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• Method 1 of 3: Communicate via social media
• Method 2 of 3: Message or call her
• Method 3 of 3: Talk to her

Anyone can feel nervous about talking to an old loved one after a long time, but there are several ways you can break the ice. If you don't know her well or are looking for a more indirect way to talk to her, you can start reaching out again through social media. Or if you've had a good relationship with her in the past, you can take a more direct route and text her to see what she's doing, then ask her to meet up to catch up. Finally, if you run into her at events or you have mutual friends, the next time you see her, you can approach her and use your body language and communication skills to indicate that you are happy to see her and would like more. chat.

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Method 1 of 3: Communicate via social media

1. Like or retweet something she posted. This is an indirect but potentially effective way to reconnect. This is something you can do to build up the courage to talk to her, or it can be a trigger to start a conversation. Liking her posts or retweeting her tweets reminds her of you, and lets her know that you follow her posts.
   • Don't like everything she posts. Pick one or two things you really like and like every few days. If you give her too much attention in one sitting, it may seem like you're trying too hard.
   • Don't just like the nice pictures of her. You can like one photo where she looks particularly good, but if you like too many photos that show her beautiful, you can appear creepy. Consider liking a variety of things she posts, rather than just the pictures of her.
2. Post on social media. If you've liked or commented on her posts, give her something she can respond to. Post smart or interesting thoughts you have about the world and people, share beautiful or interesting photos you have taken or find funny GIFs, photos or quotes on the internet that you can post with a comment on why you like them.
   • Thinks about what she would like or find interesting. You don't want to post things for her; however, you should keep in mind that her internet style may be different from yours.
   • Take a look at her posts and the things she likes to get a feel for her online interests and style. For example, if she writes a lot of posts about bands she likes, and you like one of those bands too, you can post one of their video clips or lyrics from one of their songs with a comment on why you like them.
   • Stay loyal to yourself. Only post things that you really like and are part of who you are. It can seem fake if you post things that you previously showed no interest in.
3. Reply to one of her posts. You must respond to a post shortly after she posts it. If you respond in time, she is more likely to respond. Find things you both like, such as your taste in music, love of food, love of movies, etc. Consider showing that you like her post, asking a question about it, or leaving a comment about something you like about it. interesting to you.
   • If she's writing a post about going to a show, you can reply, "I'm so jealous you saw them! Did you like them live? "
   • Hopefully, your comments will provoke a series of responses back and forth. If that happens, send her a message asking how she's doing or expand the conversation. Say, "Hey, nice to talk to you. How are you? Are there any other bands you've been listening to lately that I should check out? "
4. Invite her to an event via Facebook or Google+. Follow the online directions to learn how to create an event on both platforms. You can either create an event or invite her to an event you are attending. For example, if you are going to a music festival that you think she will enjoy, invite her to that event. There are several events that are public. You can send her an invitation by going to the event page and sending the invitation from that page. Or if you and your friends are throwing a Halloween party, for example, create an event page and invite her.
   • After you invite her, you should send her a follow-up saying hello and telling her about the event. Say something like, "Hey, my friends and I are having a Halloween party and I think it would be nice to see you again. Do you have any plans for Halloween yet? "
   • If she can't come to the event, use the event as an opportunity to send her a message. Ask her how she is and start a conversation with her.
5. Send her a chat message, a message via social media or an email. Whichever way you decide to contact her, you can use the same tactic as leaving a comment. Send her a complimentary message, talk about something you have in common, or ask her a question.
   • Send a message complimenting her on something she's done or accomplished recently. For example, if she recently finished college or gotten a new pet, send her a message to congratulate her and ask her how she is.
   • Talk about something you have in common. For example, if she recently hiked and you love to hike too, send her a message saying something like, "I saw you hiked through the Alps." I was there a few months ago and thought the falls were beautiful - what did you think about the hike? "
   • Ask her a question about something she posted. Say something like, "I saw the photos you posted of you surfing - what kind of board do you have? I also love to surf and go whenever I can. "

Method 2 of 3: Message or call her

1. Send her a message mentioning a click you share. Remind her of something that gave you a click in the past to put it to the test. Be convinced about the click, and possibly ask her a question about it.
   • For example, you can say: "Hey, I saw Ajax play yesterday, I remember that you like them. How are you? Have you seen the match? "
2. Use direct language in your message and tell her you're thinking about her. You can still pinch a click without giving a reason why you're messaging her. However, don't cut anything heavy from the past to break the ice.
   • Say something like, "Hey, I've been thinking about you lately and all the nice conversations last summer. How are you?'
3. Send her a funny or crazy message. Some studies show that girls like boys more when they find them funny, so humor is always a smart thing to use when talking to girls. You can use an inside joke of yours or ask her a question as a joke.
   • For example, say something crazy like, "How long has it been since we had a huge melon?"
4. Keep the conversation going. After breaking the ice, ask her questions about how she is and respond with interest. Try to roughly match the length and response speed of the messages she sends you. For example, don't respond right away with three messages if she sent you a one or two line message a few hours after you sent her something.
   • Ask follow-up questions such as, "I didn't know you were working in a new restaurant. How cool! How do you like it? "
5. Suggest meeting to catch up. If she sends friendly messages in response to your messages, ask her to meet up for a personal chat. If you ask her to meet up, suggest an activity you can do together.
6. Connect with her in a new way. Instead of doing what you've done before, try new things and go to new places. If you usually meet to eat out, go for something new, for example. Go to a new neighborhood to eat out or cook at your place.

