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Breaking up with someone you love is difficult, but with the right attitude and high confidence you can put out the flames of love. After all, you need to put your health, happiness and future first. If the future doesn't have your man, then it's time to end things with him, even if you still have feelings.

Steps

Method 1 of 3: Make the right decision

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   Ask him why you want to break up with him. Breaking up with someone is difficult, and nothing is more difficult when you still have feelings for him. However, relationships are sometimes interrupted, becoming distant and difficult to maintain because of obstacles of time and geographical distance. You may love someone and still feel the need to move on to a new stage in your life. If you are considering breaking up, ask some questions about yourself and your current relationship. If you answered no to most of the questions below, it may be time to move on:
   • Do you just want to break up because of the current circumstances, like a recent quarrel or problems with money? Or because of the problems that have existed for a long time?
   • Are you wondering about the breakup or have been sure about this decision for several weeks now?
   • If your lover asks you for a second chance, would you agree?
   • Have you met your lover in the last 6 months?

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   Make a list of the reasons you want to break up. It's certainly not easy, but if you can write down the reasons it will be easier to convince yourself to go through it. Don't worry about hurting others - this piece of paper is yours and just for you. Brainstorm why you need to end things and consider the following reasons:
   • You cannot give him the love he deserves. You need to move home for a new job, want to spend more time with your family, or cannot meet his needs. If you truly love him but can't / don't want to be with him, then it's time to break up.
   • You fell in love with someone else. Unfortunately you cannot choose the person you love. If you already have strong feelings for someone else, then you need to end everything with the current man before proceeding.
   • You find you can't spend the rest of your life with him. This is especially important if he seems to be planning his future with you. End things now instead of hoping you will change your mind - this is not going to happen.
   • You are not happy. If the sad times are more than happy times and the relationship weighs heavily on your mind every day, then it's time to move on. This is not a temporary period, but that the relationship has started to fade.

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   Review these reasons a week later. Reread the reasons you needed to break up with your partner to see if they're still true. Did you write them down too hastily or still feel plausible after a week.If you're still sure of the breakup decision, it's the right decision.

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   Think of an independent lifestyle, not the temporary pain of a breakup. Many people try to stay in a relationship for too long because they fear the emotional pain of loneliness. Understand that life will get better after that, but the pain ahead makes the breakup seem unbearable. However, sometimes you have to remove the bandage, and this will be easier if you tell yourself these important things:
   • You will not be alone forever. Living alone doesn't mean you will never find love again, even if you feel like there is no other "perfect" man.
   • Your independence will make you stronger. Living alone is difficult, but it causes you to thrive in unexpected ways that are essential in life. You don't have to have him to be strong and happy.

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   Remind yourself of why you love him to make sure your decision is correct. This is probably the most difficult thing to do, especially when you're determined to end the relationship, but you need to look at the good and the bad. Write down the reasons you love him, the reasons you became a couple, and the happy times together. Remember these memories will stay with you no matter what happens between you two. If, after writing down all these memories, you still feel the relationship has ended, you can be sure that the decision is correct.
   • Remember, it's best to break up even if you still have feelings for him. You just need to make sure the bad is more than the good.

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   Prioritize your health and well-being. The last barrier before a breakup is often worrying about others. What will our friends think? What will my parents think? How will our story be resolved? Most importantly, how will he feel? However, all of these worries are unimportant when compared to your well-being and your mental health. While this may sound selfish, in the end it's the most mature opinion you should have. If your relationship does not go well, you will only torment each other with quarrels. Friends and family can be dragged in and then your worries can turn into worries about keeping secrets. When you are ready to end it all that is only left of your decision to break up. Other little details will be resolved automatically.
   • Sometimes just a feeling of "This is not going anywhere" is also a perfectly good reason to break up. Remember that you are doing this for you, not for anyone else.

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   End things quickly when you have made a decision. If you don't break up with him now and continue to procrastinate, your situation may worsen in the future. You will regret not taking action when possible, and wasting both you and him time in a fruitless relationship. Now you may be hurt, but once you get through it, you'll be happy for what you did. After you've overcome that pain, both you and him can move on.
   • Remember - it is better to be happy alone than to suffer in a relationship.
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Method 2 of 3: Break up with your lover

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   Call your boyfriend and invite him to meet somewhere quiet. Find a place where you can be alone so you can talk openly and honestly. Let him know you need to talk about your relationship, but don't try to explain in length on the phone. As a general courtesy, let him know a little to prepare himself.
   • Avoid saying goodbye to your boyfriend on a date. Make a date to talk about this instead of taking advantage of a good date night.

