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• Part 1 of 3: Gaining her trust
• Part 2 of 3: Treat her nicely
• Part 3 of 3: Turn her on

So you are at that point in your relationship where you would like to take it a step further. Some don't think sex is special, but others see it as something they only want to share with a very special person. Obviously, you don't want to force your girlfriend to sleep with you, but you can allay some of her fears and reassure her that she can really trust you completely. If that goes well, sex will come naturally.

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Part 1 of 3: Gaining her trust

1. Be trustworthy. If you want your girlfriend to want to sleep with you, you have to show her what an incredibly reliable person you are. If a woman trusts you enough to have sex with you, whether it's her first time or whether she's had sex before, she should feel like she can trust you completely. She may be concerned that once you have had sex, you will lose interest in her because then you will have what you wanted. So prove to her that it isn't by being a sincere and trustworthy boy.
   • Keep your promises. If you show up half an hour late every time, she'll feel like she's not special enough in your eyes, and she probably won't want to sleep with you.
   • Keep your word. If you say you're taking her to the beach next weekend, do it. If she can't rely on you, she won't trust you.
   • Make sure she can fall back on you. Listen to her problems and insecurities and make her feel better.
   • Don't wait hours or even a few days to respond to her calls or texts. This will make her feel like she can't trust you.
2. Have patience. Some men are ready for sex when they see the sea for the first time. Some women are not ready to sleep with a boy until months or even longer. And some women - sorry, men - keep their virginity for "the one" and don't even want premarital sex. So be patient and wait until she really trusts you first.
   • If your girlfriend finds even kissing a bit uncomfortable, don't talk about sex at all for now.
   • But if you and your girlfriend are already regularly kissing and hugging in bed after a few weeks, you can start thinking about the next step.
   • If you want your girlfriend to want to sleep with you, you absolutely shouldn't start too early on the topic. This can turn her off and the chance that you will ever have sex is suddenly much smaller.
3. Don't act like you're obsessed with sex. If you're a guy of a certain age who really wants his girlfriend to sleep with him, chances are you are indeed obsessed with sex. But that doesn't mean you have to make jokes or allusions about sex all the time or talk about it blatantly. The last thing you want is for your girlfriend to think you're some horny dude obsessed with having sex with any girl. You have to make her feel special and that you just want her.
   • You don't have to hide the fact that you are a man with needs, but avoid vulgar language and don't talk about sex all the time or about other people who are always having sex.
   • Don't make misogynistic comments. This will make your girlfriend feel like she's just a piece of meat. Remember: you are not with your friends now, but with a very special girl.
4. Be faithful. If you want your girlfriend to trust you, you have to be loyal to her. She will never want to sleep with you if you show interest in other women, check on women, or even hang out with women. You don't have to be rude to other women or ignore them, but you should always keep the focus on your girlfriend so she knows that you are always there for her, especially when you are just dating.
   • Spend a lot of time with her. Make sure you do something fun together at least once or twice a week and that you call or text her on the days you don't see her.
   • There is a difference between being faithful and possessive and showering your girlfriend with love. You should hang out with her if you both feel like it, but don't sit on her lip every day, it will make her feel embarrassed.
   • You should not only show your girlfriend that you are loyal by being true to her, but also by being true to your siblings, friends and teammates. If you show that you can be a good friend to anyone, she'll be impressed.