Method 3 of 3: Talk to her

1. Think about where you want to see her. Maybe you don't want to put in too much effort to see her, but you share a group of friends and want to be friendly and cool to her - use these ways to bond with her. Or if you want to connect with your old loved one and you can't or don't want to contact her directly, hang out with your mutual friends and go to events where she's likely to be too.
   • You can call your friends and ask them about upcoming events and parties and going to those events.
   • Or, if you know that she attends certain Church meetings, you can start attending those activities again, for example.
   • Don't take advantage of your friends to connect with your loved one. For example, when you are with your friends, be there firstly to have a good time with them and secondly to maybe see her. When it doesn't work out, you still have a good time that way, without taking advantage of your friends.
2. Go up to her, say hello and tell her you want to talk. When you first see each other, make sure you acknowledge her. If you see her across the room, smile at her and make a friendly gesture or greeting. If it doesn't seem like a good time to talk, tell her, "How good to see you! Can we just talk for a minute? "You can finish what you were doing, and also let her finish what she was doing.
   • Giving yourself a minute helps you prepare yourself and can add a good element of expectation to your conversation.
   • Think about an interesting topic of conversation or something you could ask her as an icebreaker before walking over to talk to her. For example, you can make an observation about the party you are at by saying something like, "Glad they supply all of our chip needs at this party." Then point to a table covered with 10 different types of chips.
3. Start a conversation with her. Once she's free to talk, start a conversation. If you are in a place where it is difficult to talk, ask her, "Do you want to go somewhere else to talk?" Find a quiet and relaxing place where you can sit and chat undisturbed.
4. Tell her you are happy to see her. If the two of you have a bad history together, break through that barrier by expressing your positive feelings about the reunion. When it has settled, show her that you are happy to see her by smiling, making eye contact, and simply saying, `` Glad to see you again. '' Being positive and direct will make you appear more confident and can help reduce the discomfort you feel at the beginning of the conversation.
5. Sincerely ask her how she is. Use your voice and hand gestures to show her that you are interested in hearing how she is doing. This will make you look confident and happy to talk to her again. It can be a little less intimidating if you ask her how she's doing now, as it probably takes a lot of explanation to tell you everything that happened since you last saw each other.
   • Say something like, "I'd love to hear how you are now."
   • Or you can say what you remember she was doing last. For example, you could say, "If I remember correctly, you were the last time we talked ..."
   • Don't talk about something bad or difficult things from the past. If the conversation goes there naturally, you can talk about some deeper topics, but at the beginning of the conversation you want to keep it light and positive.
6. Ask her follow-up questions. When she tells you what her life has been like, listen carefully by making eye contact, nodding in agreement with what she's saying, repeating her main ideas, and asking her relevant questions. For example, if she says she's had a tough week, ask her why her week was so tough.
7. Tell her interesting things you have been doing. Think positive, funny, or frivolous stories that give her a sense of what you've been up to lately. Consider talking about topics that you know she's interested in.
   • For example, if she likes marine biology, you could say, "I recently went on a school trip to Tenerife and we had a great time snorkeling."
   • Mirror or equate her energy level and body language in the conversation. For example, if she is talking enthusiastically and uses a lot of body language, use a lot of body language in response and laugh often. Or if she seems a little low-key, you can lower your voice and give her more distance. Don't copy her gestures, go for a similar energy level.
8. Ask her if you can meet again. After you feel like you caught up and had a good click in your conversation, tell her you really enjoyed talking to her and ask her if you can meet again. For example, after you laughed at something, say something like, "I really enjoyed talking to you again. Shall we meet up to catch up more? "
9. Watch her reaction. If she seems interested in going out with you, make sure you have her correct contact information and reschedule to do something soon. If she's unclear about whether to meet up, don't insist. Better to let her tell you when she's out. Sometimes people can feel nervous and uninterested at that point, and other times they'll send you a message stating they aren't interested. Send her a follow-up or text to find out what the case is.
   • If she says something like "I don't know, I'll be pretty busy for a while," you can say, "No problem, it was really good to catch up. I'm glad we got that chance. "
10. Send a follow-up message or text. If you have her details and you have an appointment soon, you should send a follow-up sometime in the next few days saying something like, 'It was really good catching up - looking forward to meeting again If it seems like she might want to meet again, send a follow-up in the form of a simple text or text saying, `` It was really cool catching up with you again - let me know if you want to do something together sometime. ”This type of text is accessible, but at the same time shows that you are interested in seeing her more often.