If you drop the jar of peanut butter in front of your crush who is panicking when the jar shatters and the peanut butter splashes, laugh at your clumsiness and joke that you should have put the tape. two faces in hand - then apologize and help clean up.

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   Let everything be natural, and let it go. Don't worry too much about the cause of your embarrassment. When you feel that feeling, tell yourself that you will be fine. Take it as you are just a watcher, not the one experiencing the feeling, and shake it off your mind. Be like the celebrities, the leaders or the friends you admire; they all make mistakes but get up and go on without carrying the burden of everyone's expectations and criticisms.
   • For criticism: Learn to differentiate helpful, constructive criticism of those who care about you and the destructive, jealous criticism of those who lack sympathy, envy, or envy. You should learn from your positive comments, and let go of the negative ones. You don't need the grudge in your life and don't let their pettyness follow you.
   • Practice responding to the criticism. For petty criticism, have a response in mind to respond skillfully in the situation without letting yourself down or hurting the other person. This way, you won't be left embarrassed and won't be surprised. It is thanks to their quick wits that you will not be able to think of while shocked at their rudeness. Think kindly and say things like:
   • "I don't understand why you need to say that. I don't accept being said like that."
   • "I want you to know that I disagree with such harsh criticism. I have tried my best and I do not accept your interpretation.
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Part 4 of 5: Doing Internal Good Things

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   Build confidence. Try to have a deeper understanding of your values. Instead of worrying about what people think of you, keep your mind on your goals, achievements, and progress.
   • To achieve this, write down your goals and milestones. This will keep you motivated to work towards those goals.
   • Tell everyone that you are moving toward your goal. This gives you the motivation to step forward and let the people you love continue to support your efforts. But be careful - don't share it with people who might interfere with your progress - if you meet someone who doesn't understand, don't get involved with them.
   • Prove your achievements. Celebrate every time something good comes up; Go out for dinner, call a friend, go on a picnic or buy yourself an online album. Notice good things on a regular basis instead of mulling over failures.

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   Honest. Don't exaggerate and don't upset yourself with lies, stick to the truth. For example, if you wear a weird outfit someday; Everyone stares at you and you think: "God everyone hates my suit", then ask yourself "Am I sure everyone hates it?", "Doesn't anyone like it?"

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   Be yourself! Be honest and change if you really want to. Take responsibility for your actions, mistakes and passions, both good and bad.
   • For example, if you want to treat your anxiety, you have to “own it” and really accept that you have a phobia problem. Then you can try to cure it.

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   Change who you are inside. You need to be as part of this whole life as anyone else. This is the truth and no one can take it away from you. That is your prerogative. You should understand that no one is better and more important than you.
   • That means, you have a responsibility to be the best person for yourself and for others. Please continue to share with everyone your good nature. That will help you and help the whole community.

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   Accept that you are you, no matter how outsiders see you. The feeling of "I am me" is always constant. If you try to remember your childhood and think about the "me", you will find that the "me" never changes, regardless of age and circumstances. The "I" does not depend on anything. It doesn't grow and it doesn't get smaller, it's all because you get the feeling that it changes or depends on something.So be acutely aware that your life does not depend on anyone or anything. The thought itself has also helped boost your confidence.
   • Judy Garland once said: "Be original of yourself instead of copy of someone else." Do your best to do with that.

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   Consider the type of thought that comes to mind while sitting or working. Be wary if those thoughts are just what others think of you. Don't let those thoughts go through your mind. The same thoughts over and over over and over again form a channel, and you will be forced to go through that channel every time there are favorable conditions.
   • Read some self-help books; Ask your favorite teacher about the topic, search Google, go to the library and finally to the bookstore if you are keen to read.

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   Turn your attention the other way. When you begin to feel embarrassed, identify a target - whatever it is, maybe a bug crawling on the floor - and focus on it. What color is it? How many legs are there? Anything that distracts you from yourself will work; the distraction will bring you back to reality and your surroundings.
   • If you feel embarrassed talking to people, turn your attention to listening to them. Focus on what they say instead of how you look or what you're about to say, and you will find it effective.
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Part 5 of 5: Doing Some Outside Work

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   Practice asserting yourself in front of the mirror. Tell yourself that you are positive, you are good at your job, and are willing to change if necessary. Repeat this often for best results.
   • You can begin to assert yourself with statements like: “I am a good person and I deserve to be loved and respected”, “I am stronger than my insecurity”, “I did my best, and I am did all I could do ”.

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   Remove the mindless or judgmental criticism of others. When you allow others to judge you is also when you lose your happiness for others. Don't let anyone comment on who you are. This is your life, not theirs. And while defending what you believe in and doing yourself fully is hard work, but it's part of demonstrating your best self.
   • Relationships with people who make you happy. You will be dragged down if you are usually around negative people. This may not be new, but compare how you feel about being with positive people and around negative people. Those are the two extremes and you know what feeling you like.
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Warning

• Stop looking for someone else's approval. If your life depends entirely on the approval of others, you will never be free of your shyness.
• Don't always take a stance. Be ready to admit when you do wrong because it is not a disaster. Everyone makes mistakes. Please step forward and acknowledge the error. Then continue moving forward.
• Sometimes people will bully you on purpose if they feel you are vulnerable in some way (this is how the bully acts - find weaknesses to exploit). In this case, either walk away or just don't get involved. Never waste time trying to impress them or justify their behavior because of their anger and insecurity.
• The worst critic is you. Understand that no one judges you more harshly than you judge yourself.