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   Talk about breaking up after the two of you greeted each other. Avoid whirring as this will only frustrate you and make the situation more stressful. You may also lose your courage and change your mind. Breaking up takes 30 seconds to get the courage, but in the end it was only 30 seconds.
   • Take a deep breath and count to three in your head. When you count to "no", it's time to say goodbye.

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   Speak directly to the point, not ambiguous. When you want to break up with your partner, make it clear that you want to break up. Don't let him guess or give you the opportunity to speak. If you have made up your mind, it's time to get into the matter. Let him know that you still love him and want to be friends, but that you cannot continue the relationship. The guide below has some good sentences to start talking about breaking up in specific situations, but the general idea is to use simple and direct language:
   • "I'm ready to end our relationship".
   • "It's about time we date other people."
   • "I think we should break up".

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   Avoid getting angry, pointing in the face or blaming each other. Breaking up alone was difficult, not to mention arguing or arguing. You may have a long list of reasons for breaking up with him, but that doesn't mean you need to point out all of their flaws and problems in the relationship. That only adds salt to the wound, and can lead to arguing or arguing that makes both of you more tired ("What do you mean by saying I didn't help - I always help you!" Or "That It's not your fault, it's your fault mine Because he moved! ”) He says so, but he may ask you why you want to break up, and it is best to prepare a calm, honest but non-judgmental answer.
   • "I realized we are becoming more distant from each other. We have come a long way together and I appreciate that time, but I need to go my own way."
   • "I feel like we no longer treat each other with respect as before. Part of it is my fault. But we need to move on to meeting people who are willing to treat us better."

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   Be firm with your decisions no matter what he says. If he still loves you, he might ask for a second chance, come up with ways to save things (like breaking up temporarily), or convince you to change your mind. But once you have made a decision, you need to be determined. Remember, what he says now is not going to change the relationship, or the problems that caused you to decide to break up.
   • "I understand but I think we need to choose our own path."
   • "I don't want to break up temporarily and let things be fuzzy. We need to break up."

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   Leave when you've said all you need to say. To lessen his shock, give him a gentle hug before leaving. Don't linger to see how he reacts - avoid getting confused by the chaotic emotions after the breakup. This will hurt both of you but there is no way it can be easy and perfect. You will not be happy during the break up, no matter how long you stay or what you say. The best way is to walk away politely. advertisement

Method 3 of 3: Forget the person after breaking up

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   Remind yourself of the reasons for the breakup every time you miss him. Breaking up with your lover is not easy. However, you should know that the reasons for the breakup are true and that it's not your fault - it's his. Convince yourself that you did the right thing. Even though you have completed your mission, you may still feel pain and anger. Recovery will depend on how much you love him, but don't worry - you should feel better sooner.
   • Remember that person won't be able to change any of your problems, and that's not a reason to get back together. The big problems that caused your breakup will persist when the situation calms down.

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   Avoid contact with the person completely. When you break up with someone you love, it will definitely hurt. You will suddenly miss him, feel guilty, and want to ask him for advice on what to do next. But you have to resist the urge to text, call, or meet. You can make follow-up plans and rearrange your life, but only if you have the will.Resist the urge to talk to him and find ways to solve your emotional problems yourself. This is difficult, but you can do it with patience.
   • You can be normal friends one day, but that's for the future. You need to completely forget the feelings of love, and the only way is to stop seeing each other.
   • Stacking away pictures and objects that can bring back sad memories is a great way to begin the recovery process from a breakup.

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   Try something new. Breaking up with your partner hurts you, but it comes with a sense of freedom. You won't have to make decisions for both of you, you will only do it for yourself. Suddenly you will find yourself having a lot of free time, and the activities and events that were difficult to do with a lover are now very easy. Don't waste time trying to rekindle the emotions you used to have when you were in love - go out and do something new. Enjoy the freedom and explore the world by yourself.
   • Live a life for you. Spend more time taking care of yourself.

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   Reach out to friends and family for help. Having a large network of friends and relatives will help you remember that you won't be alone even without a boyfriend. Spend time with other loved ones to help you heal a wound in your heart.
   • When you feel like calling or texting your ex, call your friends. Briefly tell them that you are trying to get rid of your old habits by chatting to let them down.
   • Most people will happily help you out, but that doesn't mean they want to hear about your boyfriend all day long. Avoid mentioning him, move on to other topics instead.
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Advice

• Believe in your feelings. Even if you can't think of a good reason to break up, your feelings will help you find happiness.

Warning

• If you are afraid your boyfriend will turn violent, say goodbye in public and let a friend know about your plans.