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• To step
• Part 1 of 3: Bringing life to the brewery
• Part 2 of 3: Talking to your partner
• Part 3 of 3: Making time for intimacy
• Tips
• Warnings

Maybe it's your work or school, or it's the kids who take up a lot of your time. Whatever the distraction, in a relationship, sex is often the first to be dumped. However, you don't have to let life get in the way of the sex you want. Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting is easy if you communicate well with your partner, do your best to give sex a little extra life, and try to have the most fun together in the bedroom (and elsewhere).

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Part 1 of 3: Bringing life to the brewery

1. Be more spontaneous. One of the most common ways a sex life can get into a dire state is when it becomes part of a routine. Maybe you always only have sex in the morning, or on certain days when you are off from work, school, or the kids. Bring some life into the brewery by having sex at unexpected times, in unexpected ways, or in unexpected places.
   • Text your partner and tell him / her to come home quickly. Don't tell him / her why, but get stuck in bed before he / she comes.
   • Make it urgent. Jump in the shower or have a quickie between classes.
   • Some couples who are in a long-term relationship try to get back to the early stages of their relationship - the stages when they couldn't get enough of each other. Plan to go to the pubs you used to go to separately, and pretend you don't know each other. Pretend you're dating again for the first time, and pretend you don't know about each other's sexual preferences. Continue from there.
2. Tease your partner. Send him / her dirty text messages when he / she is at work describing what you want to do with him / her later. Or whisper something in his ear when you're out in public. Building up the sexual tension is guaranteed to be successful later on; you will both feel like having sex.
   • Some people take a little longer to get into the mood. Don't just assume that your partner is looking forward to it because you are. You have to work for it and learn what your partner likes. You have to learn to discover what makes him / her want to.
3. Focus more on foreplay. Sometimes sex can feel like a choreography, as if the A, B and C were all planned in advance. Take it easy. If B usually only lasts a few minutes, make it twenty this time. Or start at C, and go through A. Flip the script. Instead of rushing through the process, take your time and enjoy the journey.
   • Swap massages before having sex, set a timer. Determine that one person has to spoil the other for at least [X] minutes before it is the other's turn. Make the touch part of the sex as long and luxurious as possible. Put on some soft music and make it a night. Take it slow, take your time.
4. Explore your kinky side. Don't do anything you don't want to, but adding toys, handcuffs, and outfits can be fun and exciting for both of you. Go for it. Be as kinky as you want. As long as the relationship puts honesty and communication first, there is no wrong way to have sex.
   • Role-play to use a little extra imagination. You can both put on a costume and call each other by different names. If you're comfortable with that, it can be a fun and sexy fantasy to be someone else for a while.
   • Blindfolds can make sex different in a simple way. Sex is thus more based on feeling and touch. If that sounds like fun, opt for this sensory deprivation.
   • Nowadays there are a lot of magazines, movies, and books that you can get ideas from. Take the Kama Sutra, there is a lot to learn.

Part 2 of 3: Talking to your partner

1. Discuss with your partner what you like. The safest, wisest, and fastest way to improve is to communicate openly about your sex life. Tell your partner what turns you on and what turns you off. Discuss the boundaries and ambitions for your sex life. Tell your partner everything he / she needs to know to make your sex life as enjoyable and functional as possible.
   • If you find it difficult or embarrassing to talk to your partner about sex, write down your ideas at the same time and hand out the notes. Or turn off the lights and talk to each other in the dark.
   • Talking builds trust and intimacy. It may seem hornier to get straight to the point and do it, but discussing sex early in the relationship will help you avoid awkward situations. You also use it to build the confidence that is necessary for a healthy sex life. Don't do anything you are not ready for. Talk about it first.
2. Be specific. When we talk about sex, we often get a little sheepish. We often cannot put into words what we actually want. Try to be as specific as possible so that your partner doesn't have to decipher your messages.
   • For example, instead of saying that you would like to have more sex, say that you would like to have different sex. Tell your partner how happy you are with them and that you want to work on increasing intimacy. Then discuss specific things you would like to do together, or specific things you would like to modify.
3. Talk during sex. It is often difficult to know if what you are doing "works" for your partner. It can be frustrating when your partner isn't talking. Set a good example for him / her, show what you like, how you like to be touched, and share with him / her the techniques you like. Ask him / her to do the same. Ask questions and provide answers.
   • Don't think of talking as a way to improve your partner, but more as a way to encourage your partner when he / she is on the right track. It doesn't have to be that complicated. For example, ask "Is that good?" or "Do you like that?" If you don't like something, show your partner how you would prefer it. If you prefer a different pace, ask your partner to take it a bit easier and more careful.
   • Demonstrate the way you want your partner to touch your sensitive areas by performing the same action on his / her hand or fingers. Say you like that. This can be a visual aid for him / her, and can also be a sexy form of foreplay. Encourage him / her to do the same.
4. Share fantasies. Talk about the things you fantasize about, the things that turn you on. Write them down when you do, and share them with your partner. If something comes up, for example on television or in a magazine, ask your partner what your partner thinks about it. Try to be as open and honest with your partner as possible.
   • Your brain is the most sensitive sexual organ. Discussing fantasies does not necessarily mean that you will make them come true. But in an open, intimate relationship, discussing fantasies can open the door to a sexual journey. This way you keep your sex life fresh, spontaneous, and fun.
5. Although magazines like Cosmopolitan and Maxim usually provide terrible information, they are useful for starting a conversation with your partner. They can provide interesting and healthy discussions. Browse them in the store, view the questionnaires, and discuss the topics with your partner. Ask if that also applies to him / her, and whether women / men really like this and that?

Part 3 of 3: Making time for intimacy

1. Go on vacation together. Even a short weekend can ease the burden of everyday life for a while. Sometimes work, school, or children are so distracting that it interferes with your sex life.
   • Does a trip not fit your budget? Then go on holiday at home! Turn off all computers, cell phones, televisions, etc., and do your best to do your best.
2. Initiate sex with your partner. If you were mostly passive, take the lead for a change. If you are always the one initiating sex, talk about it with your partner. Tell him / her you don't want to be the only one doing that. Make sure everything is on the table, and that both of you are happy with how things are progressing.
3. Schedule the sex. If you find out that you are not making enough time for this important aspect of the relationship, set a schedule as needed. You may think this is going too far, but if you are always "too busy" then this is one way to get your priorities straight.
4. Also practice emotional intimacy. Your sex life is about more than just what's going on under the sheets. If you're not emotionally close, don't spend time with each other, and don't understand each other, then the sex (and therefore the relationship) will suffer. You need to talk to each other and spend time together.
   • Make time for romance. Buy her a bunch of flowers, or take your guy to something he likes to do. Showing that you understand and think about each other is a great way to show him / her that you care. It is also very exciting.

Tips

• Don't let the myths about other people's sex lives get in the way of what's going on inside you.
• Always love your partner.
• If you're considering using performance enhancers - especially pills, creams, and sprays - do your research first. See if they are safe and effective.
• Know that sex isn't all about orgasms.
• Make sure you get enough rest. Fatigue is one of the reasons

Warnings

• Pornography late not see well what women want from sex. Always ask your partner if she (does not) like what you do.