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• To step
• Part 1 of 4: Leaving the past behind
• Part 2 of 4: Learn to live in the present
• Part 3 of 4: Learn to be grateful
• Part 4 of 4: Creating conditions for success

When you've gotten to the point where you've done everything at least once and your life is still not the way you want it to be, it's time to "hit the reset button." To reset your life, you will have to stop repeating ancient behavioral patterns and ways of thinking. Instead, try to do something new.

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Part 1 of 4: Leaving the past behind

1. Determine where you are now. Think about your life, including your relationships, your job, your financial security and health. If these things are not what you want them to be, then it is time to admit it to yourself. Restarting your life is not easy, but it starts with accepting your current situation as it is.
   • Often solutions do not present themselves until the problems are recognized.
   • During this phase, let go of your past value judgments. The important thing is clear acknowledgment and not blaming yourself or others for anything.
2. Leave the past in the past. Whether you keep bringing bad experiences out of the closet, or keep thinking about the "good old days", the fact remains that your life is what it is now. If you continue to muse about the past, you will block the path to being able to reset your life.
   • Letting go of past pain requires a decision on your part. You won't be able to let it go without making a firm decision to leave it behind.
   • Even in good times, we can feel "stuck" when life doesn't live up to our expectations.
3. Let go of anything that doesn't make you happier. Look at your life and assess each element individually. Write it on a piece of paper if you'd like. Does it make you happier? If the answer is no, then you have to let it go.
   • Things, situations, and people that once gave you much joy may no longer do so.
   • If you're not using something, let it go. Clothes you don't wear, appliances you don't use, books you will never read - give them away. Clearing the ship will reduce your ballast, both literally and figuratively.
   • If something needs to be repaired, make time to do it. If it doesn't work, get rid of it.
   • Leave behind feelings and thoughts that leave you feeling empty and overloaded. When you find these thoughts and feelings come to you, realize that these are just your thoughts. Shift your attention to something more productive.
4. Decide to break your bad habits. If you want to get rid of a habit that doesn't really improve your quality of life, then a reboot is the perfect time to do so. Start by becoming aware of what habits they are, when to use them and what to replace them with. For example, if you want to stop biting your nails, find out how often you bite your nails and under what circumstances you do so. Think about what you feel when you start biting your nails and consider some possible alternatives.
   • Choose a replacement for your bad habit. For nail biting, sugar-free gum can be a possible substitute, or eating celery or a carrot.
   • Find someone who can support you. Enlist friends and family to help you overcome the bad habit. Is there a support group for the harmful habit? Other people can help you stick to your goals and encourage you to change your bad habits.
   • If you can imagine successfully changing your habit, you will be more likely to succeed. Imagine yourself in your new life. This is an important step to success.
   • Don't give up just because you slipped once. Habits are hard to break. Remember that every day is a new beginning if you want to get it right. Hold on.
5. Remember that it is not always wrong when something stops. A new beginning is an opportunity to clean up overloaded agendas. Your time is precious. Do what you want to do, let go of things, people and situations that no longer serve you.
   • If you are happier and more satisfied with your life, you will be more present to the people and situations that you plan to keep in your life.
   • Continue this process without fear or judgment.The issue here is not whether something is right or wrong.

Part 2 of 4: Learn to live in the present

1. Rethink your core values. Core values ​​are the beliefs and beliefs that guide our thoughts and behavior during our lives. Most people have five to seven core values, and these values ​​change slowly but surely. If you want to make a fresh start, you may need to rethink your values.
   • To determine what your core values ​​are, you can think about a time in your life when you were completely satisfied. Think about what values ​​you were using at the time, and choose those that trigger the strongest feelings in you.
   • Think about what this value really means to you in all aspects of your life. Is this a core value? If so. Write it down.
   • Repeat this process until you have been able to distinguish at least five core values.
   • Every time you need to make a decision, check your core values ​​list along the way. Is this decision in line with your core values? A strong, authentic life will be consistent with your core values.
2. Forgive yourself and others. Feeling resentment towards yourself or others sucks the energy out of you, without serving any purpose. If you hold a grudge, then starting over involves exploring and letting go of your part of that grudge. Being a victim of someone's past actions means giving up your happiness, whether or not you realize it.
   • Talking to another person about your resentment can help. Sometimes someone else can offer you an insight that you have not thought of yourself.
   • Feeling guilty about past mistakes is a heavy emotion. Everyone regrets something, about things big and small. Try to learn from these mistakes and notice what you have learned about yourself during this process. Every past mistake is an opportunity to learn new things about yourself.
   • Being able to forgive is a sign of strength, not weakness. Refusing to forgive someone's past behavior doesn't make you stronger as a person. On the contrary, it makes it much more difficult for you to move on.
3. Play more. People who play are better able to live without fear and to think creatively about the future. Once we are adults, we often forget to play. Research has shown that a lack of play results in cognitive rigidity - the last thing you need when trying to re-fill your life. Making time to play regularly in your life will improve your creative instincts and help you identify more effective solutions.
   • There are many different ways to play. Blowing bubbles, playing board games, taking an art class or taking improv classes are all ways that people like to play. Look for a game format that you like and that you can start doing.
   • Ask family and friends to join you. Playing with people you love is more likely to keep you going, making play a natural part of your daily life.
4. Face your fears. Doing things that are just outside your comfort zone will give you new confidence. Adrenaline helps boost the creative juices. As long as fears keep you from changing your life, you will remain stuck in your old behavioral patterns.
   • Break bigger challenges into smaller steps. For example, if you are afraid of scuba diving, start with lessons in the pool. If you are afraid of going to a restaurant alone, start by sitting alone at the bar or picking up food.
   • Wonder how you got a certain fear. Do you remember when you first experienced this fear? What did you get out of it? Learning about yourself and your fears is an essential part of redesigning your life.
5. Learn alternatives to unhealthy behavior. Most people are aware of their own behavior. Smoking, drinking excessively, overeating, and not getting enough exercise are all behaviors that can get in the way of a reboot. The way to address this is through positive behavioral changes, rather than guilt, fear, or regret.
   • Setting manageable, specific goals is more productive. Instead of feeling guilty about not getting enough exercise, decide to take a 20-minute walk four days a week.
   • It is essential to make a plan how you want to achieve a goal. Simply wanting to quit smoking will be less effective than creating a smoking cessation plan. Ask your doctor or a friend you know well for help.
   • Involving someone else in your plans will help you stick to your resolutions. It's more fun when you involve someone else, and you'll be less likely to fall back into your old ways.

