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Not everyone likes to spend time alone, but spending time alone can be a great way to relax, improve, and solve problems. If you have trouble being alone, learning how to make the most of this time will help you enjoy it better. Private time is healthy, but keep in mind that being alone for too long can make you feel lonely, and you need to seek help if you become depressed or anxious due to too much time. me.

Steps

Method 1 of 2: Make the most of your alone time

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   Plan to spend time alone. Sometimes alone time is necessary, as plans can be canceled or you simply have no intention, but it's also a good idea to schedule your own time from time to time. Try setting yourself 30 minutes a day and doing what you want. Planning alone time can be awkward at first, but over time it will become easier, even looking forward to your plans.
   • Try to set some time for yourself. For example, you might decide to spend some time between 5:30 and 6pm each night.
   • Select the things you want to do alone. If you're not sure what you want to do, you can start with simple activities like walking around the neighborhood where you live, or going to a coffee shop to read a book.

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   Choose activities that you enjoy doing in your alone time. To make time alone more enjoyable, make a plan to do what you want to do. Alone time is a time to indulge in pleasure and get to know yourself better, so think about what you really want to do during that time.
   • Learn a new hobby, like a sport or craft technique that you've always wanted to try. Some enjoyable sports for alone time are running, cycling, skateboarding, swimming and dancing. Great private time hobbies include knitting, baking, sewing, modeling an airplane, writing, reading, or making scrapbooks.
   • Consider filling in your own time with a long-term project, like knitting a bed towel or learning to skateboard. That way, you can use your time alone to work on the project you selected, and get a sense of fulfillment when you're done.

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   Take care of yourself. It's hard to pamper yourself with so many people around, but time alone gives you the opportunity to pamper yourself and address other personal needs. Use your own time to do what you want to do for yourself.
   • You can use time alone to deal with your personal care needs, like taking a bath, styling your hair, or doing a manicure yourself.

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   Learn something new about yourself. When you are alone, you can focus more on what you want to do without being disturbed or distracted by others. Try to use your own time to get to know yourself better.
   • For example, you can start a journal to record your thoughts and feelings in private time. Or you could listen to a new genre of music, try a new hobby, or define a new goal you want to accomplish.

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   Relax in your own time. Being with others all the time will stress you and take away a lot of your energy. Taking time alone each day will give your body and mind a chance to recover.
   • To relax in your own time, you can practice meditation, yoga, tai chi, or deep breathing exercises.

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   Solve a problem you face. When you spend time with people, you can't focus enough on difficult problems. Taking time out of each day will allow you time to think carefully and find a solution to each problem. Take some time to sit still and reflect on a problem you are trying to solve.
   • For example, you might have a complicated personal problem and need time to think about it. Or you are working on a challenging project at work or at school that requires the implementer to think deeply.
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Method 2 of 2: Spending Healthy Alone Time

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   Reach out to people when you need to chat instead of using social media. You may be tempted to use social media when you're lonely, but it's better to call or chat with someone face to face when it comes to social interaction. Social media can seem like a great alternative to human interaction, but they can also exaggerate a sense of isolation.
   • When you need to talk to someone, call a friend or go to a place where you can talk to people.

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   Watch radio in moderation. If you have trouble going out to make friends, you tend to look for activities that replace interacting with others, like watching television. But the fact that you watch television every single time instead of spending time with people will make matters worse.
   • Try to limit your daily viewing to one to two hours per day and do not replace interacting with others by watching television.

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   Limit the amount of alcohol you use while alone. It's okay to use alcohol alone sometimes, but using it to deal with being alone will cause serious problems for you. You don't need to drink alcohol or other substances to endure alone time.
   • If you are coping with alcohol (or drugs) to cope with being alone, seek help from a mental health professional.

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   Find out the difference between being alone and lonely. Aloneness and loneliness are two different states.Being alone is nothing but loneliness, and loneliness is when you feel sad and / or anxious because you want to be with other people.
   • In your private time, you should feel satisfied and comfortable. When you are lonely, you will become depressed, hopeless, or feel abandoned.
   • If you feel lonely because you spend so much time alone, talk to your therapist about these feelings.

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   Remember that it is normal to fear being alone. This will help you keep in mind that it is okay to be a little nervous about spending time alone. Everyone wants to interact with others, so spending time alone is not necessarily an interesting prospect. So it's important to find a balance between being alone and finding the right interaction.
   • Bear in mind that a little fear of alone time is okay, but it's not healthy if you keep avoiding it. If you think you have an extreme fear of being alone, talk to your therapist about ways to overcome this fear.

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   Find healthy relationships and let go of unhealthy ones. Maintaining good relationships is important, but you should also give up on unhealthy relationships or make you feel unhappy. Some people maintain unhealthy relationships out of fear of being alone, but doing so does more harm to them than good.
   • If you are in a relationship that upsets you, but you are afraid to end because you don't want to be alone, talk to someone who can help. Arrange to meet with a trusted friend, a spiritual leader or a counselor to discuss your case.
   • Make sure you are building and maintaining your support network. Part of the approach to coping with being alone is having a strong support network of friends and family, whom you can turn to when you need help. Find out how to make new friends and stay connected with existing friends, like going to the gym, meeting and drinking coffee with friends, or joining a special interest group at local.
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Advice

• Consider reading a new book or signing up for an online course so that you can expect something in your own time.