Part 2 of 3: Treat her nicely

1. Treat her like a lady. If you want your girlfriend to want to sleep with you, you should treat her like a lady, not someone you want to sleep with alone. So be a true gentleman and behave polite, kind, understanding and admirable. Hold the door open for her, give her your coat if she's cold, pull up her chair and carry her heavy bags.
   • Also, compliment her to let her know how good she looks or how special she is.
   • It's important that you act like a gentleman, but don't do anything that feels unnatural because she'll notice you're not yourself.
2. Tidy up your house. This may sound crazy, but if you really want to make her feel special, you can't invite her to a place that looks like a dump. Get your dirty laundry off the floor, tidy up your desk, make your bed and make sure everything smells good, looks clean and inviting.
   • This will not only make her feel special, she will also be more likely to have sex with you. She really won't want to lie on your bed with a pile of candy wrappers and dirty underpants there.
   • If she's in the car with you often, make sure your car is clean too. Give your girlfriend the respect she deserves by making sure her chair is nice and clean.
3. Show an interest in all of her - not just her body. Perhaps your girlfriend's biggest fear is that you don't care about her at all and are only obsessed with her body. So show her that it isn't. Show her that you care about what she is and are interested in her interests, dreams, and desires.
   • Ask her about her friendships, her childhood, and what nice things she has been through.
   • Show her that you find her opinion interesting. Ask her what she thinks about politics or a new outfit you've bought.
   • Make eye contact when talking to her. Show her that you care about what she has to say.
4. Take her out on romantic dates. If you want to build up the sexual tension, make sure there is a little romance first. Make her feel special by taking her on a romantic date. Dress up nicely and choose a romantic spot for dinner, a drink or go gazing at the stars together. You don't have to do anything stupid or uncomfortable to make her feel special.
   • While you might have the time of your life together at soccer games, birthday parties, or a noisy concert, those aren't exactly the most romantic places that lead to sex.
   • By doing something romantic every now and then, you show her that she is really important to you.
5. Provide for her needs. If in everyday life you never notice what she wants, why would you notice it between the sheets? Your girlfriend should feel like you know exactly when she's sad, nervous, or scared, or even when she's hungry or cold. Pay attention to her eyes, her body language, and what she's saying so you can see if there's something wrong. If you pretend nothing is going on when she's obviously very upset, she'll think you're not paying attention to her.
   • If you think there's something wrong with her, don't be afraid to ask what's up. This just shows that you care about her.
6. Make sure she wants to sleep with you. If you really want to treat your girlfriend right, make sure you have an idea of ​​whether or not she's ready to sleep with you. If you are her first boyfriend, if she has no experience in sex yet, if she is very religious or if she has other moral beliefs that make her not want to have sex, you should leave her alone and wait until she trusts you enough to want to sleep with you. However, there are a few ways to find out that she does want to have sex with you:
   • If you've already cuddled and fiddled around, she might be ready for more.
   • If she talks about sex, gives you sexual compliments, and touches you a lot, she might be ready to sleep with you.
   • If she hints that she wants to sleep over, spends a lot of time near your bed, or invites you late at night, she may be ready for more intimacy.
   • If she has strong moral or religious beliefs not to have sex, don't force anything. Accept that some girls don't have premarital sex and there's nothing you can do to change that.

Part 3 of 3: Turn her on

1. Be prepared. If you're going to try to make her want to sleep with you, or even just talk about having sex with her, make sure you have some condoms with you just in case she wants too. This doesn't mean you should wave those condoms over her face to make her feel uncomfortable, but that means you have something up your sleeve just in case.
   • If she wants to sleep with you, but you still have to run to the store to buy condoms, your potential "first time" could end up being embarrassed.
2. Create the right atmosphere. If you want your girlfriend to want to sleep with you, make sure the mood is right. Start the evening with something romantic to get her in the right mood. Then you go to your (clean) house, where you already have wine, grapes, chocolate ready. Put on some romantic tunes and light some candles to get her in the mood and offer her something to eat or drink.
   • If this sounds stupid to you, do something else that will get both of you in the mood. For example, you can only dim the lights instead of lighting candles.
3. Play hard-to-get. If you really want your girlfriend to want you, don't act like some sex beast, touch her all over the place, rip her clothes off and drag her to the bedroom. Instead, you should kiss her for a moment, stop, pet her, and talk to her. Repeat this a few times and wait for her to go crazy with desire.
   • Why does playing hard-to-get work? Because you make her feel like you like her, but that you can control your needs and that you don't want to desperately want to touch her all over - even though you might want to.
   • Now she will be the one to ask for more.
4. Touch her. If you want to turn your girlfriend on, you can go a step further than kissing. Start by lovingly stroking her arms, the back of her head, her hair and then when you find she's ready, you can stroke her breasts under her shirt or wait for her to touch you. If your clothes are off or partially off, you can kiss her breasts or pat her over her underwear to get her in the mood.
   • Make sure your actions are reciprocated. If you pet her and she lies there without making a sound, she probably won't feel comfortable. Make sure she's ready for more before continuing.
   • If you're already in the bedroom and touching each other all over, you can simply ask her if she wants to have sex with you. This doesn't have to be a complicated or stupid question. Just ask, "Are you ready for more?" and prepare for every possible answer.
5. Never pressure her. If she says she's not ready for sex yet, don't pressure her. Don't make up arguments for having sex, such as “but we've been together for so long” or “everyone is doing it” or “but I really like you”. That really won't make her feel any better. In fact, there's a good chance she'll get frustrated and irritated and won't want to sleep with you anymore.
6. Consider her wishes. If she changes her mind from yes to no, or asks you to stop in the act, do so immediately. It can be good to talk in advance about what she wants to do and what she is not ready for. Pay close attention and never let her do anything that makes her feel uncomfortable.
7. Measure her mood. Learn to understand her reactions, and don't insist if she's against something. You can always try again tomorrow. It is advisable to seduce her if her mood is good. Feelings cannot be feigned, they are a function of the mind. Good timing and making it easy for her will eventually win her over, no matter how long the process takes. You will notice when the time is right.