Part 3 of 4: Learn to be grateful

1. Keep a gratitude journal. Being grateful for concrete elements of our lives can help us redefine our priorities and see our situation in a fresh way. A diary is a way to remember to do this on a daily basis.
   • A gratitude journal doesn't have to be lavish or complicated. Just write down one or two things every day that you are grateful for.
   • Research has shown that people who use gratitude diaries experience significant benefits regardless of other living conditions.
2. Turn something negative into something positive. If you find yourself thinking negatively about someone, a place, or a thing, turn that thought around. You cannot change your first thought, but you can consciously learn to change your second thought. Follow the negative thought with a positive observation about the same person, place, or thing.
   • For example, when you visit your mother-in-law, don't think all the time about the fact that she absolutely can't cook, remember that you can sit in her beautiful garden.
   • If you find yourself in a bad situation, try to get something good out of it. Remember, every situation has some value in it in one way or another and provides an opportunity to learn.
3. Compliment others. In any case, compliment every day, no matter how trivial. You learn gratitude by noticing what others are doing well, not what they are doing badly. In addition, others will find it more pleasant to be around you because you do not keep hammering on their mistakes.
   • Compliments should always be genuine. Learning to pay attention to what people do well is an active process.
   • People who compliment others usually become happier themselves.
   • Giving compliments in difficult circumstances can increase your self-esteem.
4. Give back to the community. Studies show a link between volunteering and higher self-esteem and physical health. Volunteers also have stronger nervous systems and more resilient immune systems.
   • There are many different ways to give back to the community. Some examples of volunteering are: working with children, helping to build a house, volunteering to run errands for someone with a disability, babysitting the children of a working parent, or working as a telephone operator for a charity organization.
   • Committing yourself to an organization that is working on a project that is important to you will give you more energy and purpose in life. This is invaluable for making a fresh start.
5. Stop gossiping. Gossiping, criticizing, or complaining about others sucks life out of you. If you can resist the temptation to say negative things about someone else, you will feel a lot better. Instead, take a moment to think about what's really bothering you.
   • First, you may notice that you are gossiping or complaining because it feels so natural. Try to notice when you start to exhibit this behavior and then try to stop it.
   • You can also set a goal for yourself. For example, make a plan not to gossip for a week. At the end of each day you make an evaluation of yourself. If you have gossiped or criticized someone, start over. Repeat this until you haven't gossiped for seven days in a row.
   • If you find yourself drawn into the gossip of a group, try broaching another topic. You can also immediately admit that you are trying not to gossip.

Part 4 of 4: Creating conditions for success

1. Limit the number of goals you set. If you have too many different goals to work on, the chances of reaching those goals will decrease. Instead, organize your goals for a healthier lifestyle by importance.
   • Start replacing behaviors that are most negatively affecting your life. For example, if your drinking is causing problems in your relationship, at home, or at work, try adjusting your drinking before working on other problems, such as lack of exercise.
   • Before making any major changes to your daily habits, consult your doctor first. They may be able to offer you suggestions, support, or other practical advice.
   • Come up with motivations and rewards to support the changes. For example, if you want to quit smoking, take the money you would otherwise spend on cigarettes and treat yourself to a new blouse, a fun outing, or dinner with a friend.
2. Imagine life the way you want to live it. If you can envision life as you would like to live it, then it becomes more likely that you will be able to achieve it. Be as specific as you can about what you want, but don't be afraid to change your vision if you find it going in a different direction.
   • Start by considering how your life may already have these qualities. What can you do to strengthen these aspects of your life?
   • If you need to make changes, prepare yourself for that. For example, if you realize that a new life requires a new career, it will likely mean spending time studying. Small steps make these changes possible.
   • Spend time every day reinforcing this vision of your new life, both metaphorically and practically. Cut out pictures of what you would like to see in your new life. Brainstorm about possibilities. This is an opportunity to be creative and ambitious.
3. Keep learning. The human brain is geared towards curiosity. If we don't provide ourselves with enough options to satisfy our curiosity, we will eventually become bored and depressed and get stuck. Research has shown that learning new things by taking lessons slows down the aging process in the brain. In other words, if we are more absorbed in new things, are more flexible and focused, then we will be able to stay that way sooner.
   • Learning does not necessarily mean obtaining an academic degree. It may also involve learning ballroom dancing, making sushi, playing a new game, or joining a knitting group.
   • Learning new things physically changes the brain, helps in the growth of new brain cells, and increases your creative flexibility.