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• Part 1 of 3: What to expect
• Part 2 of 3: Acting like a side chick
• Part 3 of 3: Understanding the implications

If you are a side chick looking to maintain a relationship with a person who is already in a committed relationship, then it is important to know what to expect. You can't expect the relationship to be more than what it is - a way for both of you to have a good time and not worry about where the relationship is going. Becoming a side chick is risky for everyone involved (and hurtful to the man's steady partner). Take some time to think about your emotions and how you would feel if the main partner found out about your existence. To be a side chick, you have to learn what to expect, what you need to be a side chick, and think about the consequences of your actions.

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Part 1 of 3: What to expect

1. Keep the situation to yourself. It's important to keep the relationship as secret as possible. Ideally, only you and your partner should know about the relationship. Your best friend may be able to find out, but try to avoid telling anyone else about your status as a side chick. Don't like your partner on social media or invite them to holiday gatherings or vacations.
   • It can be tempting to tell people about your relationship, especially when feelings come into play. Decide if you are willing to maintain a relationship that cannot be celebrated with friends and family.
2. Expect plans to change. Understand that your partner has someone else who comes first. It is likely that this man will go to great lengths to keep his life partner from finding out about you, so expect plans to change just like that. Maybe you have plans for dinner, so your lover can cancel it at the last minute if his wife was planning otherwise.
   • It won't help you vent your frustrations about canceled plans. Canceled plans are likely to be common.
3. Don't ask where the relationship is going. Your lover is apparently not going to leave his steady partner. There can be many reasons for this. For example, your lover may have built a life with his partner that is difficult to escape. Or, your lover wants a future with his partner as well as cheating for a fun and relaxing time. Avoid asking questions about where the relationship is going. You may be disappointed with the answer.
   • If you do want the relationship to have a future, stop this relationship and find someone who puts you first.
4. Focus on your time with your lover. Don't try to think about the past or the future. Focus on the present. Enjoy the time you have with your lover. If you're not together, don't think about him.
5. Don't fall in love. It is completely natural to develop feelings for someone, even though you are only their mistress. However, falling in love will likely end in heartbreak. Try to keep your feelings light, even if it seems difficult to do so. You cannot control feelings, but make an effort not to invest everything in the relationship.
   • If you fall in love, tell your lover. If they react negatively, it may be better to look for a serious relationship. You can tell him, "I think I'm starting to develop strong feelings for you. Do you feel the same? If not, how do you feel about what I just said? "

Part 2 of 3: Acting like a side chick

1. Give your lover space. Don't always be the first to text or look him up. This person probably doesn't want to have more than one partner who comes first. He already has one, and it's not you. You are the one that the man can have some fun with. Give your lover space when the two of you are not together.
   • Go out with your friends. Lots of fun. Don't try to contact him every five minutes or he might think you want more.
2. Keep things interesting. If he texts you, keep the conversation interesting. The role of a side chick is to keep it fun and exciting. By giving him short answers and remaining uninterested, he will prefer to do something else, and even do things with his steady partner. Tell funny stories. Ask how he feels. Surprise him with plans to do something.
   • Try to have a positive attitude. Escape from reality is probably a big part of why he's your lover.
3. Don't ask questions. Consider your time together as the only time your lover is your business. You shouldn't ask questions like "Where were you?" Or "Why didn't you call me?" And "Why are you always so busy?" If you expect to keep the relationship going. These are things you have nothing to do with.
   • You have put yourself in this situation, and there is no point in being jealous or surprised when you already knew which parquet you would end up in. Jealousy only makes the situation more difficult for both parties.
4. Don't expect to be able to spend a Christmas vacation with your lover. If the person cares about you enough, he or she can celebrate these events with you the day before or after, but for the most part don't expect a gift or recognition. These days are usually saved and reserved for the Lead Partner. It may be safe to text him and wish him a Happy New Year / Christmas / Birthday, but a phone call is out of the question.
   • Don't try to contact them on Valentine's Day.

Part 3 of 3: Understanding the implications

1. Be safe when it comes to sexual matters. Your lover is probably still having sex with his partner. He may be using condoms, but he may not. If you have sex with him, make sure you have safe sex. Use the safest contraceptives. Get tested immediately if you fear your health is at risk.
   • Ask your lover if they have had an STI before. This can be a sensitive topic to broach, but it is an important one. Ask if the other person has ever been tested for sexually transmitted infections. If he says no, ask if he would be willing to get tested. You can offer to have the two of you tested together.
2. Expect it to be discovered. Most cases of cheating eventually come to light. Don't be surprised if your lover suddenly ends the relationship with you, or if you are contacted with his partner. Get into the relationship knowing that it will eventually be discovered, and that it won't last forever. Decide how you will react if you are caught.
   • Don't respond disrespectfully if the lead partner contacts you. She will feel rightly hurt and betrayed, and it is not her fault that she has been cheated.
3. Realize who might be hurting you. It is very unlikely that all parties will leave the situation without being mentally damaged. You, your lover and his partner, are likely to be very hurt when the situation is revealed. Decide if you are willing to hurt yourself and other people. Understand that you are at the root of a broken relationship or family.
4. Think about the future. Is this relationship one that is not meant to last, or is it something you want to keep going for as long as possible? It is important to stay in the present while with your lover, but at some point you have to consider your future. Think about where you would like to see yourself in the next phase of your life. If it's not like a side chick then it's better to end the relationship.
   • Keep in mind that if the situation comes out, it could hurt your career (if the person is a coworker) and your relationships with friends and family.
5. Stop if you are not happy. A secretive relationship will eventually take an emotional toll on you. Don't stay in the situation if you start to feel unhappy. Your well-being comes first. Tell your lover that you are unhappy and want a change. If he can't provide a solution, don't hang around hoping it will get better.
   • What you can say to your lover is, "I am starting to feel uncomfortable in this situation, and I am not as happy as I used to be. Is there anything we can do to fix this problem, or is it better that we quit? "